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To think she should have waited her turn?

216 replies

Flaming0 · 08/06/2018 18:20

We were at the supermarket and DS (3) was playing in one of those car rides that are often found there. He loves pretending to drive the car, but is terrified of it moving and making noises, so I never put money in them (tried it once and he got scared).

DS had been sitting in the driving seat for a minute or so when an older girl (about 5) came up with a pound in her hand and pushed in front of him to turn the car on. When the car started moving, he leapt out of it and started crying. I told him to just wait a couple of minutes until the girl was done. But I thought she should have waited her turn. Even though she was going to pay for the ride, she could have waited a bit and I would have told DS to give the girl her turn. She shouldn’t have pushed her way in front of DS. There was only one seat in the car so they couldn’t have both used it anyway. Her parents were nowhere to be seen. AIBU?

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Calledyoulastnightfromglasgow · 09/06/2018 07:06

I can’t believe there is a thread about this subject!

Seriously, who gives a flying fuck about such non events?!

PlumsGalore · 09/06/2018 07:09

I'm pretty sure her parents would have been around, and they gave her the pound whilst they got the trolley from the rack nearby or got stopped by the RAC man wanting to sign them up, or chose a geranium from the plant shelves outside the door.

Marriedwithchildren5 · 09/06/2018 07:15

I think you have to admit defeat here op. There was no 'turn' I am chuckling at the idea of her stood there waiting though whilst you smile at your son enjoying his ride. Brilliant thread. Ignore those who have never had those moments of unjustified anger!

Quartz2208 · 09/06/2018 07:48

Yep you are way overreacting to a child of about 5 she was probably told to go over and see if your son wanted a ride and that was the way she did it (and as others said she could have been tall for her age) most children would be happy to share it

mountainfalls · 09/06/2018 08:35

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AdeliciousRex · 09/06/2018 08:38

I think I ❤️ Mumsnet a bit more today.

5 year old excitedly leaps on to ride = this country is going to the bloody pits

Aeroflotgirl · 09/06/2018 08:38

My ds 6 likes to sit in the rides, but like your son, does not like it, when it is in motion. However if there is a paying child, I always tell him to get out an let the child ride, as they want to have a ride on the car. Your ds could have been there for a long time.

Labradoodliedoodoo · 09/06/2018 08:44

She probably assumed that he
Would enjoy the ride together. She’s only little

pilates · 09/06/2018 08:46

YABU

FatCow2018 · 09/06/2018 09:01

Paying isn't a pre-requisite to taking a turn?! 😂oh jog on OP, you were massively unreasonable and if you really can't see that then I feel sorry for you, how stressful your life must be 😂
As a parent of older and younger children, yes I would turf DD2 out to let a paying child on, and if she cried I'd tell her she should have let me turn it on if she wanted to stay in it as that is what its for, its not for sitting in. Likewise, if my child wanted a go, and yours was just sat in it, id give you a moment to spot us and act reasonably bu removing your child, but if you just allowed it to continue I'd call you out on it.

SleepingStandingUp · 09/06/2018 09:03

Seriously, who gives a flying fuck about such non events?!
The mother of the child having crying hysterics because the bad thing moved??

He wasn't using the ride. Using the ride would be turning it on by putting the money in. He was sitting in the ride. Not using it well assuming he wasn't just sitting still and not interacting with anything, he was using it. Irrespective of the drama with the 5 yo, he was clearly using it in a way that he could.

peachgreen · 09/06/2018 09:12

Wait, so she got on it with him and turned it on? So actually she was sharing her turn with him? She wasn't to know he doesn't like it, she was essentially giving him a free turn.

LegoPiecesEverywhere · 09/06/2018 09:15

Yabu. Your son was not using it. He was sitting on it. She had money and turned it on. You said yourself that your son leapt off it when she turned it on so she didn’t push in front of him. This is such a non issue either way as she is a very small child.

JohnCenaSucks · 09/06/2018 09:17

YABU

Ahardyfool · 10/06/2018 17:40

I’ve never allowed my DC to put money in these cash wasting monstrosities so their ‘go’ has always consisted of sitting in them and using their imagination. So, as far as I’m concerned this IS pushing in. However, I would probably hurry my DC along if there were people ready and waiting to wasted their money it as per the intended purpose of such things. The child was only small so not her fault but her parents should have waited for a reasonable amount of time and asked for a turn of necessary.

moira123io · 10/06/2018 17:47

Doesn't sound like the girl did anything wrong. Sounds like she was trying to share the ride she assumed you wouldn't pay for. Bit of a pathetic discussion really, normal kiddie behaviour and clearly not with vicious intent (maybe that will become clear when your snowflake turns 5).

If you saw her with money before she apparently "pushed" into the ride, you as the adult, should have moved your kid out of the way of a paying customer. It's not a play park, it's someone's business and if that kid go sick of wating and left you've cost someone £1 profit.

Michellelovesizzy · 10/06/2018 17:55

awww no u should have let him play... they r all just kids people have to wait there go

Catchuptv · 10/06/2018 17:58

I blame the supermarkets for having these rides in the first place.

Ahardyfool · 10/06/2018 18:01

Bit dubious about the “it’s someone’s business” notion. I mean, it is, but these things are about as worthy as the selling of sweets at the supermarket check-outs. They don’t garner much sympathy from me just as the parents that choose to pay for them really.

SneakyGremlins · 10/06/2018 18:02

awww no u should have let him play... they r all just kids people have to wait there go

Which is great except sitting in a pay-to-play ride without playing is not "Having a go" so no, the girl shouldn't need to wait.

SomeKnobend · 10/06/2018 18:07

I hope they sold grips at the shop, and that you purchased one instead of standing enjoying the view of them while preventing anyone else buying one while they waited their turn.

Michellelovesizzy · 10/06/2018 18:18

sneakygrenlins....is that because she is paying ??

MissClareRemembers · 10/06/2018 18:23

SomeKnobend 😂

OP as many others have said, you have probably over estimated the social niceties of a ‘approximately’ 5 year old. I’m assuming you only one DC so far? You’re going to discover that kids can be infuriatingly impetuous and self-centred for quite a long time beyond their 5th birthday, I’m afraid!

Juells · 10/06/2018 18:24

How long is 'a go' when the machine isn't moving, though? If someone has put money in the go ends when the money runs out. If a child is sitting on it going vroom vroom vroom it can go on forever.

I can't believe this thread is six pages long 😂

Michellelovesizzy · 10/06/2018 18:26

so sneaky... u would walk up 2 someone in a supermark and say to them ur not paying 4 the ride get ur kid off so i can put mine on we r gonna pay the £1 looool dout it

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