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To think she should have waited her turn?

216 replies

Flaming0 · 08/06/2018 18:20

We were at the supermarket and DS (3) was playing in one of those car rides that are often found there. He loves pretending to drive the car, but is terrified of it moving and making noises, so I never put money in them (tried it once and he got scared).

DS had been sitting in the driving seat for a minute or so when an older girl (about 5) came up with a pound in her hand and pushed in front of him to turn the car on. When the car started moving, he leapt out of it and started crying. I told him to just wait a couple of minutes until the girl was done. But I thought she should have waited her turn. Even though she was going to pay for the ride, she could have waited a bit and I would have told DS to give the girl her turn. She shouldn’t have pushed her way in front of DS. There was only one seat in the car so they couldn’t have both used it anyway. Her parents were nowhere to be seen. AIBU?

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MissEliza · 08/06/2018 19:49

You were you going to decide that your turn was finished when you weren't actually paying?

Knittedfairies · 08/06/2018 19:51

She shouldn’t have pushed, but how long would she have to wait for your son to finish his ‘turn’?

MagnifyingGlassSearch · 08/06/2018 19:52

Seriously? An AIBU about a 5 year old??

MyKingdomForBrie · 08/06/2018 19:53

Yep I’m with the majority - he wasn’t ‘having a turn’ he was just sitting in it for free. It’s put there to make an income for the people who paid for it, not as a free amusement.

If her parents had been with her I would have expected them to be polite and tell her to wait but the world is a little more black and white when you’re five!

You should have scooped him straight out when she came up with her pound then popped him back in when she was done.

Timeisslipingaway · 08/06/2018 19:55

A) Most other children would be happy if someone came along and put a pound in the machine and they got a turn. Perhaps she thought she was being nice. At 5 she doesn't really have the mentality to think, oh they haven't put money in that machine because that child is obviously scared of it.
B) she didn't push him off so she was perfectly willing to share her turn.
C) she wasn't to know your child was scared (I know I said this already)
D) how was she supposed to know when you wpuld decide to take your child off the ride. It wasn't on so she had no indexation as to when "his turn" was up.

notacooldad · 08/06/2018 19:55

what a non event.

LavenderDoll · 08/06/2018 20:00

YABU
She was a paying customer

KarmaStar · 08/06/2018 20:02

As @wilyminx said! Is this just a wind up?where's the OP gone?

EB123 · 08/06/2018 20:02

I agree with the masses, 5 is still little and as she didnt ask for him to get off, she probably thought your ds would share the ride with her, she didn't know he would be scared.

My youngest isn't keen on these rides when they move but loves to sit in them, if a child comes along with money, i take him out.

Mookie81 · 08/06/2018 20:12

KarmaStar she's probably in the middle of typing a response about how the 5 year old made her anxious.

MumofBoysx2 · 08/06/2018 20:13

She might even have been younger than 5, just tall for her age. These things happen, children learn about turn taking and waiting but sometimes they make mistakes. Ideally her parents would have been right there to fix the situation, but YABU for getting het up about it and putting it on here, because it's a moment, it's gone, just forget about it.

MumofBoysx2 · 08/06/2018 20:14

Its a good point that EB123 made, maybe she was anxious to get the money in quickly so that they could share the ride - in that case she was being really sweet and couldn't have known he was going to leap off.

BrownTurkey · 08/06/2018 20:17

Agree, she was paying for him to have a ride, not pushing in, her parent probably sent her over to do so. Although, yes, it was not sensible to start it with a younger child in and without asking you, but she’s 5, not her fault.

mountainfalls · 08/06/2018 20:27

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Mummyoflittledragon · 08/06/2018 20:33

She’s 5. My brother and sil think my dd shouldn’t be doing this, should be acting like that just because she’s a few years older than their pfb. They started being horrid to her when she had just turned 7. Their ds is always “little” and doesn’t know any better. Yet apparently my dd should know telling him x would upset him or should know better than to do y. 5 is far closer to being a baby than a young teenager. So is 6. And 7 is still very little.

Mummyoflittledragon · 08/06/2018 20:37

I also should have said the only person, who was rude was you for hogging the thing when a paying customer came along. Dd didn’t like the rides moving when she was tiny, I always took her off them.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 08/06/2018 20:41

Can't believe you've started a thread about it OP Grin

MrsCD67 · 08/06/2018 20:49

It's not like she pulled him out- she put the money on and it started up and your DS didn't like it so he got off.
You're all for sharing so why didn't you move your DS and say that it was now the little girl's turn?
The ride wasn't on and there's no way the girl would've known how long your DS was going to be. He could've been there for another 10 mins just sitting in it!
As you knew she had money, why did you not step in and be considerate to the girl who wanted to use it properly?

twattymctwatterson · 08/06/2018 20:51

Can't believe someone has started a thread about the whether a 5 year old is a CF or not

bellanotte22 · 08/06/2018 20:55

HmmHmm

agedknees · 08/06/2018 21:31

Don’t put your son in a ride you don’t pay for.

Simples.

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Flaming0 · 08/06/2018 22:24

OK, I thought that a five-year old should understand not to push another child out of the way. There was only one space in the car, so that’s what she did. The parents should have supervised their child as well.

I would have happily paid for the ride if he hadn’t been afraid of it. I think that a child can have a turn on the car even if they don’t turn it on. I’m talking about a couple of minutes here, the length of a paid ride. Paying for the ride is an option, not a requisite of being allowed in the ride in the first place.

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Flaming0 · 08/06/2018 22:26

@twattymctwatterson you’re the one using the term CF. I just said she should have waited her turn and not push other children out of the way when they’re using a ride (similar to taking someone’s toy), something you can and should teach a five-year old!

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werideatdawn · 08/06/2018 22:27

It does annoy me when people assume a child's age and decide how they should be behaving. My five year old is often mistaken for being at least seven, add his ASD to that and I'm always having to adjust people's expectations of his behaviour and understanding.
Anyway even if she was five that's still pretty little, she was probably excited to have money for the ride and forgot her manners.
YABU and a bit dramatic.

RoseWhiteTips · 08/06/2018 22:28

Your son was not using the ride. He had not used the ride. The end.

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