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Original poster

To think she should have waited her turn?

216 replies

Flaming0 · 08/06/2018 18:20

We were at the supermarket and DS (3) was playing in one of those car rides that are often found there. He loves pretending to drive the car, but is terrified of it moving and making noises, so I never put money in them (tried it once and he got scared).

DS had been sitting in the driving seat for a minute or so when an older girl (about 5) came up with a pound in her hand and pushed in front of him to turn the car on. When the car started moving, he leapt out of it and started crying. I told him to just wait a couple of minutes until the girl was done. But I thought she should have waited her turn. Even though she was going to pay for the ride, she could have waited a bit and I would have told DS to give the girl her turn. She shouldn’t have pushed her way in front of DS. There was only one seat in the car so they couldn’t have both used it anyway. Her parents were nowhere to be seen. AIBU?

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Original poster
Flaming0 · 08/06/2018 22:30

@MrsCD67 Because she never gave me a chance to do so. I would have if I had seen her standing at the ride with money in her hand, but she just ran up and got on the ride before I could take DS off and explain it was the girl’s turn now.

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gingerpickles · 08/06/2018 22:30

My DS is the same, he will sit in the cars but hates the movement and noise.
I make him get out if another child comes along with money to use the ride.

LouiseH2017 · 08/06/2018 22:34

Another situation where the OP asks if they were unreasonable, almost a unanimous verdict that the OP was BU and the OP replies with “yes, but” to try and justify their position.,,

clownfaces · 08/06/2018 22:36

Bloody hell. She was 'about 5'. Get over it.

Original poster
Flaming0 · 08/06/2018 22:38

@LouiseH2017 it’s called a discussion Hmm

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RoseWhiteTips · 08/06/2018 22:38

Why do you keep using the word “turn”? It was not a turn because he had not used the wretched thing.

How many more times?

YABU x 100

RoseWhiteTips · 08/06/2018 22:39

There is no discussion. It’s stupidity.

LouiseH2017 · 08/06/2018 22:40

A “Discussion” aims to find out what is right, not who. The vast majority of posters considered YABU.

catherinedevalois · 08/06/2018 22:40

Paying for the ride is an option, not a requisite of being allowed in the ride in the first place.
Says who?

Lethaldrizzle · 08/06/2018 22:43

One day you'll be posting on here saying your kid wants to have a turn on some ride but some 3 year old's sitting in it doing sweet f.a.!

Spikeyball · 08/06/2018 22:44

The ride wasn't moving so she would have assumed his 'go' had finished and that he was going to get out.

zzzzz · 08/06/2018 22:45

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OptimisticHamster · 08/06/2018 22:49

I’m pretty sure the people who make the rides and the people who lease the rides want paying customers to have priority

5foot5 · 08/06/2018 22:56

Some parents don't seem to realise children older than their precious little ones are children too, looks like you're falling into that trap OP. This happens loads in soft plays and parks. I realise that if you have a toddler, a 5 year old can seem so grown up but they aren't really.

This. Absolutely this.

Paying for the ride is an option, not a requisite of being allowed in the ride in the first place.

I have no idea what the commercial arrangement is for these things. Do the people who own the ride pay rent to the supermarket and then keep the proceeds? Or do the supermarket hire the ride and keep the money? Whichever it is they obviously don't do it just out of the goodness of their heart or because they have any obligation to do so, as might be the case for a swing or a slide provided in a municipal park. Anyway, whoever pays to have it there I think the little girl with the money in her hand is more what they had in mind when they arranged for it to be there.

Notthemessiah · 08/06/2018 22:58

So basically the majority consensus here is that if you have money, you are the priority? Those without money have to give way as soon as they turn up. Even if they are three years old.

'but they aren't using it for its proper purpose - making money - so they don't count'

No wonder this selfish, greedy country is going to shit.

AnnieAnoniMouser · 08/06/2018 22:58

I think a 5 year old is old enough not to push in front of a toddler tbh. It’s no different than if a toddler was just sitting at the top of a slide, no one would say it was fine for her to push him down as he wasn’t using it properly.

She should have waited until he got off, then it’s her turn, not while another child is on it, moving or not.

CourtneyLovely · 08/06/2018 23:00

To repeat, your son wasn't having a turn, he was bogarting the ride!

Miladamermalada · 08/06/2018 23:01

But you weren't having a turn, she was.

LighthouseSouth · 08/06/2018 23:03

@CourtneyLovely - oh I haven't heard "bogart" used that way for ages! made me smile.

InspireMyHoliday · 08/06/2018 23:04

She did wait her turn. She waited until the ride was over then went on. Your child wasn't having a turn. You should have moved him.

KERALA1 · 08/06/2018 23:06

If the ride wasn't going a 5 year old probably thought it wasn't in use. Agree with everyone else

AnnieAnoniMouser · 08/06/2018 23:07

He was playing in the car.

She should have waited until he got off.

RoseWhiteTips · 08/06/2018 23:22

🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

MarthasGinYard · 08/06/2018 23:24

Blimey

MarthasGinYard · 08/06/2018 23:26

She wanted her turn and to pay for an actual go.

Not just to sit in it

Get him out

She has a turn

Simple