He wants me to leave DS belongings

[BabyPufflingMumma]

Things between me and DP have broken down, we are discussing separating and DS is 5 months old. I'm devastated but it's obvious DP doesn't want to make it work. He is saying that when I leave (I have to move as his name on the mortgage) I have to leave behind all of the toys etc that he and his family have paid for for DS, and that he will buy my half of the cot etc and that I will have to buy new. He says 'this is just how it's done and the most amicable way and is what solicitors would say is how it's done'
AIBU to think that when DS and I leave DS should have all the rockers, bouncers and furniture he needs with me? I said it's depriving DS of lots of his things that I cannot afford to buy again! Advice please! 😢

He’s talking about your sons things like they are a material optional object like a tv. He will pay half as he also has use of it. Your sons belongings are needs not a luxury, you will win in any legal argument against this. It sounds like he is being bitter, or just upset against losing his son living with him

mathananxiety

I've a lot of experience of a bad, sad and dangerous man. I ended up eight hours drive away from my home town, minimising the chances of him finding us on his release from prison. I too was brainwashed into an alternative life controlled by ex husband.
That is why I urge any woman to cut through the mire of bullshit that some men create. Clear thought is to be encouraged, sometimes a harsh word from an outsider shakes the rubbish from the mind.
You have been through the mill yourself, I would imagine it took a lot of "grown up" actions and thought to handle it.
Simply, to deal with these awful men, we have to be strong.
Thankfully there does not seem to be an element of violence in the OP case, unless I have missed a mention of it.