To wonder how many children you’d have, in an ideal world?

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I’ve just had one and I can’t decide whether I’m done, or I want 20! 😁

If you didn’t have to worry about health, money, job, the pesky practicalities... How many children would you have (/had)? Why?

I’d have 5 (all boys preferably)
Can’t really afford any more than we have which makes me sad sometimes.

I've got two, I'd have had one more in an ideal world and always said I'd have three. But I suffer from severe HG so i'd have to give up work and would also need someone who could take care of the children and house while I'm in hospital or too unwell to leave the house.

On top of that my son has ADHD which takes up a lot of time and causes lots of stress! Adding a newborn isn't going to make that easier.

We would also need a bigger house and bigger car, and enough money for me to stay off work for at least a few years like I did with the other two. Chances are I'd struggle massively to find a job like mine after all that time off (low pay but great working hours.)

Oh and I had long/ difficult labours too, one ending in an emcs. But I don't think that alone would be enough to stop me having more.

None. (And luckily that's what I have)

If I didn't have to work, 4.

I have one and like the idea of having another one soon, then waiting til they are in school and possibly doing the same again. Will probably just have one more though.

I am one of three and think 2 or 4 is better for getting along when younger. We all love eachother now though!

I’m pregnant with my fourth. Two boys, two girls.

None

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I always wanted four. And I got there (it wasn't easy!)

I have three boys and one girl. I love having a little tribe and they all get along 85% of the time.

Two.

It's not just about the money- it's about the attention they get.

one.
The end of exhaustion and all round loss of self and powerlessness as a part time worker etc is in sight and I can give my all to my lovely DD.

I have 5. I love them all and wouldn't swap them etc etc, but it's TOO HARD. I currently have 2 teen DDs through and to be fair, they probably equate to about 90% of my stress. I'd have 2. I see people with 2 and it looks so easy now.

To anyone contemplating a large family I suggest you go over to the year 13 thread in education. Stress levels are really high just now.

I wanted 2 dds. Got a dd and ds.

Very happy. Wouldn't change anything

I'd love 3 but we can only afford one. He's the best thing that ever happened to me.

I would have 8 x

1. Just feels like a nice big family but manageable for me.

I've got one and unless something changes financially, which i hope it will, thats where i'll have to stick

I would like 3 but I'm stopping at 2!

Only 1 haha I now have 3. I don't know which one I'd keep tbh they all have their lovely moments.
Dp wanted a 4th until I pointed out that as 2/3 dc have SEN issues it's not a risk I'm willing to take as only time will tell if it will end up being 3/3!

4 or 5. I don't like 3 cos I am one of 3 and always think ones left out. Potentially.

And I would like more than 2.

But I have 0 just now so who knows

In my ideal world I'd have a whole troop! Somewhere rural with loads of space and animals - and perfect pregnancies and births of course! I'd happily adopt a whole bundle too. It would be a bit like a cross between Little House on the Prairie, The Sound of Music and the Old Woman who Lived in a Shoe.

Looks like I won't be having any now though, and will not even be able to adopt, what with health and shit. It sucks :(

Ideally 5 or 6
But of course, things sometimes don't work out and money can often not stretch far so I'm not getting my hopes up! Any children would be a blessing

By 'perfect' I obviously mean without any medical difficulties or complications for myself.

5!

1. But I have two and that's all we have space, money and time for.dh and I think about a third often but it wouldn't be fair on the two we have.