I've a sneaking suspcicion that, yet again, she was being provocative and made more sense inthe whole, rather than in sound bite!
A lot of this happens, social media, twitter etc promote the soundbite, people don't read/hear the whole message, the whole context. They hear a snippet and focus on that!
If you remember she is a deliberate provocateur and then look at everything she is reported to have said through this filter, what she said at the start, then some of those soundbites make more sense:
"“I want to turn the discourse about rape upside down. We are not getting anywhere approaching it down the tunnel of history"
For example the quote "“Every time a man rolls over on his exhausted wife and insists on enjoying his conjugal rights, he is raping her,” actually ends with her saying, in her 'resigned' voice “It will never end up in a court of law.” That isn't her saying that marital rape is right, that is her saying it is fcking difficult to prosecute!
And when she talks about rape not being a “spectacularly violent crime” but a “lazy, careless and insensitive.” act, she is saying that in the context of film rape. She references Tarantino rape scenes, women held down, brutalised. She is saying that, for most women that is not how they were raped their rape was much less violent, was more mundane. Normal sex, but without consent.
She is saying that we women do not have to internalise that brutality and see ourselves as having been victims of the most violent crime ever, we don't need to be destroyed by it. By insisting that rape, which often leaves very little incontravertable phsyical evidence and often comes down to he said, she said, is a highly violent crime we are making it very difficult to succesfully prosecute.
She says that where it's hard for lawyers to prove that the perpetrators truly did not have consent then, instead of humiliating trials we should punish rape less harshly but make it easier for women to push claims through
She also suggests that these 'mundane rapists' need to be tattooed wth a visible R and given community service - so they can be seen to be punished.
And that those rapists who are violent should be punished for that violence and the rape!
Her whole message is different from the soundbites. Her whole message is one I feel should be properly considered!