I’m putting this out there. High heels.

[Undercoverbanana]

I think they are ugly and make women/girls look ridiculous. AIBU?

user They didn't have to though, they chose to wear high heels.
yeh true ..disappointing that more didn't embrace comfort

I love heels, there are certain outfits that just don't look enough without them. They are unfortunately uncomfy though so it's lucky I don't go out much anymore & get to wear them
YABU.

I do find it a little annoying from time to time when it's assumed that all truly feminine women wear love even collect high-heeled shoes (or purses).

As a little girl, I thought high heels looked fun and grown-up. As a woman, though, I've never found them appealing enough to want to sacrifice my comfort and ability to walk a fair distance at a moment's notice.

I'm one of those boring people who wear prefer practical footwear. My consolation is that when the zombie apocalypse comes, I'll be ready to run.

Gwenhwyfar, my Doc Martens are not as comfortable as trainers. I still love wearing them. Some women do not want to live their lives in trainers.

Fashions change. Here's Louis XIV in his heels (and posh frock).
All the court dandies were wearing them.

I like the look of them but can't be arsed wearing them myself. I don't like the look of people wobbling around all over the spot and unable to walk in them, I think that looks daft but each to their own.

Apparently some men have fantasies about being walked on by women in high heels? Ouch, sounds painful!

I disagree that all heels look bad. Some shoes look horrible, flat or heeled

I thinks Crocs and trainers are hideous

but I LIKE wearing heels, I can walk in them and I especially like how good they make my legs look, but I suppose that's because I'm subconsciously desperate to attract men

But of course you are ! And never forget that. Only Crocs, Birkenstock and Doc Marten are the footwear a woman who truly knows her own mind would choose (excluding those flowery patterened Doc Marten's as they are a bit girly and man pleasing) - don't you know that?

I did feel sorry for the women at the royal wedding having to totter to the church with the whole world watching them

I didn't see anyone tottering. I saw many, many, confident, elegant , beautifully dressed women. The 3 actresses from Suits in particular were stunning.

You only intrinsically feel good about wearing heels because of the ideas that society has spun you. If you had never been exposed to heels you would be able to feel fantastic about yourself without walking on your toes I bet?

Oh, I feel fantastic about myself plenty of other times, (not all the time, obviously, I'm human) it being a societal issue or not, I know that I also look good in heels.

This isn't just about heels though is it? we could make this argument about form fitting clothes, skinny jeans, wearing bras, nice hair, dresses, wearing make up...aren't all these things exactly the same? Do none of you wear/do any of these things?

Wearing heels is absolutely to do with pleasing men. You're not going to pretend they're more comfortable than trainers are you? They're popular because of what they do to the female form.

@Gwenhyfar you can only comment on your reasons for wearing/not wearing heels. You may have worn them (if you ever have, I don't know) to please a man/men. You have no idea why I wear them or don't wear them. I wear them very rarely because I'm not really a fan, but I wear them if I want to. DH doesn't give a shit.

LassWiADelicateAir Yes X 1000.

Most fashion is inherently misogynist.

Plenty of women can walk and run in heels. And I suspect that more men wear heels than you think. They tend to go for shoes that deliberately hide the heel.

YANBU

Tool of the patriarchy, nothing more

I never wear them,but YABU. People should be able to wear whatever the hell shoe they like without weirdos judging them.

I have really fussy feet. No slip ons. No completely flat shoes like ballet pumps. I spend most of my life in birkenstocks, trainers or boots. A few times a year I have reason to pull out my moderately high heels which are well anchored on with a strap. Work shoes have a 1.5 inch heel which still keeps me below the height of the average y8.

Being short, I'm still not average in a heeled pair of shoes, and tiny feet mean that it's physically impossible to wear anything more than a 3 inch heel difference.

Quite honestly, any attempt to get any kind of fancy flat in my size would merely resort in me looking like a slightly overgrown 9 year old. Not a great way to finish off a fancy outfit.

Wearing shoes that make you stagger like a drunken Bambi, or permanently contorting your feet into hammer toes and bunions isn't so cool, but not all heels fit that category and not all flats are kind on feet either.

A thing of the past for me. Don’t know how I ever walked in them. Prefer comfort now and feel sorry for women I see teetering along clutching a friend for support.

@KittenBeast bras suck.

I wear heels to please myself. I also wear flats to please myself.

It is surely problematic that women routinely are expected to wear / are pressured by societal expectations into

a) wearing clothes that are uncomfortable
b) wearing make-up that is expensive and time-consuming to apply
c) paying a fortune for beauty treatments that are often painful as well as time-consuming,
all in the interests of appearance, whereas men are not** .

And it's not good enough to say 'Well just don't do it then' as there are financial penalties in many workplaces for transgressing these norms in terms of being considered not serious enough about your job, or not 'professional' enough and therefore not getting promoted.

And there are social penalties of ALL kinds, from the horrible comments in magazines or on social media about fat rolls or sagging or lumps and bumps where a woman hasn't worn control underwear, to the brutal world of heterosexual online dating where women choosing to wear comfortable clothes and flat shoes can often be shunned for not being glamorous enough due to the industry standard of beauty that has been created by the patriarchy.

Aside from aaaaaall the above...

I think high heels on a woman who can walk in them with ease look wonderful! Any shoes that limit / slow down movement or look as though they are causing pain to the wearer give a very unstylish, non-chic look. No matter how lovely the actual shoes are.

I used to be an enthusiastic heels wearer. I now have two large bunions which scream at me if I wear anything that puts weight on the ball of my foot. Obviously that changed my view. Now I look at girls tottering along on their heels and just feel sympathy for their poor feet.

However, these items don't limit a person's ability to walk and cause permanent damage This wasn't your original argument, though @Glazedover You can't make wearing heels about misogyny and the ideas that society has spun whilst you probably shave your legs and wear a bra.

"You can't make wearing heels about misogyny and the ideas that society has spun whilst you probably shave your legs and wear a bra.". Why not?