WIBU to lose my shit with her?

[FairfaxAikman]

I take part in a team sport (not going to say what as it's rather niche and therefore outing).
Every year my club runs a competition and I am one of a core of six members who always helps set up and does the donkey work across the whole weekend (emptying bins, picking up litter, ensuring toilets are clean, fetching and carrying etc)

This year I asked to do specific tasks that I know are less strenuous as I will have 12-week-old DS with me and because I had an emergency section which hasn't healed brilliantly (really hoping I would be encouraged to take a back seat this year).

The woman who runs the club has pointed out all that I am expected to do in addition to competing myself (which would be fine in a normal year) and is pushing me to leave DS with DH for the entire weekend. I pointed out I am BF and the response was "can't you express some" - erm, not enough for two days, no.
She now wants me to bring DH to look after DS. He doesn't normally come to any competition with me.

She was difficult in my pregnancy too - resisting a minor alteration to my technique which allowed me to compete safely until I put my foot down - and has a history of "humorous" digs at me, which I generally ignore but have led to DH trying to persuade me to move teams in the past.

WIBU to tell her to fuck off, I'm not leaving DS nor am I running ragged this year?

Please stop this OP. You need rest and time with your family.

If this is your first baby then I completely understand that you want to carry on with life as before but that isn’t possible. You need to prioritise family life. That means getting well and also taking maternity leave.

I also agree with everyone about the aggressive stuff - don’t battle her, etc, just calmly say you won’t do it. And politely continue saying ‘it doesn’t suit my family right now’ on loop until she stops.

This sport sounds like me in bed 😂 😴

@Juells - I think people have interpreted you saying “I have never understood why people have elective sections ” as meaning you think it is sad - or a shame - when people have an elective section.

Here's me guessing every sport. Arrr.

Hope recovery goes ok op. Don't do anything to help set up ect. Your team members must surely understand. The leader is not behaving at all like a leader. She needs to look after you and delegate these tasks.

@Juells - I assume here you don't understand what an elective section actually is

OP please don't tell me it's polo! Don't do anything physical if you're just weeks post birth /section