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Matching names with half siblings!

111 replies

BillieElectric · 30/05/2018 21:12

I am pregnant with my first child with OH. However OH has 2 sons and a daughter with his ex wife. All three children’s names start with the same letter.
Since we have been discussing names OH has made it quite clear that he thinks we should keep this theme. However I see it as something that he and his ex wife did. He on the other hand thinks:
A) the baby will feel left out when it grows up and it will separate it as a half sibling.
B) his other children will view the baby as the start of a new separate family as it won’t have the same initials as them.
AIBU in wanting to give my baby a name that doesn’t start with the same letter or should I be trying to think of names with that letter?

OP posts:
ThroughThickAndThin01 · 30/05/2018 21:13

Different letter.

RedHelenB · 30/05/2018 21:15

Choose a name you like and not the letter it starts with.

NewYearNewMe18 · 30/05/2018 21:15

Different letter.

AllyMcBeagle · 30/05/2018 21:15

I suppose the Kendalls/Jenners did it...

I'd just pick whatever name you like tbh. I can't say I'm a fan of themed names.

Flaminglingos · 30/05/2018 21:17

the first name should start with a different letter but the middle name could begin with the same letter.

HerRoyalNotness · 30/05/2018 21:17

Different for sure. Whether he likes it or not, this new baby forms part of a new family.

ReservoirDogs · 30/05/2018 21:17

Always thought it was a twatty thing to do. Let the ex be the twat! Chose your own name you like. If happens to start with that letter so be it. If not tough!

Twopointsforhonesty · 30/05/2018 21:18

Tell him your Ex had a personalised haiku about you tattooed into his face. Only fair, since you’re adopting historical customs, that he does the same.

Congratulations on your baby. Name it whatever you want.

BackforGood · 30/05/2018 21:19

Different.
You actually are a new family unit.

LegallyBrunet · 30/05/2018 21:20

I’d just pick a name you like and not bother with the letter. Your baby won’t feel left out-they’ll still have the surname- and I think themed names can be a bit naff; the Kardashians/Jenners spring to mind.

PickwickThePlockingDodo · 30/05/2018 21:20

Definitely a different letter otherwise it's just weird. It's like his ex is having a say in your baby's name.

DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 30/05/2018 21:21

Go with what you want, your opinion matters!

If you want to wind him up a bit though, do the names have a sound at the start that could be replicated with another letter though? If he already has James, Jonathan and Jessica say, could you suggest George or Genevieve? He gets the sound satisfaction, you get to have a different letter.

Pressuredrip · 30/05/2018 21:22

Different definitely. Same letter is really naff. More than 3 with the same letter is just ridiculous.

Pressuredrip · 30/05/2018 21:22

I bet his ex would be really pissed off if you did it too. How about asking her? Wink

timeisnotaline · 30/05/2018 21:23

Wow. That is a weird thing to insist on with a new wife. Different wife, different dc name and how bloody dare you suggest I should fit in with how you and ex name children.

userabcname · 30/05/2018 21:24

No way, that would be weird imo. Very Kardashian-esque!

AmazingPostVoices · 30/05/2018 21:24

A) the baby will feel left out when it grows up and it will separate it as a half sibling.

But the baby is a half sibling. It will grow up knowing his or her siblings have a different Mum and live in a different house.

It’s not like the child won’t notice!

I’d choose a different letter but I also think that he should have raised this prior to you getting pregnant not after.

You aren’t Mr Electric’s wife 2.0 you are your own person with your own opinions.

SandyY2K · 30/05/2018 21:24

YANBU.

Another thought regarding names ....as you aren't married...you dont want to be the only one with a different surname. Your OH, his kids and his Ex will all have the same surname...so I'd be giving the baby your surname.

TheCriminalMind · 30/05/2018 21:24

I’d do a different letter.

SandyY2K · 30/05/2018 21:25

I bet his ex would be really pissed off if you did it too. How about asking her?

You're joking right?

R2G · 30/05/2018 21:26

I think the same but mostly think whatever you like is best

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 30/05/2018 21:26

All siblings with same initial is so cringey! Never mind the confusion when the post arrives!

AnneLovesGilbert · 30/05/2018 21:28

Good point from sandy. He’s being extremely weird about this.

Your baby isn’t continuing the family he made with his ex. It’s yours and his baby and your new family.

R2G · 30/05/2018 21:29

By the way with the Kardashian thing they all have the same mother and grew up in the same house so that's a bit different and I don't think your baby will feel left out. It's a nice link as you can make your story... we called you x ... as your dad wanted this for you as he loves you all the same. Sweet story I think x

WallisFrizz · 30/05/2018 21:29

Look it could be worse, my father failed to mention to my mum that he already had a daughter with the same name as me. Therefore, he now has 2 dc with the exact same name Hmm.