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All men fancy younger women

477 replies

Violetshift · 28/05/2018 22:39

I think I am insanely jealous. So don’t know whether I am BU?

My partner has started tutoring a 19 year old. He is a teacher but she is resisting as she wants a grade 9.

He hasn’t said much about her. I showed him a Facebook picture of her as I know of her. He said she is prettier than that in real life.
Now he thinks this is subjective and nothing untoward. Like he thinks our daughter is pretty.

AIBU and just a jealous hag?

OP posts:
Blaablaablaa · 29/05/2018 15:01

@boiler either explanation of your ridiculous comment is incorrect. As someone who apparently holds a PhD you're really pushing the sweeping generalisations.....and you're not too keen on debating your point and get upset when people disagree. I do have to question how you survived your viva

boilerhouse2007 · 29/05/2018 15:05

Oh and my biggest mistake here was revealing I was a man. Funny how nobody called me a dangerous criminal to society when they assumed I was a female and just spouting out common sense principles that research has proven about how women[YES WOMEN] in their 20s were usually the most desirable and what other female posters even agreed with themselves ... Smell of misandry here hey??

Are you posters really that insecure with yourselves you have to attack a man for saying that? Really grow up.

LoxieRose · 29/05/2018 15:06

LoxieRose you sound like a bitter unattractive female who is old and is bitter than men don't find you attractive and look at younger attractive women...sad very sad

Sound like? Well I'm not any of those things. You're think as pig shite as evidenced on this thread.

RoseWhiteTips · 29/05/2018 15:06

Blah blah blah, hey!?
Impressive.

RoseWhiteTips · 29/05/2018 15:07

You need to work on your punctuation, too.

RoseWhiteTips · 29/05/2018 15:09

“Yea”? Oh! You mean “yeah”.
There, that’s better.🤣

boilerhouse2007 · 29/05/2018 15:13

''and you're not too keen on debating your point and get upset when people disagree.''

No i am upset when ppl hurl offensive accusations at me, I am more than keen to debate in an adult fashion when ppl are adult to me. Love how ppl say nothing to the offensive posts that were 1st hurled against me first- fine if you disagree with my points but to suggests somebody is sinister for debating on younger women in their 20s being the most attractive to men is ludicrous and offensive.

CakeWars · 29/05/2018 15:13

@boiler

I’m one of the women who agreed with some of what you said, but I’m probably the only one who actually (maybe) broke talk guidelines by saying you were behaving like a.... won’t repeat it.

So I think you’re a little off here;

Are you posters really that insecure with yourselves you have to attack a man for saying that?

Blaablaablaa · 29/05/2018 15:13

I think it's blindingly obvious who the insecure poster is.

Many,many posters have said the behaviour you describe is wrong regardless of sex.

But as you are pains to point out it's apparently only men that behave like this .....you're contradicting yourself now.

Blaablaablaa · 29/05/2018 15:17

If you don't like the insults maybe you should lay of them too?

My objection was the idea that all men are hornier, have different morals and are beholden to some pimative urge....it felt a bit too close to making excuses for my liking and was in no way representative of the men I know.

Dungeondragon15 · 29/05/2018 15:21

My objection was the fact that you seem to think you know what/how all mean think AND how all women think because of something you have read somewhere.

boilerhouse2007 · 29/05/2018 15:21

''Many,many posters have said the behaviour you describe is wrong regardless of sex. ''

no they haven't... I described how men and women are wired differently and have different approaches and instincts to sex[I'm baffled that posters thought there was]. There was nothing sinister in saying it. By all means go on google and you will find much data that proves that big differences do lie between males and females in that department. Men are more likely to cheat, men are more likely to dump a partner for a younger woman, men are more likely to be attracted to a woman because of her beauty, men have higher sex drives due to testosterone, women who are younger will get more work in Hollywood-even Anne Hathway said that at 32 she was losing work to younger actresses, Maggie Glyenhall said that at 37 she was seen as too old to be the love interest as Hollywood wanted younger in their 20s females as these females statistically sell better.... If you go research you will find it's pretty factual and stop shooting the messenger.

boilerhouse2007 · 29/05/2018 15:24

''If you don't like the insults maybe you should lay of them too?''

1st insults made by 2 women on here were at me-previous to that i had made none so maybe you want to rebuke the 2 pps that did this.

Blaablaablaa · 29/05/2018 15:25

'More likely' doesn't equate to all....and you're suggesting the differences are all down to biology when societal pressures and influences also have a significant impact.

I also don't rely on Google for my academic research....it's notoriously unreliable.

boilerhouse2007 · 29/05/2018 15:26

''I’m one of the women who agreed with some of what you said, but I’m probably the only one who actually (maybe) broke talk guidelines by saying you were behaving like a.... won’t repeat it.''

i have no issue with being called a cunt, it is wuth the other 2 pps and what they said I found most inappropriate,offensive and it was uncalled for.

GorgonLondon · 29/05/2018 15:27

boilerhouse2007
Oh and my biggest mistake here was revealing I was a man.

If only!

boilerhouse2007 · 29/05/2018 15:27

'''More likely' doesn't equate to all.''

Did i ever say all?? I'm talking about generally- difference between that and all.

boilerhouse2007 · 29/05/2018 15:29

GorgonLondon Really i think you should just move on now-don't appreciate with what you called me so I see no further progress in our chats. Goodluck.

GorgonLondon · 29/05/2018 15:29

Incidentally anyone who wants to read the thread back can see that I and several others called out boiler 's lies about their qualifications long before realising it was a man posting. I was too pissed tired to realise last night, though it should have been obvious really.

RebelRogue · 29/05/2018 15:32

Men are more likely to cheat, men are more likely to dump a partner for a younger woman, men are more likely to be attracted to a woman because of her beauty, men have higher sex drives due to testosterone, women who are younger will get more work in Hollywood-even Anne Hathway said that at 32 she was losing work to younger actresses, Maggie Glyenhall said that at 37 she was seen as too old to be the love interest as Hollywood wanted younger in their 20s females as these females statistically sell better...

Once again that is patriarchy and misogyny. Men(as a class) do those things because they can,because they are told all their lives they can. It's not a fucking prehistoric urge.Hmm

GorgonLondon · 29/05/2018 15:34

Love how ppl say nothing to the offensive posts that were 1st hurled against me first- fine if you disagree with my points but to suggests somebody is sinister for debating on younger women in their 20s being the most attractive to men is ludicrous and offensive.

Love the staggering naivete in thinking that anyone would believe this was written by a school teacher with a doctorate! It's almost endearing. I said almost.

JamieVardysHavingAParty · 29/05/2018 15:35

Boilerhouse, I have been reading this thread since page 1, and I have known since you started posting that you were a man.

It was not a big reveal, mate. It was just as obvious as some other things are.

boilerhouse2007 · 29/05/2018 15:35

''Incidentally anyone who wants to read the thread back can see that I and several others called out boiler 's lies about their qualifications long before realising it was a man posting.''

ok then i am a liar-never taught before, have no education and i am really a SAHM who made this all up. I really work in Tesco part time. You caught me, sorry for trying to lead all you posters up the garden path with my lies. xx You won Gorgon xx Ha ha i nearly had you all fooled but Gorgon caught me out.

Blaablaablaa · 29/05/2018 15:35

When saying 'men are' you are suggesting you mean all. If you don't mean all then you need to make that clear.....which you haven't.

Dungeondragon15 · 29/05/2018 15:37

Did i ever say all?? I'm talking about generally- difference between that and all.

Generally means "usually" or "most". I don't think there is any evidence that most men are hornier or have different morals than most women or whatever else you claim. Studies may have shown slight differences on average but there is a huge overlap.