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My NDN and Parking

288 replies

MrsDylanBlue · 28/05/2018 21:58

My NDN moved in a few months ago, I have seen them in the street and almost forced them to say hello - fine whatever I respect the fact they may want to keep themselves to themselves.

We have no ORP and it is an issue in our road and we get people from neighbouring streets also parking here.

NDN have a very tiny driveway which they sometimes park one of their three cars on (I have a small car and DH has a car but is only here on weekends).

When the NDN drive is empty (it’s a drop curb with no gate) we have always parked over it as sometimes there is just nowhere else to park.

Outside our houses (they are semi detached) there is enough space for two cars on the road, quite often they have taken to not leaving me enough room to fit my car on (and not block my elderly neighbours in the other side) and then moved forward when someone else has arrived home so monopolising all the off road parking directly outside the houses.

Last weekend DH parked slightly over their drive and they left a shitty note on his car. He went round and spoke to the lady and said just knock don’t leave a note and please could you just leave my wife enough space to park in the week, after all we have one car you have three.

This weekend they have taken up all the parking directly outside the houses meaning I have had to trek up and down the road with my weeks shopping and when we went Kayacking it was not greatly convinuent carrying them down the road to put on the roof of the car.

Do I go round again and appeal to their better nature or do I start parking my car in the middle of the two spaces to make a point - starting a potential war which I will probably lose as I have less cars than them Grin

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Flucker · 29/05/2018 13:30

Haha! I've got CF neighbours across the road who think it's fine to just park on the very end of my drive, where the kerb drops. It's single yellow lines there too. CF across the road has left her not very small car right on the end of my drive for two days now, making it very difficult for us to manoeuvre on and off, but not impossible. She came out just as I was coming home today and she stood there and watched it take three attempts to get on the drive without hitting her car. She got in and drove off - guess where my car is parked now??

There just comes a point where you are sick to death of cheeky fuckery - sorry but I am with your neighbour on this one

wink1970 · 29/05/2018 14:30

OP your neighbours are doing this deliberately .... and I think we can all guess why. Your earlier entitled behaviour has wound them up and they are probably now enjoying frustrating you. You reap what you sow.....

skoda62 · 29/05/2018 19:13

Is your small car big enough to fit all kids in? If so it can't be a small car - it would need to be a 7 seater min and they aren't small.

You can't assume all are being transported the same time?? Just cos she has six, don't mean all six go everywhere the same time??

MrsDylanBlue · 29/05/2018 19:34

Why would I be the one to have the large car - why not my DH?

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MrsDylanBlue · 29/05/2018 19:42

You said.

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MrsDylanBlue · 29/05/2018 19:50

You're massively entitled and being a twat and have passed them off and I don't blame them one bit

Slight (offensive) over reaction here.

My husband parked slightly over their driveway once and went round and apologised and everyone was fine.

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MrsDylanBlue · 29/05/2018 19:53

I think unless you have lived somewhere where there is restricted or limited parking it’s difficult to understand how stressful it is, esp if you need to park outside sometimes (I could have done with washing my car this weekend) - and not everyone can afford to move!!

In the evening I hate taking the car out for fear of having to park two streets away.

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BrilliantDarling · 29/05/2018 20:22

It amuses me how precious some people are about parking. In my mums road people put their wheelie bins out in the road to save 'their' parking space(s).

One of her neighbours have a caravan on the road on blocks which has never moved once in over 5 years they also have a drive but rarely use it, they have multiple cars and also a work van.
I have seen cones and barriers out on the road to save spaces,also people running out the house to ask how long you'll be parked outside for even though its public road!
One woman must literally watch out for cars as the second someone pulls up she is in the window glaring!

bearbehind · 29/05/2018 20:24

So basically you've always blocked someone else's drive and parked across their dropped kerb and now the new residents have pullled you up on it you're unhappy.

They have every right to park all their cars close to their house.

Why is any one of their car drivers more important than you?

Why should they have to walk further than you should?

MrsDylanBlue · 29/05/2018 20:24

I have a friend who used to stand in the space while her husband went to the shop Grin

Not in my road btw.

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SharronNeedles · 29/05/2018 20:26

I get why it's irritating OP. It's such an easy fix (from your POV) so why not?!
Also, you can just bloody do with having your car close sometimes!
However, you bought a house without off street parking so ultimately there is nothing you can do to change that. If they aren't going to cooperate (which they absolutely do not have to do!) then there is nothing you can do.
I understand why you're annoyed though, just a shame!

MrsDylanBlue · 29/05/2018 20:27

It’s not about being more important it’s to do with being neighbourly.

If it’s a choice between a space across/down the road and parking directly outside their house I leave the space outside their house free.

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bawbles · 29/05/2018 20:37

OP you are BVU.

And expecting someone to come round and knock? Why should they? I don’t want to have to go knocking on doors because some CF is blocking my access. They shouldn’t be there in the first place never mind imposing conditions on how it should be addressed according to your code of conduct (which admittedly is very flawed)

Plumsofwrath · 29/05/2018 20:40

It is not your NDN’s decision to leave a space outside your house for you. They could very well do that for someone else to take it. What about this do you not understand?

If your road doesn’t have enough space for you, move to a different road. If you can’t afford it - that’s a shame for you. But it’s not your NDN’s fault!

bearbehind · 29/05/2018 20:41

If it’s a choice between a space across/down the road and parking directly outside their house I leave the space outside their house free.

And park across their drive 😂

Pammie70 · 29/05/2018 20:42

While I understand how frustrating it is unfortunately there is nothing you can do expect pay to get a drive and dropped kerb yourself. I am in a similar situation where I am one of the few houses in my road without a drive so everyone's visitors park outside my house (and leave their cars for days when they have had a drink), NDN has three cars with one parked on the drive and he objects if I park across the end to unload my shopping even though he has no dropped kerb. Sadly I recently got quotes and it will cost me £3K for the drive and another £1k for the kerb so it looks like I will have to suck it up for the foreseeable future.

MrsDylanBlue · 29/05/2018 20:47

There is no room for us to have a drive.

It’s a tiny path, a low wall and then the pavement.

It’s fun when we go camping and can’t park and need to load the car not.

People have also parked their cars here for weeks while going away on holiday with various neighbours.

One guy left a transit van outside our house for 6 weeks once, blocked out all our light.

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Blaablaablaa · 29/05/2018 20:52

I've not read the full thread but you are so out of line.
I imagine the drive was a huge selling point of the house ( especially if parking is a bad as you say) if I were you're neighbours I would be mightily pissed off if I'd bought a house with a drive I couldn't use because of my neighbours sense of entitlement.

If you want to be able to park outside your house buy one with a drive. Simple

MrsDylanBlue · 29/05/2018 20:54

They haven’t bought the house.

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Blaablaablaa · 29/05/2018 20:56

Okay - when choosing to rent the house I imagine the drive was a huge selling point.

You still don't have any right to block access or have any right to park outside your house. And I say that as someone who only has on road parking on a very busy street in a tourist location. Suck it up or move

starzig · 29/05/2018 20:58

Not back to 'haven't bought' are we? It is also more expensive to rent a property with a drive than without.

Allthebestnamesareused · 29/05/2018 20:59

It is a public road. If they decided to leave a space for you any other bugger could come and use it anyway!

When you buy a house with no offroad parking you are always having to take a chance that there may not be a space either outside your house, near your house or even in your street. It is not your neighbours' responsibility to save spaces for you.

Get over yourself!