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My NDN and Parking

288 replies

MrsDylanBlue · 28/05/2018 21:58

My NDN moved in a few months ago, I have seen them in the street and almost forced them to say hello - fine whatever I respect the fact they may want to keep themselves to themselves.

We have no ORP and it is an issue in our road and we get people from neighbouring streets also parking here.

NDN have a very tiny driveway which they sometimes park one of their three cars on (I have a small car and DH has a car but is only here on weekends).

When the NDN drive is empty (it’s a drop curb with no gate) we have always parked over it as sometimes there is just nowhere else to park.

Outside our houses (they are semi detached) there is enough space for two cars on the road, quite often they have taken to not leaving me enough room to fit my car on (and not block my elderly neighbours in the other side) and then moved forward when someone else has arrived home so monopolising all the off road parking directly outside the houses.

Last weekend DH parked slightly over their drive and they left a shitty note on his car. He went round and spoke to the lady and said just knock don’t leave a note and please could you just leave my wife enough space to park in the week, after all we have one car you have three.

This weekend they have taken up all the parking directly outside the houses meaning I have had to trek up and down the road with my weeks shopping and when we went Kayacking it was not greatly convinuent carrying them down the road to put on the roof of the car.

Do I go round again and appeal to their better nature or do I start parking my car in the middle of the two spaces to make a point - starting a potential war which I will probably lose as I have less cars than them Grin

OP posts:
GaryBaldyBiscuit · 29/05/2018 08:14

I actually think the op has a point. Why can’t the neighbours park over their own drive if they don’t use it?

Kardashianlove · 29/05/2018 08:15

Do you think parking over their dropped curb for 2 Months might have really pissed them off?
Do you honestly think it was ok to do this without speaking to them first?

ObiJuanKenobi · 29/05/2018 08:15

You have a 'small' car and 6 kids?

crispysausagerolls · 29/05/2018 08:47

THEY CAN'T LEAVE YOU A SPACE BECAUSE THEY DO NOT OWN THE SPACES ON THE ROAD FFS IT IS NOT "THEIRS" TO LEAVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

They could park over their own drive though if they aren't using it, yes.

LoislovesStewie · 29/05/2018 08:47

I can't be bothered to say anything because despite all of the good advice you seem to be intent on ignoring it.

Alevel · 29/05/2018 09:10

This thread is hilarious. OP they could be nice and leave a space outside their house but then they may have to walk a long way to their house. Just because you have chosen to have 6 kids doesn’t mean other people should help you out by making your life easier. Next time you should buy a house with a drive.

Alevel · 29/05/2018 09:11

What are you going to do when your 6 dc want a car?

skoda62 · 29/05/2018 09:20

However, as my post at 08 16 today, park on their drive?

Yes, parking can be difficult wherever you are. And lead to neighborly confrontations as seen on those parking/road wars programs. Can see the only way round this is for you and DH to politely discus this issue. Both parties try to understand each others situation, and come to some sort of agreement as to social parking?

PlateOfBiscuits · 29/05/2018 09:22

We just would like to be able to park where we have always parked - outside our house.

Yes that would be nice. But it’s not a right and you can’t enforce it with your new neighbours.

Park there when it’s free and park elsewhere when it’s not.

Move on with your life.

RestingBitchFaced · 29/05/2018 09:29

YABU!!

OakIsBetterTho · 29/05/2018 09:33

OP, you are being ridiculously unreasonable and dense with it, but thank you for being so entertaining in your inability to grasp such simple concepts in parking Grin to be honest, I am very grateful we don't have to worry about on road parking and it must be exasperating at times, but you can't just make up new rules to suit you and your family at the expense of your neighbours.

Stefoscope · 29/05/2018 09:51

Would a compromise be to ask nicely whether they mind you parking over their drop for a few minutes to unload kids/shopping then move the car elsewhere?

Rufustheyawningreindeer · 29/05/2018 09:52

It would be nice if the NDN would leave a space

I do sympathise a bit with the situation

We had a drive in our old house for one car as did the neighbour and one space in front of the house, we had teo cars and they had three. And they would always park one of them in front of our house

Nothing we could do about it. But it pissed dh off so much that he paid for a dropped kerb and gravelled the garden (dh told me yesterday about some of the less neighbourly things NDN did, he didnt tell me at the time Grin

BetterEatCheese · 29/05/2018 09:57

I don't understand how they could leave you a space - surely if they leave a space anyone could park in it as it isn't reserved for you?

Rufustheyawningreindeer · 29/05/2018 10:01

Well yes better

That is the flaw in the plan Grin

SimonBridges · 29/05/2018 10:02

I used to get massively pissed off with a woman who lived in the next road who would park in our road so badly that she would take up two spaces. The irony was that she was a driving instructor!

Anyway. I do now kind of see your point. If they aren’t going to park on then they could at least park across it and leave the one space their car is taking.

JacquesHammer · 29/05/2018 10:04

The space outside your house is NOT yours.

WhatchaMaCalllit · 29/05/2018 10:07

I can't believe that we're nearly 200 posts in and the OP hasn't been asked for a diagram...

Poor show other MNetters!

OP - any chance of a diagram to illustrate what your predicament is please?

Yukbuck · 29/05/2018 10:17

With all due respect... if you want to park outside your house the buy a house with a driveway. Stop being so fucking entitled. And I never swear.
I've lived in a city for years now. Parking is a nightmare. But you just get used to it. Unfortunately houses years ago weren't built with the idea that households may have more than one car. So eventually cars get pushed to park on other streets and so on. Oh and permits won't solve your problem. Trust me.
If you want a space outside your house the the only way to guarantee that is driveway or disabled spot. Stop moaning about your neighbours who are doing nothing wrong.

rjay123 · 29/05/2018 11:14

Why don’t they park outside the front of their house?

YouDancin · 29/05/2018 11:15

@MrsDylanBlue I get where you are coming from. I really think people need to RTFT and also think they probably haven't lived on a street with restricted parking.
Seriously - if they have a drive yet continue to park on the street taking up more spaces than they need they can't then reasonably expect to have their driveway left free. Especially as you're not blocking them in or being at all unreasonable with one car.

Hygge · 29/05/2018 11:27

OP I do get what you're saying.

There's room for two cars to park, but instead of parking in one space and leaving the other one free for whoever comes along next (you, anybody else on the street), they're parking in the middle to save the second space until someone from thier house wants it.

Even if that means you've come home in the meantime and have to park miles away.

And they can do this because there's three of them with cars at their house and in the week it's just you at your house.

I can see why it's annoying you but there's nothing that you can do. You can't block their drive, you have asked them to leave enough space for you, but you can't make them do it.

It does sound like they are parking selfishly to 'save the space' for another of their cars, but they can do it. It's the equivilent of saving the last empty chair with their bag until someone who's not even in the building arrives, while you stand at the back feeling annoyed you can't sit down.

Perhaps take your other neighbour up on the offer of slightly blocking their drive for as long as it takes you to unload shopping, and then move your car. It's not ideal but it might help a bit.

Spartasprout · 29/05/2018 12:05

Is your small car big enough to fit all kids in? If so it can't be a small car - it would need to be a 7 seater min and they aren't small.

SimonBridges · 29/05/2018 13:02

Why don’t they park outside the front of their house?

Because the op has parked there across their drive.