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My NDN and Parking

288 replies

MrsDylanBlue · 28/05/2018 21:58

My NDN moved in a few months ago, I have seen them in the street and almost forced them to say hello - fine whatever I respect the fact they may want to keep themselves to themselves.

We have no ORP and it is an issue in our road and we get people from neighbouring streets also parking here.

NDN have a very tiny driveway which they sometimes park one of their three cars on (I have a small car and DH has a car but is only here on weekends).

When the NDN drive is empty (it’s a drop curb with no gate) we have always parked over it as sometimes there is just nowhere else to park.

Outside our houses (they are semi detached) there is enough space for two cars on the road, quite often they have taken to not leaving me enough room to fit my car on (and not block my elderly neighbours in the other side) and then moved forward when someone else has arrived home so monopolising all the off road parking directly outside the houses.

Last weekend DH parked slightly over their drive and they left a shitty note on his car. He went round and spoke to the lady and said just knock don’t leave a note and please could you just leave my wife enough space to park in the week, after all we have one car you have three.

This weekend they have taken up all the parking directly outside the houses meaning I have had to trek up and down the road with my weeks shopping and when we went Kayacking it was not greatly convinuent carrying them down the road to put on the roof of the car.

Do I go round again and appeal to their better nature or do I start parking my car in the middle of the two spaces to make a point - starting a potential war which I will probably lose as I have less cars than them Grin

OP posts:
PiggyPoos · 30/05/2018 21:44

I get the whole point that they have every right to park on the road where they please.

However, I think it's really unneighbourly of them to deliberately take up 2 spaces outside the houses, wait until another one comes home and then manoeuvre around so that they have monopolised all the spaces around the houses.

If they so happened to be the first three cars and parked in the available space then fine, but it's the deliberate place saving that whilst perfectly legal I just think is a bit mean.

Three cars is a lot for one house and it would be kind of them when they can see that they have a neighbor lugging shopping down the road and flipping kayaks to park one of the three a bit further away.

You can't do anything but I understand why you find this really annoying.

skoda62 · 31/05/2018 07:21

I haven’t misread a thing; the OP wants the road outside her house to be kept clear so she can park there, but public roads don’t work like that I’m afraid smile

No, I don't agree with that. The OP was explaining how NDN was not taking into consideration that other people also have to try and park. Got a similar problem where I am. I have a company car as well as my own and wife's. So leave my car in my garage, wife parks outside house, and I leave the company car alongside a cafe a few doors away. One of my NDN has a drive, the other doesn't. So I don't park outside his house, leaving space for his car. Something the OP's NDN could do?

Rufustheyawningreindeer · 31/05/2018 10:04

ed

No

The OP wants the neighbours not to park there...as has happened in the past

Grin i mean its almost the same but different

EdPsy · 31/05/2018 10:46

It doesn't matter who parks there - it could be the neighbours, it could be someone visiting the neighbours, or it could be the guy from number 42 three streets away. The OP has no right to ask anyone to "leave us a small space free outside the house" - it is a public road and that's not how it works. It's first come, first served. OP doesn't have a claim on the road outside her house. If you do want to claim a parking spot outside your house, then buy/rent a house with a drive Smile

PiggyPoos · 31/05/2018 13:53

There's what you have the right to do and just being a bit neighbourly considerate and kind.

You don't need three cars right at your house.

They have every right to do what they are doing but I think it's inconsiderate.

skoda62 · 31/05/2018 18:14

*There's what you have the right to do and just being a bit neighbourly considerate and kind.

You don't need three cars right at your house.

They have every right to do what they are doing but I think it's inconsiderate*

Very well said. Yes, its obvious we don't own any of the public road. Its not about that. All she was asking her NDN if they could park leaving her space to park her car. Nothing wrong in that. Its all about having respect for each other, being neighborly. Not I'll do what I like and f### you. That's why out of my three cars, only one outside my house. Just most of my neighbors do.......

MrsDylanBlue · 08/06/2018 19:11

I’ll just leave this here Smile

metro.co.uk/2018/06/06/anyone-can-park-drive-nothing-can-7610683/amp/

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1981m · 08/06/2018 19:18

Can't you ask them to park 1/2 cars on their own drive? Why don't they use it and park outside? I can see why that's really annoying.

donquixotedelamancha · 08/06/2018 19:25

I’ll just leave this here

Christ on a bike, OP. 8 days since the last post, hundreds of messages saying YABU and you still can't leave it. You are like a dog with a bone.

skoda62 · 09/06/2018 20:35

Christ on a bike, OP. 8 days since the last post, hundreds of messages saying YABU and you still can't leave it. You are like a dog with a bone

260 messages in fact. Not hundreds!. And I for one support what she's on about. Like I posted earlier, its about neighborliness and consideration for others. She's every right asking for some consideration. No law against that. Or is there, as some here think there is? Perhaps all those against should watch neighbors from hell. If we all were to respect each other, no matter where or how we live, then we could all live in peace with each other... Sad

donquixotedelamancha · 09/06/2018 21:29

260 messages in fact. Not hundreds!

:-)

MadMags · 09/06/2018 21:36

What do you think hundreds means, Skoda?

SharronNeedles · 09/06/2018 21:53

Never say this on here but....lol!!
Hundreds...as in more than one hundred...

chinesechicken · 09/06/2018 22:12

Fucking hell if someone tried to blackmail me into leaving them space on road which they aren't entitled to have a reserved space on, by telling me that they would not park over my drive as long as i kept them a space free...i would get revenge on them by never parking on my drive and taking up all the spaces, it sounds like they've done exactly that. that's what you get for trying to blackmail.

chinesechicken · 09/06/2018 22:14

And yes you can park across a dropped kerb as long as you're not blocking a car in, but that rule hasn't done you any favours has it? because by you attempting to blackmail them, you've just pissed off a person with 3 cars who can make life very difficult for you being as you're so desperate to park outside your house.

it's not their fault you cant afford a house with a drive..

findthegap · 09/06/2018 22:20

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Martinimonster · 09/06/2018 22:37

It's their driveway ffs don't park on it or obstruct it in any way. No wonder he's leaving shitty notes. Totally out of order. It's not their problem.

Honestlyofficer · 09/06/2018 22:39

They have 3 cars, and only permits for 2. They are being deliberately goady by shuffling their cars to use maximum space to make the OP's life more difficult, and you all think it's HER fault?

SimonBridges · 09/06/2018 22:41

Spot the people who haven’t read the thread!

Drop it already op.

chinesechicken · 09/06/2018 23:01

Yes it's her fault because they are likely being goady as the OP parks across their drive

FrancisCrawford · 09/06/2018 23:35

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Dontblameitontheboogie · 10/06/2018 01:33

I haven't RTFT but:

The house that we rent has an OFPS. A very narrow one. We park in it when we can, but more often than not, some inconsiderate Btd has parked across it such that we can't. We've been known to call the Council to issue a ticket when our driveway has been well and truly blocked.

We have 2 cars. If you leave us space to use our driveway for one of our cars, we will, if not, we won't.

BUT: we'd never expect the right to a particular parking space, outside our road

skoda62 · 11/06/2018 22:17

I just can't understand the hostility towards the OP? Its NOT about her demanding the right to park outside her house, or even blackmailing as some idiot claimed?
You lot just can't get it into your thick heads, all she was asking for is consideration. Yes consideration!. Something all of us would like from our neighbors at some time or another. Be it unsocial parking or anything else that may cause annoyance? If the boot was on the other foot, how would you like it? Come home only to find neighbor parked three cars in such a way no way to park yours. Even though the neighbors cars could have been parked differently that left room from yours. Really p##### off no doubt!
Seems like this site is full of those that supports the f### you, I'll do what I like. Let me know where you live and I'll arrange for a 40f container lorry to park there......

MrsDylanBlue · 11/06/2018 23:04

skoda62 Thanks.

This weekend he had all his cars outside the house. He popped out to his car to get a few things while DH was stretching the jet wash up the road to wash a load of bird shit off my car, was also around while we parked the car over our elderly neighbours drive (who have said it’s fine) to load our Paddle boards onto the roof of the car and popped out to the car while parked outside our house while I walked across the road 5 times with all the shopping.

OP posts:
Flatearthersphere · 11/06/2018 23:08

@skoda62 look how angry you are! Are you well?

I am not an idiot, and I am not thick.

You seem unstable.

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