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My NDN and Parking

288 replies

MrsDylanBlue · 28/05/2018 21:58

My NDN moved in a few months ago, I have seen them in the street and almost forced them to say hello - fine whatever I respect the fact they may want to keep themselves to themselves.

We have no ORP and it is an issue in our road and we get people from neighbouring streets also parking here.

NDN have a very tiny driveway which they sometimes park one of their three cars on (I have a small car and DH has a car but is only here on weekends).

When the NDN drive is empty (it’s a drop curb with no gate) we have always parked over it as sometimes there is just nowhere else to park.

Outside our houses (they are semi detached) there is enough space for two cars on the road, quite often they have taken to not leaving me enough room to fit my car on (and not block my elderly neighbours in the other side) and then moved forward when someone else has arrived home so monopolising all the off road parking directly outside the houses.

Last weekend DH parked slightly over their drive and they left a shitty note on his car. He went round and spoke to the lady and said just knock don’t leave a note and please could you just leave my wife enough space to park in the week, after all we have one car you have three.

This weekend they have taken up all the parking directly outside the houses meaning I have had to trek up and down the road with my weeks shopping and when we went Kayacking it was not greatly convinuent carrying them down the road to put on the roof of the car.

Do I go round again and appeal to their better nature or do I start parking my car in the middle of the two spaces to make a point - starting a potential war which I will probably lose as I have less cars than them Grin

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FeralBeryl · 29/05/2018 00:35

You've acknowledged that their drive is crap to use earlier in the thread so understandable that they choose not to.
I get it, I really do but YABU a public road is just that.
My opposite neighbour has gone on holiday (3 car driveway) but his girlfriend has chosen to leave her car outside his house, parked badly and making it a real pain in the arse for us to get off our own drive. I'm inwardly seething but it's ultimately tough shit.
You're going to have to let this go, are any of your kids old enough to help you unload the car whilst you double park, then park properly up the street? Hopefully you'll develop a better relationship with them over time and they will try to accommodate you more.

MrsDylanBlue · 29/05/2018 00:43

No - I am not a nightmare.

Elderly couple next door have no family and I regulars check in and help them out.

I just hate people being selfish twats.

As soon as it was pointed out it wasn’t ok we never did it again.

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RavenLG · 29/05/2018 00:43

Sometimes we have to park a few streets away and we have 6 kids
Don't buy a house with off street parking then. Why do they need to accommodate your life choices?

I have a back issue which as I get older gets worse
They moved a few months ago, it doesn't sound like you've had any contact with them so how the hell do you think they will know this? Again, this is your issue to deal with as unfortunate as it is. If it gets so bad you could be eligible for a disabled badge / allocated parking and it would solve all your problems.

No my neighbours don’t have to give a flying shit about those things but I can be an awkward twat too
They don't fucking you know from Adam!! Why do you expect them to care about you? You're a literal stranger and you're admitting to do twatty things in retaliation to something that they are doing (parking in the street) which they are entitled to do! All of this after you expect them to keep up some sort of deal you had with your previous ndn who moved (wonder why!).

Honestly, I think a child would have realised by now.

Again THEY might need to park close to home. Hidden illness, ill relatives they need to get to, the list could go on an on. Why is this all YOU YOU YOU?? THEY are not responsible for YOUR parking issues!

RavenLG · 29/05/2018 00:44

I just hate people being selfish twats
Fucking hell the irony. I'm done with trying to get through to you, you're a lost cause and I feel sorry for your neighbours.

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 29/05/2018 00:44

We have off road parking with a dropped kerb AND double yellow lines. Despite this we still get the odd numpty who thinks these very clear markings don’t apply to them. We have been blocked in, and out, of our own driveway on more than one occasion. They are always very sorry, didn’t realise, only gone for a minute blah blah blah. Sometimes it’s easier to park in the street, even though we would much prefer to use our own driveway. I suspect your NDN has the same problem.

BlueBug45 · 29/05/2018 00:49

Yes you are being unreasonable.

Either drive over the pavement in front of your house or even better park on the road until you can afford the £1000. You have no right to drive partly onto his property which you are doing if using the dropped kerb in front of his house. If I was your neighbour I would delibrately get visitors to block you in as you don't have a drive just a paved front garden.

I should add myself and half my road have parking spaces drawn in by the council on the pavement. The kerb isn't dropped so we just drive over the pavement, however the road has double yellows which are enforced.

MrsDylanBlue · 29/05/2018 00:50

Eh? Where did the paved front garden come into this?

I don’t have that.

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SilverySurfer · 29/05/2018 01:11

Wow, you have a massive sense of self entitlement - CFery at its finest and looks like you are going to argue even though you were in the wrong and parked illegally, blocking their drive. The desperate drip feeding makes you look ridiculous.

I just hate people being selfish twats.

Oh the irony - pot and kettle spring to mind.

Littleredboat · 29/05/2018 01:12

OP I’m intrigued. You’ve had a fairly unanimous YABU response here.

Do you genuinely think we’re all wrong?

AlmostAJillSandwich · 29/05/2018 01:16

You've said yourself its "not really a drive way" and that its very narrow and hard to park on without overhanging. Add on that you have to fight for a space on the road, they may be actually struggling with getting on and off the "drive" because of how other cars are parked, and it's easier and doesn't risk either blocking in because they've been parked over, or even just other bad/too close parking.
If they shift their own cars around to save spaces, then good for them tbh, parking is a nightmare and if that is useful to them, so be it. If they're having to do that just to make/find spaces for their own cars, then they're not being unreasonable, as it would be at the detriment to themselves of then having to find somewhere for their own car. You asked them to leave you a space where possible, clearly if there is only just room for their cars, then its not been possible forthem to leave you one.

viques · 29/05/2018 02:17

Bluebug you are getting confused over the dropped kerb parking threads tonight!
This is the one who thinks parking over a driveway for many years with the old neighbour's gives her squatters right to do so with her new neighbours, the other one which you are referencing is the one who thinks having the previous owner of her house's permission to do so gives her the right to drive onto her fancy paved driveway using her neighbour's dropped kerb.

So pleased I haven't got a dropped kerb, I couldn't cope with the stress !

viques · 29/05/2018 02:21

Old neighbour's permission.

Though as I read the posts I wonder if the poor old neighbour was a bit bullied into giving consent?

BasiliskStare · 29/05/2018 02:49

Ha ha ha - for nigh on 35 years have lived in a city with no off street parking. I have managed. Occasional inconvenience but all has worked, I cannot believe the emotion that parking brings up - just park round the corner. Yes sometimes grocery bags , or young child ( have done both ) but really - it's not the end of the world is it? Where I live now I sometimes have to phone DH to find out where he has parked the car [ grin ] - would not move house for worlds.

LavenderDoll · 29/05/2018 06:20

You can be awkward because they park their cars on the street correctly? Entitled much ...

Bluelonerose · 29/05/2018 06:53

If your ndn don't use their drive why can't they park over that? Which I'm assuming is outside their house. Confused

Cuttingthegrass · 29/05/2018 06:56

OP how big is your car if you have 6 children? Is it a minibus?

As others have said you have no entitlement to the space outside your house but I get it's annoying

londonrach · 29/05/2018 07:17

Its interesting to read what a cf says mntters. Op is is a parking cf.

somewhereovertherain · 29/05/2018 07:27

If you want to be able to park near your house, buy one with a drive. Otherwise you’ve no argument. And if you’d blocked my drive with your car I’d be pissed off.

YABVU

C0untDucku1a · 29/05/2018 07:48

Op where do you expect them to park in order to leave you a space?
And what if they did leave you a space and another neighbour parked in it?

JustPotteringAround · 29/05/2018 07:50

If you’ve got a bad bad back I’d probably stop lifting kayaks on to the roof of the car - in fact I’d probably give up kayaking altogether and find a more appropriate hobby.

AllyMcBeagle · 29/05/2018 07:53

Op where do you expect them to park in order to leave you a space?
And what if they did leave you a space and another neighbour parked in it?

This. Everyone's already said it but YABVU. I don't recall ever seeing a thread which is so unanimous.

MrsDylanBlue · 29/05/2018 07:53

Please tell me how I “bullied” my previous neighbour?! Shock

There is nowhere on this thread where there is any evidence of me “bullying” anyone other than other posters projection.

My husband lifts the Kayacks on to the car.

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MrsDylanBlue · 29/05/2018 07:55

I want them to leave me a space small enough to park my small car outside my car. That is it. They can park down the road with their third car - or on/across their drive.

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SharronNeedles · 29/05/2018 08:04

But by your own admission they can't park on their drive as it's barely a drive way??

And people are guessing you bullied your other neighbour because of the way you are presenting yourself on here- sharp, entitled etc

m0therofdragons · 29/05/2018 08:11

Yes it would be nice if they'd leave you a space however as long as they pay car tax, they have every right to park on the road. You do not own the road outside your house!