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My NDN and Parking

288 replies

MrsDylanBlue · 28/05/2018 21:58

My NDN moved in a few months ago, I have seen them in the street and almost forced them to say hello - fine whatever I respect the fact they may want to keep themselves to themselves.

We have no ORP and it is an issue in our road and we get people from neighbouring streets also parking here.

NDN have a very tiny driveway which they sometimes park one of their three cars on (I have a small car and DH has a car but is only here on weekends).

When the NDN drive is empty (it’s a drop curb with no gate) we have always parked over it as sometimes there is just nowhere else to park.

Outside our houses (they are semi detached) there is enough space for two cars on the road, quite often they have taken to not leaving me enough room to fit my car on (and not block my elderly neighbours in the other side) and then moved forward when someone else has arrived home so monopolising all the off road parking directly outside the houses.

Last weekend DH parked slightly over their drive and they left a shitty note on his car. He went round and spoke to the lady and said just knock don’t leave a note and please could you just leave my wife enough space to park in the week, after all we have one car you have three.

This weekend they have taken up all the parking directly outside the houses meaning I have had to trek up and down the road with my weeks shopping and when we went Kayacking it was not greatly convinuent carrying them down the road to put on the roof of the car.

Do I go round again and appeal to their better nature or do I start parking my car in the middle of the two spaces to make a point - starting a potential war which I will probably lose as I have less cars than them Grin

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MrsDylanBlue · 28/05/2018 23:25

Yogeybear89

Literally no space to do that unfortunately.

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GabsAlot · 28/05/2018 23:26

it is annoying when people take up two spaces but what can you do-ive got limited parking in my street one person parks like a dick but thats life

sometimes have to park in the next street

BrightYellowDaffodil · 28/05/2018 23:26

It’s fine it will be a war because we have not parked there since and won’t but taking up two spaces to save another family member a space is also shitty.

You sound a joy to live near.

There are two - entirely separate - issues here. One is the dropped kerb that accesses your NDN's drive. You can't park here and that's an end to it.

Secondly, on street parking is first come first served and if you can't park near your house then tough. You don't get to 'reserve' spaces near your house, or expect neighbours not to use spaces on the basis of who has more cars.

Yucka · 28/05/2018 23:26

Our house is bigger.

It’s £30 a year per car I think and a max of two cars permits per household.

Definitely try to pursue that with the council I reckon. Then it's fair - they'd have to use their driveway for their third car and then (unless your other neighbours started parking differently) you should have room for your car somewhere on the road. Not in front of their dropped kerb, obviously. Wink

SevenStones · 28/05/2018 23:30

The neighbours can park their three cars on the road if they like. It's a public road, nothing you can do about it.

I once parked on a public road outside a house and had a CF woman come out and shout at me. I moved my car slightly (where she wanted me to park) to pacify her, but I was thinking that it was tough shit really if she was constantly annoyed by people parking outside her house. She didn't own the road. I got the impression she stood at the window all day waiting to catch people out who dared to park outside her house. She was lucky I was in a happy mood, I can be just as belligerent when I feel like it.

OP can't park across neighbour's drive.

OP has to suck it up regarding finding a parking space on the road.

OP could look into making a drive of her own.

OP could move.

But currently OP is BVU.

MrsDylanBlue · 28/05/2018 23:31

My elderly neighbours the unattached side have said we can block their drive (even if their car is there) but I am loathed to do that as he has been in and out of hospital.

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SimonBridges · 28/05/2018 23:38

Our house is bigger.

So you have a bigger house and you own and they rent.
Sounds like snobbery to me.

AntiHop · 28/05/2018 23:39

I'll never get over the entitlement of car drivers. Op, you complain that you have you to carry your shopping from further away if you can't park right outside your house. Well just think of the millions like me who can't afford a car or choose not to drive, and have to carry our shopping all the way from the bus stop. The horror.

LavenderDoll · 28/05/2018 23:39

Stop blocking drives
Stop parking on dropped curbs
Stop behaving like you had any right to expect an apology when you went round demanding he come to your door to ask you to move your car.... He shouldn't have to go to your door
CF

MrsDylanBlue · 28/05/2018 23:41

Erm we didn’t demand anything Hmm

I can’t carry heavy stuff.

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LavenderDoll · 28/05/2018 23:46

If you don't have a drive and rely on on street parking then you can never guarantee a space. It's no concern of your neighbour if you can or can't lift/carry heavy things. Still doesn't mean you can park on the dropped curb

AmazingGrace16 · 28/05/2018 23:48

It sounds like they don't want to park their third car on their drive in case they get blocked in!

SevenStones · 28/05/2018 23:52

The OP has said it's an awkward space to get into anyway, so perhaps they've come to the same conclusion and would rather mostly park on the road!

RavenLG · 28/05/2018 23:56

I can’t carry heavy stuff.
Maybe they can't carry heavy stuff, maybe they have an invisible disability which means they need to park close to the house? Maybe they just want to park outside their house! What makes you think you have any more right over them?

But it doesn't matter how many people tell you that you are massively in the wrong you still think you're right so here goes..

"Course they're dicks hun, you've lived there all this time. What gives them the right to park on the street. Who do they think they are getting aggy with you for parking over their kerb omg how selfish! What a bunch of twats"..

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MrsDylanBlue · 28/05/2018 23:57

No one ever blocks anyone in.

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crispysausagerolls · 29/05/2018 00:05

One of the most wilfully ignorant OPs of all time

MrsDylanBlue · 29/05/2018 00:07

Seriously.

We apologised.

We haven’t parked over the drop kerb since.

We would just like them to leave us a space near the fucking house.

That’s asking them to be kind not me being a CF.

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Littleredboat · 29/05/2018 00:11

Bloody HELL what an entitled nightmare neighbour you sound.

You want them to put their car on the drive. Except they can’t because it’s not a proper drive. But you’re pissed off at them parking on the road.

Honestly if you were my neighbour I’d be tempted to borrow some extra cars for a few days and park them in a line just to piss you off.

You’ve bought a house with no off road parking. Stop blaming other people when that doesn’t work out for you.

yorkshireyummymummy · 29/05/2018 00:13

When I read threads like this all I can think is......thank you God ( and parents!) for enabling me to buy a house with a big 4 car drive and a garage. Parking issues like this would stress me out so much I would probably end up in jail after parking on somebody’s garden/on the pavement/ on somebody else’s car /in my own sitting room!

crispysausagerolls · 29/05/2018 00:18

That’s asking them to be kind not me being a CF.

What makes you a CF is that you are seemingly unable/unwilling to understand that just because you have asked them to it doesn't mean they have to! And just because they don't, it doesn't make them wrong or unreasonable. In fact, why can't you understand that the spaces aren't even theirs to leave you? They can only park there if lucky. Just as you can/everyone else with no off road parking. You've had a good deal for 13 years but it's over. Accept that and move on ffs.

MrsDylanBlue · 29/05/2018 00:19

I haven’t had a good deal for thirteen years - I have had decent neighbours.

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MrsDylanBlue · 29/05/2018 00:21

Sometimes we have to park a few streets away and we have 6 kids.

I have a back issue which as I get older gets worse

No my neighbours don’t have to give a flying shit about those things but I can be an awkward twat too.

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crispysausagerolls · 29/05/2018 00:21

That's the same thing as a good deal...you've been lucky. your new neighbours not striking the same deal with you does not make them bad neighbours - they have 0 obligation to you and that doesn't make them bad people.

MrsDylanBlue · 29/05/2018 00:22

No it doesn’t.

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insomuchpain · 29/05/2018 00:23

Urhhh you sound like a nightmare

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