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My NDN and Parking

288 replies

MrsDylanBlue · 28/05/2018 21:58

My NDN moved in a few months ago, I have seen them in the street and almost forced them to say hello - fine whatever I respect the fact they may want to keep themselves to themselves.

We have no ORP and it is an issue in our road and we get people from neighbouring streets also parking here.

NDN have a very tiny driveway which they sometimes park one of their three cars on (I have a small car and DH has a car but is only here on weekends).

When the NDN drive is empty (it’s a drop curb with no gate) we have always parked over it as sometimes there is just nowhere else to park.

Outside our houses (they are semi detached) there is enough space for two cars on the road, quite often they have taken to not leaving me enough room to fit my car on (and not block my elderly neighbours in the other side) and then moved forward when someone else has arrived home so monopolising all the off road parking directly outside the houses.

Last weekend DH parked slightly over their drive and they left a shitty note on his car. He went round and spoke to the lady and said just knock don’t leave a note and please could you just leave my wife enough space to park in the week, after all we have one car you have three.

This weekend they have taken up all the parking directly outside the houses meaning I have had to trek up and down the road with my weeks shopping and when we went Kayacking it was not greatly convinuent carrying them down the road to put on the roof of the car.

Do I go round again and appeal to their better nature or do I start parking my car in the middle of the two spaces to make a point - starting a potential war which I will probably lose as I have less cars than them Grin

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MrsDylanBlue · 28/05/2018 22:40

Tbh there is no point in paying for a drop curb as everyone parks over them unless there is a car in them.

I wish the Council would bring in permits.

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SimonBridges · 28/05/2018 22:40

We just would like to be able to park where we have always parked - outside our house.

And they would probably like to park on the drive that they own and paid for when they bought the house but they can’t because there is a car parked across it.

Teggun · 28/05/2018 22:41

You don't seem to get that the 2 actions are not the same MrsDylanBlue. Leaving a space for you outside your house would be an (unusual) courtesy. I've lived for many many years in roads with no off street parking and it has always been a total lottery as to where you get to park.

Whereas parking across someone's dropped kerb / driveway is wrong unless you have permission from the owner and to have continued to do so when new neighbours moved in was downright rude.

MrsDylanBlue · 28/05/2018 22:41

They don’t own it they rent not that it’s here nor there.

The one time they left a note we addressed it, apologised and haven’t done it since.

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stayathomer · 28/05/2018 22:42

I'd go talk to them but not if you want them to apologise otherwise you'll all never get along! That's hard-do you rent or own? Would you ever think of moving?

AirandMungBeans · 28/05/2018 22:42

Well this is refreshing, a CF thread from the other side.

elephantscanring · 28/05/2018 22:42

They should be using their own drive to park, instead of using three spaces in the road. That would annoy me.

AskAuntLydia · 28/05/2018 22:43

Don't know why everyone is saying you're never allowed to park over a drive. If there's no car in it, then it's legal.

guidance here

MrsDylanBlue · 28/05/2018 22:43

We own and we can’t move atm for various reasons mainly money.

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SimonBridges · 28/05/2018 22:44

Rent or own they still paid to have a drive that they want to use.

MrsDylanBlue · 28/05/2018 22:44

Rent or own they still paid to have a drive that they want to use

I agree which is why I didn’t bring that up.

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SimonBridges · 28/05/2018 22:44

Don't know why everyone is saying you're never allowed to park over a drive. If there's no car in it, then it's legal.

It might well be technically legal but it is a dick move.

MrsDylanBlue · 28/05/2018 22:45

But maybe they could use it - rather than parking outside our house.

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SimonBridges · 28/05/2018 22:45

You completely did bring up that they rent rather than own.
When you said ‘they don’t own it, they rent it’

MrsDylanBlue · 28/05/2018 22:46

You completely did bring up that they rent rather than own.
When you said ‘they don’t own it, they rent it

In response to your post yes.

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ChampagneSocialist1 · 28/05/2018 22:47

I think you should get some traffic cones and a pole to reserve your parking place and ramp up the neighbourly relations a bit more

Glumglowworm · 28/05/2018 22:47

YABU

They are under no obligation to leave you space to park outside your house, nor is anyone else. You can’t just park over their driveway.

Stop being CF and pay to get a driveway and dropped kerb installed yourselves, it’s the only way to ensure you can park outside your house.

SimonBridges · 28/05/2018 22:48

They have probably got fed up with access to the drive being so unreliable so don’t feel they can use it.

It doesn’t matter how you dress it up.
Parking over someone’s drive is a dick move.
Parking in the street is a free for all. It can be annoying but there you go. You knew it was on street parking when you moved there.

Fruitcorner123 · 28/05/2018 22:48

when you can afford to move you should move some where with a parking soace or driveway. This is why those houses cost more.

MrsDylanBlue · 28/05/2018 22:48

I think you should get some traffic cones and a pole to reserve your parking place and ramp up the neighbourly relations a bit more

Some people in our street actually do this Grin

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ichbineinstasumer · 28/05/2018 22:49

yes, they are not interested in being neighbourly so you should knock it off too. Obviously you can't continue to park over their dripped kerb, but feel free to not extend them any neighbourly courtesy either. Maybe (possibly, possibly not) when they understand the value of mutual favours they may become better neighbours!

MrsDylanBlue · 28/05/2018 22:49

They have been here two months.

They asked us once not to park over the drop and we haven’t since.

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SparklySeashell · 28/05/2018 22:49

OP!! Listen, YABU! You're not doing them a favour by not parking over their dropped kerb and therefore expecting they leave you a space in return.

They don't owe you a favour, you're not supposed to park over a dropped kerb. Like it or not, a public road is first come first served, the same rules for everyone!

SimonBridges · 28/05/2018 22:49

They either pay extra on the cost of the house to have parking or they pay extra rent. It really doesn’t matter if they own it or rent it.
Unless you have a snobbish view of renters that is.

ChampagneSocialist1 · 28/05/2018 22:50

Do you own the bit of road outside your house? if yes then they should not be parking on it if no then anyone can park on it. That is the law.