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To tell DH he is pronouncing DD’s name wrong.

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DuchessOfNorfolk · 27/05/2018 08:59

DD is mainly known as a shortening of her name. Occasionally we call her the full versio. However I have noticed DH pronounces it in a different way to how I have ever heard it pronounced. I assumed there was just one pronunciation of it. I’m wondering if it would be reasonable to point it out? Or do I just live with it.

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SharronNeedles · 27/05/2018 16:25

middle Geordie. We say book and cook with long 'oo' sounds but we say luck instead of look with a slightly harsher 'u' sound so it sounds different from 'luck'

Eolian · 27/05/2018 16:26

The trouble is, some of these differences are regional, some are class-related, some are just downright wrong and some are individual preferences for correct alternatives. And some of the arguments about them are confused by people's different attempts at transcribing the same phonetic sounds!

happypoobum · 27/05/2018 16:54

America is a beautiful country

I wouldn't put a linking R sound between America and is. Probably more like Americuh is....

EastMidsMummy · 27/05/2018 18:57

Never mind the “I” in the middle of your DD’s name, I really hope your surname doesn’t start with a vowel as I can’t stand when people put in a random “r” -see every English sports presenter who ever talked about “JessicaR Ennis”, grrr.

Did you mean to be so rude...?

EastMidsMummy · 27/05/2018 19:01

Book, look, cook with a long oo sound, like moon, is Lancashire.

It’s lots of places: Stoke, Lancs, North East, Liverpool...

People say things differently in different accents. Anyone who tries to impose their own rules as “correct”, please ask yourself why you think you are “right”. I’d love to know...

frasier · 27/05/2018 19:05

middle friend does rhyme them, book, cook, look, just starts with booooo.

MiddleClassProblem · 27/05/2018 19:07

frasier I meant I thought you were saying you spoke in accent where they didn’t rhyme but then I realised that wasn’t what you meant

frasier · 27/05/2018 19:08

Just texted friend with the long ooooos. They are from Newton-le-Willows!

frasier · 27/05/2018 19:11

Middle Right!

MrsHathaway · 27/05/2018 19:13

OP - your last post had offen in it, instead of often . Was that a typo, or is that how you are pronouncing it? Because if so - you’re saying it wrongly!

Er, actually, the "t" in "often" was inserted into the spelling by false etymology (it's not as related to "oft" as we used to think) and it's only in the last generation or two that anybody has decided to pronounce it.

Sophronia · 27/05/2018 19:18

We liked Sophia for a DD but I pronounce it so-fee-uh and DH says suh-fee-uh.

JessieMcJessie · 27/05/2018 19:23

EqstmidsMummy I did not personally attack any individual.

MissWritenow · 27/05/2018 19:32

All these names and their variations remind me of young 'Balonz' of days gone by. Grin

MyNewAlias · 27/05/2018 19:36

My first name is often pronounced in different ways and it does not normally bother me; however my DH insists on pronouncing my middle name as Ter-a-sa, when I prefer Ter-e-sa, as it is spelt.

samandpoppysmummy · 27/05/2018 19:41

Sophronia, I would pronounce it as suh-fy-uhSmile

Jessica was on my list for DD and I have always pronounced it jes-sik-uh

Squirrel26 · 27/05/2018 20:00

My name is quite long and fairly unusual (think 'Helena'). My brother's is shorter and quite traditional (think 'David'). If our parents say both names together, they change the pronunciation depending on the order - so 'HEL-en-a and David are over there' vs 'David and Hel-EY-na are over there'. Always have done. If they're just talking to me, they chose a pronunciation at random (the rest of the world calls me 'Helen', 'Helenne', 'Hollen', 'Harriet' or 'Herbert'). Hmm

YouTheCat · 27/05/2018 20:05

I think your dh is saying it like that purely because he knows it pisses you off.

I can't think of any other reason for him to say 'Jessca'.

Kraggle · 27/05/2018 20:13

What other way is there to say Naomi? I’ve only ever heard “Nay-oh-mee”.

MikeUniformMike · 27/05/2018 20:15

He's probably saying it quickly and the middle syllable gets lost. Or maybe he has a U accent and says medicine as medsin.
I'm sure lots of people say Deborah as Debra, Isabel as Izbel, Elizabeth as Lizbeth and so on.

MaryWortleyMontagu · 27/05/2018 20:17

Kraggle there's also NIGH-oh-me and NAYA-me.

MikeUniformMike · 27/05/2018 20:17

Naomi often gets said as Nigh-oh-me. ugh.
I would say it as Na-o-me, and it is probably NAY-uh-me.

happypoobum · 27/05/2018 20:19

Sophronia I would also say So - fee - uh.

Kraggle I think it's about which syllable you put the emphasis on. I would say Nay oh mee. Some people say Nay oh mee

MikeUniformMike · 27/05/2018 20:21

I would say Sophia as Soff-eye-ah

CaptainBiggles · 27/05/2018 20:27

I say Jess-Ick-Ah. That's how my cousin pn it and it's her name.

Is he definitely not just pn the i bit really really softly?

CaptainBiggles · 27/05/2018 20:30

The DC are at school with several Sophia/Sofia's they all pn it the same, as do their parents. So-Fee-Uh