To tell DH he is pronouncing DD’s name wrong.

[DuchessOfNorfolk]

DD is mainly known as a shortening of her name. Occasionally we call her the full versio. However I have noticed DH pronounces it in a different way to how I have ever heard it pronounced. I assumed there was just one pronunciation of it. I’m wondering if it would be reasonable to point it out? Or do I just live with it.

it is random in the sense that it’s not a variation of a letter that appears in the word, it’s insertion of an additional sound.

In English, there is often no correlation between the letters in the word and the pronunciation of the word. How long have you been speaking English not to have noticed this?

It's not 'trailing r'. Here is a wiki link which explains intrusive /r/
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Linking_and_intrusive_R

@Simon put, bus and soot all sound the same to me

Did you mean to be so rude EastMidsMummy?

The non existent double r in drawing room etc.

It is not a trailing r; it is an affectation. Pointless posturing in other words.

I have a complicated and unusual first name. Even worse, my mum “fixed” the spelling to make it “easier” for my British grandparents to pronounce. Needless to say my entire life I have corrected people on the pronounciation of the last bit as they typically expect it to be phonetic. It drives me insane. These days I go by a shortened, British version of my longer name which seems to work well. Lots of people at work were shocked when I got married to hear my full name.

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put and soot sound the same to me. Bus has a completely different sound - not sure how to write it.

It sounds like fuss. So maybe it's buss.

If you say 'America is a beautiful country' out loud it comes out as 'Americaris'. We put a nonexistent 'r' in there to bounce off. Not all accents do this. Americans don't.

happypoobum I’m with you. Is he pronounce put like putt 🏌🏽‍♂️

I also thought people were mixing up two different names, thinking Eleanor is pronounced the same way as Elena....

Eleanor Roosevelt is definitely Ellen-or isn't (wasn't) she?

If I hear an a at the end I "see" Elena and it wouldn't occur to me it was a pronunciation of Eleanor...

I'm also not young (hence Eleanor bringing Eleanor Roosevelt to mind not some recent actress or someone perhaps!)

Jess-ca probably is an accent thing but I don't like the sound of it either Duchess and would say Jess-i-cuh - I wouldn't have picked a name I didn't like a local or my partner's pronunciation of!

My kids pronounce their own names two different ways depending upon which language they're speaking, despite the fact we tried to choose names with only one pronunciation, and at work I get a totally different name from clients because my name is just gibberish to non English speakers!

Different pronunciations or even different names are fine imo except if they really grateful on you and are being used by the child's other parent. She might start calling herself Jess-ca!

I wouldn't "tell him he's wrong" but would discuss it, see if he knows he's doing it and prefers / likes Jess-ca and let him know that it sounds unpleasant to your ears, especially if he originally pronounced it differently and has swapped!

*grate not grateful

It’s not an accent thing. We both have Norfolk accents.

OP - your last post had offen in it, instead of often . Was that a typo, or is that how you are pronouncing it? Because if so - you’re saying it wrongly! 🤪😜😜😌

It’s a typo bbc but I am starting to doubt everything!

DuchessOfNorfolk when you discussed the name did Becki say “Jessica”? Is he just playing with it a bit now?

Interesting post. As a southerner I definitely do not say "rum" and am a room like boom person... but on comedge programs such as the Royals I have heard it pronounced rum. Never in real life though. I also say will-e-ym; and Sam-yule but I did once get corrected by a Michelle as apparantly I say shell not Mich-elle.

With regards to my own name Samantha, I've never used it but have heard it pronounced S-man-tha; Sa-man-ther; and my personal least favourite (mostly by my brother) Sa-man-fer. Probably why Ive always gone by Sam. 😆

London here. I say a hybrid of rum and room I think. I’m trying to say it in my head, I’m on a train. Sort of “ruum” 😀

Friend, forgotten where from, says “book” with “boo” at the beginning. Same with look, cook etc.

Sounds more like an affectionate way of saying her name than a mispronunciation OP.

It’s not as if he’s calling her Jess eye ca, or something really weird.

@Solo - it's Keeva in some parts of the country (Dublin for example) and Kweeva in other parts.

I'm not sure if Dublin Irish has a bit of an Anglo bastardisation thing going on due to its location or if that is an original dialect that has just evolved that way.

If you say 'America is a beautiful country' out loud it comes out as 'Americaris'. We put a nonexistent 'r' in there to bounce off. Not all accents do this. Americans don't.

Unless the American is from certain parts of Boston or parts of New England. Then they do.

Most of these differences in pronunciation of names is relatively unimportant. I have a name that is pronounced differently here in the US depending on regional accent. I don't care. Call me what you want, just don't call me late to dinner!

frasier wait... what?

I’m questioning everything I say now but trying to figure out what accent book, cook and look don’t rhyme in.

Louk, bouk, couk not that they make them all rhyme and you don’t?

I mean there are plenty of different accents that say things differently... like bath or cool or well most things

Friend, forgotten where from, says “book” with “boo” at the beginning. Same with look, cook etc.

Book, look, cook with a long oo sound, like moon, is Lancashire.