To tell DH he is pronouncing DD’s name wrong.

[DuchessOfNorfolk]

DD is mainly known as a shortening of her name. Occasionally we call her the full versio. However I have noticed DH pronounces it in a different way to how I have ever heard it pronounced. I assumed there was just one pronunciation of it. I’m wondering if it would be reasonable to point it out? Or do I just live with it.

My name is Jessica and I've NEVER been called Jess-ca by anyone

I go by Jess though, and firmly ignore anyone who calls me Jessie 🤢

My name has at least four variations in pronunciation. My parents say it differently to each other! When people ask me which one is right I just tell them whichever they like - I don't really care or mind, in fact I like hearing what different people say.

For some reason it makes me feel more unique with all these variations! grin

Eminybob. Your DH pronounces William the same way that I and everyone I know does. And I come from a family of Williams and a block of 8 flats which housed at least 10 Williams at the same time!!

@Fifthtimelucky how can Tanya be pronounced two ways?

OP Jesca is a name in its own right. Ask DP if he’s thinking of changing DD’s name as he is calling her a different one from the one on the birth certificate.

mirrorwriting I seem to remember an entire thread about the pronounciation of Tanya on here not long ago. It’s to do with a long or short initial “a”. There were even Russians coming on to vouch for the pronounciation and still not being believed .

My dh goes by his middle name as his parents argued so much over how to pronounce his name when he was a baby. I didn’t even realise it wasn’t his real name until we’d been together about a year and saw his passport when we went on holiday.

His parents always regale me with the story when I see them. Say for eg his official first name is Stephen. Completely and utterly straightforward. Dmil will say ‘oh, we had to use his middle name in the end as dh kept pronouncing it stee-van and he knew I wanted it pronounced stee-van’.

We’ve been married a decade, I’ve heard this anecdote probably 20-30 times and I still can’t work out the difference in how they said it.

Maybe your DH is pissed? Or has a speech impediment? Or just lazy about pronouncing all three syllables.

My toddler calls his little pal 'Jess-ca' and it sounds adorable so I think your DH is fine the way he is.

Ps I once dumped someone purely because he pronounced my name 'kaff-rin' and I couldn't bear it

at kaffrin

Mirrorwriting
how can Tanya be pronounced two ways?

Tan-ya
Tarn-ya

I say Tarn -ya.

Tann -ya sounds really rough to me.

Tarnya sounds southern to me. Like barth and glarse.
I’m northern so I say bath, glass and Tanya.
I’m not rough at all!

Surely it depends on the name’s owner as to how it’s pronounced.

I’ve known Tanyas and Tarnyas.

When I say 'room' it rhymes with 'broom'.

LittleGoose000 Me too... Julia Donaldson is rubbish otherwise :-)

I say Ellen-uh for Eleanor... its a name I've had cause to use daily for 30+ years and I am Northern. Most people I encounter say it similarly.

I say Tarn -ya.Tann -ya sounds really rough to me.

I say tann-ya. Tarnya sounds rather like a US pronunciation. Like 'Arna' instead of 'Anna'.

I have a brother William. We pronounce it Billy.

*Ell a nu?

Never heard an u at the end of it before!!

Eleanor would have an r at the end of it (posh southerner)

Elena would be pronounced Ell eh nah*

One of my children has the name Eleanor. We pronounce it El-i-nuh, as do most people I've met.

I would pronounce Elena as el-AY-nuh

Epic bold fail. Not sure why it doesn't seem to be working on any of my posts this evening!

This thread has got me thinking!

DH's sister is Andrea. I say AnDRAYa, he says AnDREEa and I cannot for the life of me remember how she says it.

I’m assuming he says it the way she does? Assuming they grew up together and all

To me Tarnya sounds like someone trying to make Tanya sound posh when it's not.

When I say 'room' it rhymes with 'broom'.

Of course. But different people say broom differently!

I did not personally attack any individual.

No, you attacked the way a particular group of native English speakers pronounced stuff.

Can you imagine the uproar there would be (quite rightly) if I said that Scottish people couldn’t speak English properly?

My Glaswegian cousins all pronounce Margaret as Mah-grit