Instamums in the Telegraph

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Is there a new thread about this?

I don't think anybody actively dislikes anyone on here Susie, so thanks for 'crossing the divide' and dropping by!

Susie feel free to decline, but it would be really interesting to understand how many comment notifications, DMs you get on average and how you’ve decided to interact / moderate. Some of the discussion has moved into the area of how much moderation or responsibility an account holder should have. It would be worthwhile having the perspective of someone with a sizeable following to manage. Thanks for coming on.

Oh my god I hate stories with that shouty ranty vile language especially with kids around. What's wrong with these people.
And @foxsaidwhat, who I've recommended and said nice things about has liked her post and commented so he's getting unfollowed now.
I really don't want this negativity in my life.

Thanks for coming on Susie. That's was a nice measured response and put like that (about the WS event) more understandable.

I think the 'cutting' remark was ill-advised but sometimes when you're talking into your phone, I can imagine it's easy to forget that you're talking to thousands of people and not one or two of your mates.

That's grand Susie, personally I unfollowed you after the whole "psycho bitches" comment so I suppose I'm confused why you want to build bridges with a community you have previously slated?

I do appreciate you coming on here (cos few do, sadly though it only ever adds to the conversation) but its hard to gauge your intention given your past comments about these IG threads.

Nice to have you here, @Susie3Milo

There really is no "us and them". We're all instagram users and mostly/all followed the big "instamum" accounts at one stage or another. I actually still follow you and MotherPukka because I do think you're good eggs. I also think MOD is a good egg, it's just all gone a bit tita up

Threeizthemagicnumber sugarbunker

Hi I noticed your comments upthread and was interested. I found this. I think soaperduper look fairly legit. RRe their pledge, whatever your thoughts on their insta. Partnership.

www.soaperduper.com/the-give-back/

Looks like another IG feed has gone poof.

Hi Susie good to hear from you and have you admit your cut comment was silly. I'd use much firmer term than that but let's leave that there!

I think your comment about the event is exactly the sort of thing Wee Slice should have responded with if she felt she had to respond at all. You haven't dismissed the attendee's experience while also saying you personally tried to talk to people you didn't know and saw WS do the same. You make v valid point that it's nerve-wracking to talk to people you don't know.

Of course!
So, I’d say on average I get about 100-300 DMs per day (if I’m actively posting stories/images). Comments range but slightly easier to keep tabs on (although when a discussion breaks out between people on your own comments section you can sometimes feel a bit like a parent stepping in to monitor, if that makes sense? I have below 100k followers so I can’t imagine how many responses the big hitters have!

Hi Susie. I found the cut comment offensive, and to be really poorly judged, but appreciate you coming on here and saying it was a mistake. Thank you.

@Susie3Milo thanks for joining in.

1/2 of 45ish people didn't dig the event. I think that's actually a really good positive ratio for WS, and on this thread we didn't slate her and neither did the aforementioned poster.

So, in that vain, I don't think we need you to build that bridge, we are adults we kind of already knew all of that.

Talk to us about the vitriol stories and grid posts.
This is where bridges need to be built and discussion needs to happen.
That conversation needs to happen now.

Appreciate that! I think my approach of being snappy isn’t working and despite how I’ve previously reacted, I’m not really one for arguments or confrontation. I end up feeling a bit yucky whenever this topic crops up so I’d like to tap out through actually having a conversation, if that’s possible.

I appreciate you coming on here too susie , I really do respect the IGers who engage rather than just shout BULLY!

I genuinely believe 'the divide' is perceived by mainly Instagram influencers. Instead of viewing it as a divide, why not view it as a conversation?

Absolutely! I’m definitely one for forgetting I’ve got a bit of a platform (for want of a less wanky expression) so I do apologise about that.

Ha, you beat me to it Susie, yes , conversation is a much better term!

Comments range

Ah yes, I saw the one you put up that guy sent about your 'big milky nipples' or whatever it was, gah! You must get some right weirdos!

The 'cutting' comment was totally out of order, but I think MNetters always appreciate it when people come on here and engage. Thanks x

@jamoncrumpets I don't think it's just the Influencers, I think it's actually more the commentators.

It seems like it is the influencer because they are the one who reaches us.

Thank you for answering, I appreciate it.

ok i'll bite RandomWords - who is other IG account that's gone poof?

am getting ready to go out so will catch up with this properly later and check out link to souper duper pledge, thanks mister postman.

I don't think there is a divide when to my knowledge, everyone who posts here (on these threads) also uses Instagram. Therefore they are a voice of followers. Often followers who feel they can't speak out on Instagram or they will be attacked.

You're right sparklefluff. They're operating in no mans land!

@Susie3Milo I refuse to fawn over you insta stylee but I must say I think your comic timing is spot on and you have given me much laughter. #laughter #mamas #lol

Okey doke. I’m going to speak for myself here and I think sometimes posting on Instagram IS seen as having a discussion, sort of ‘have my part’. Here you’ve got an actual forum playing out, we’ve just got that big ol’ blurt of ‘arghheresmyopinion!’
I don’t think anyone (maybe some of you guys too?) like to think a person’s felt hounded off of Instagram and I think this is where the anger comes from. A woman we know to be decent in person has gone from SM and it didn’t need to get to that stage.
The conversations play out for all to see on here, whereas I guess they’re more private on Instagram? So it just ends up being a big, angry boiling pot of ‘here’s my two pence worth’ rather than everyone talking together. Maybe we all need to be lobbed in a room (pub) x