Instamums in the Telegraph

[caperberries]

Is there a new thread about this?

Mister both my dc have discussed online consent at school - age 8 and 13

Might be for younger children too

MarshaBradyo Ah that's good. Did it change your dc's attitude to your activity on SM (do you mind me asking? - mine are older).

I can't bare The Boredoms Meldrums.
I watched a few minutes of a few videos to see what all the fuss was about and oh my..Doesn't she have a very high opinion of herself.

Yes completely
I don’t post pics publicly . I share maybe a couple with friends in a closed group, the 8 year old saw and said you need my consent to publish online - true I said

I recently asked the older one if he thought it was ok for parents to share pics publicly online and got an emphatic no, so asked what about very small children - ‘even worse!’

They are much more clued up than I thought they would be plus they care about what is right - due to school (and it helps we don’t do it)

My son did the PANTS learning in year 3, and I think it really did change his perspective/gave him an opinion.

I really supported it.

MarshaBradyo That's so heartening to hear!

And I agree about small children. Isn't 10 the age for many aspects of legal capacity?

It was really nice to hear

Plus imagine how much better it is for cyber bullying if you can find the words and know your friends / non friends can’t upload images without your yes. And it’s supported by the school

I’m all for autonomy. Especially for young people

As time goes on children will probably teach the parents what is best (hopefully)

NB has taken the BLAH BLAH BLAH photo post down - dunno why, though it was a post about being kind cow she’s got feelings too, there were a lot of R U OK Hun? comments, not all were ironic.

Wow, I feel totally shocked by the Instagram response to my comments on the WeeSlice event.

I should have stated that the event itself was actually really great - nice venue, free cocktails, childcare if you needed it, complimentary food, goodie bag. All really lovely. And free. And organised by someone who doesn't even live locally. Amazing.

But do feel that the well known Instagrammers hung out with each other and were not welcoming to unknowns. That's all. It disappointed me when I realised that I wasn't at an inclusive event as I wasn't part of the in crowd. I would have perhaps told WeeSlice this had she actually spoke to me, but she didn't so I'm fairly sure that, despite her insinuation otherwise, that she has no idea who I am. I didn't RSVP as I only made an 11th hour decision to attend so I'm confident of my anonymity from her and her fans.

But, fuck, the sort of aggressive vigilantism displayed in response is unnecessary. I'm not saying that WeeSlice and her chums are not nice people just that when in a room with other people are not as inclusive and welcoming as they think they are. Their reaction to some feedback is extreme and frankly terrifying. No wonder no one gives such feedback to their faces.

@ForTheGram that’s entirely what you put across in your original post, I totally understood what you were saying. Their response to your opinion is totally unjustified & aggressive. I hope you’re not too upset

@ForTheGram I’m glad you came back and haven’t been scared off by all the vitriol on instagram, I think I would be - TMWC came across so aggressively- did you speak in person to her at the event? In weeslice’s stories it looked like there was a clear divide between one group of tables and another so your experience doesn’t surprise me.

I'm really glad you came back @ForTheGram as I did wonder if you were genuinely ok with the vitriol being spat your way.

I think your 1st post came across the same way, but to be honest, you don't need to explain anything as you have the right to an opinion.

Yes glad you came back @ForTheGram O don't think your post warranted the vitriol that it received on IG and as someone else said, you're entirely to an opinion.

I think someone else echoed what you'd said about the WS event though, so it wasn't just you.

FortheGram Good for you, speaking out in a reasonable measured way. The response, screamed into a phone, while running around a garden away from her children, says it all about the reviewee.

Also I don’t think your opinion is less valid because it was a free event or a goody bag. The organiser wasn’t doing it as a charitable act, it’s for their own purposes whether it’s networking, gaining followers, business etc. It’s still fair to review the event

MarshaBradyo Good point about the cyber bullying. Completely agree about recognising the autonomy of young people.

Wasn't a proper review though. Hah, reminiscent of comments made about MOD book review, but I don't mean it negatively. What you wrote would have been definitely fine for TripAdvisor feedback or similar but ForTheGram was chatting here, so less reason to give business-y feedback. To your credit FortheGram your first post was measured, wasn't gossipy or bitchy. Fact Wee Slice thinks makes her look scary.

Also, not stopping story to give wee one wanted cuddle is not example of being kind.

Yes maybe review wasn’t the right word!!

Ha mummyshephard i'm reviewing your review of the not-a-review

Haha!!

I meant why ForTheGram wrote was fine btw not you mummyshephard although what you wrote was v fine too