Instamums in the Telegraph

[caperberries]

Is there a new thread about this?

Are you joking or is foxsaifwhat really about 18?? Or you just mean he looks it? His stepdaughter is about 7 so surely he’s a bit older than that??

As it doesn't seem to have been been mentioned on the previous threads @Threeizthemagicnumber can you say a bit more about the Madagascar trip? Was this for a water charity? Was LH on it too and if so why?

Isn't he cigarettesandcalpol's other half? Wonder what happened to her.

I see Unmumsy has written a piece for the Telegraph too. I can't be arsed to register to get past the paywall - can anyone copy and paste?

www.telegraph.co.uk/women/family/know-highs-lows-instamum/

He is pavlova . Can only speculate on what happened to c&c, maybe something to do with her older daughter, it sounded quite serious and not just a flounce anyway. Hope she’s ok.

Don't think I better c+p the whole article as journalists have to eat too but this paragraph was interesting

"I still find it incredibly strange when we’re recognised out and about in Exeter, where we live, and is why I would never defensively write a post saying “I’m doing the right thing by putting my children’s lives on the internet”, because the truth is, I don’t actually know that I am."

@oddish I think she was 26 as she had her eldest at 19, he's posting very carefully with the kids, so I did wonder if it was child related. He probably is mid-twenties but I'm over 40 so I do feel 'old' to be following! But I also felt old following her!

She always seemed older to me as she looks like my mum (when she was younger) which was always a bit of a bizarre association when watching her story away

@oddish me too, I was actually really surprised to find out her age. Not that she 'looks' old but I thought she was older. When she did a post about having her child at 19 I was taken aback.

How come the unmumsy article you can't read but the other instamum you can?

Quote from piece:
"The removal of her profile has been linked to a heated Mumsnet thread about her use of her four daughters in sponsored posts (Instagram’s equivalent of adverts). "

Can't say I'm impressed the unmumsy article echos that MN & concern over child privacy is reason for CH taking an IG break. Or that it's out so soon and focusing on use of children as that's angle she can come from. Does feel, as s/o put it earlier, a a little dancing on CH's IG.

I registered and read it. Found it interesting in parts as actually asking the question re child privacy but then the whole thing came down to self justification.

I’d love to read or hear some actual critical thinking in this from people with nothing to lose or gain. Too much emotional hoo ha from so many. Maybe R4 can do something I’d listen to that

Also I disagree that greedy and jealousy are just the same thing said over. You can absolutely be the first without inciting the second. But these words seem to stir things and muddy the arguments so happy to talk without them

The other thing is this is moving so fast that we need to think about whether it’s a good thing. Brands will stomp everywhere for a sale if people are willing to lap it up. When it comes to young children, is that good?

In response to the UMM saying she finds it weird being recognised - i totally get that it must be strange. I have a tiny following on my Instagram compared to hers, but it's quite niche within certain circles. I don't follow everyone who follows me, and there have been a handful of times I've been at events and had people shout my name or come up to me and I really don't know who they are. It makes me think about what I post; and is the main reason my children don't feature on my public page at all.

I just cannot fathom why watching Papapukka juggle bagels for his breakfast would make me want to buy them.

Do these #ads and collaborations even work. I just roll my eyes and mentally tick another box. Don't buy pampers, don't buy New York bagels buy own brand, don't buy little piccolo or whatever.

Guardian article today

The 'sharent' trap – should you ever put your children on social media?

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/may/24/sharent-trap-should-parents-put-their-children-on-social-media-instagram?

Well that's better isn't it?

Still some what missing what actually happened, but it's actually an article.

Also, far more constructive than IG users shouting loudly that the MN user who talked about the event she attended is a "fucking liar and a prick" [sic]

Interesting angle, without demonising Instamums.

I can never work out why people who share pics of their kids would have public profiles. Why would you want (potentially) the whole world watching your kid eat breakfast, or splashing in a paddling pool?

My account is private and locked down to people I know.

I liked this phrasing in the Guardian article...

Genevieve von Lob, clinical psychologist and author of Five Deep Breaths: The Power of Mindful Parenting, says: “More and more parents are questioning the wisdom of posting so much about their kids online. The pictures that are uploaded can form a permanent digital tattoo. Because it’s all so new for parents, we need to start thinking about asking children’s permission to post online.”

Perhaps if people started talking in terms of digital tattoos rather than digital footprints, we’d remember the permanency of our online actions.

It’s better esp the brief part about why the account was closed, but still a bit soft and common sense.

I like the part that says until we can ask we shouldn’t share publicly

Hang on I’ll try to find it

The comments are interesting in that it’s 100% no
‘It isn’t about he child it’s about the parent being narcissistic’
From the articles I have read not one single article
or BTL comment has anything positive to say.
So the only people who do think that it is fine to expose your children are the people doing it. ( and wanna be fan girls )
Hopefully the tide is turning.
As it is never going to be beneficial for children long term , surely that is reason enough to stop.

If I could only copy and paste it..

Here’s a screen shot

sparklefluff I saw that last night and very nearly posted about it here, but I just unfollowed and left it.

I also unfollowed once I got to the end of it.

Shame.