To think this isn't being busy?

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Wake up at 8am
Go on an hour walk
Go to a music lesson
Go to a driving lesson
Revise for an hour
Go to work for 5 hours
Bed at 11pm

Goodness me, what a lot of busy people who have no concept of how humans differ in what they can cope with in a day. Jolly well done, all of you, in your competitive busyness.

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I think that's too busy for a 17 year old who has exams coming up.

I'd be saying something's got to give to allow for more focus on academic work until exams are over.

Either music and driving lessons on hold or give up the job for now.

I can imagine she's feeling it under huge pressure actually with all that to accomplish.

Give her a break.

If teen is 17 and has exams in next month should be revising 5-6 hours each day if on study leave not going out to work for 5 hours.

Teens need a lot of rest theircbodies are rapidly developing. I remember needing to nap every day after school.

Surely that's only one day a week though as I'm sure they don't have a music lesson and a driving lesson every day. So if it's just one day a week it's nothing.

Not at all busy when most people have to work 8 hour days or more, commute an hour each way and then fit in chores, hobbies and leisure. College and University was 9-5, in my day, then I had course work and nights and weekends working.

jade9390 bit most off the puerile conjuring an hour each way to work 8+ hours then firing in chores, honors etc will be adults.

I used to commute an hour to 6th form (school so we were in for full days) future 8.40 - 3.40 plus working two 3.45hr shifts a week and homework and a boyfriend and a social life. It didn't make me a better or worse adult, it just made me a tired teenager who doing anyways make her bed or put her washing in the washer ascend bio one else did it for me do that was fine.

She's going to get a shock when she has a full time job and a family and a house to contend with.
But when she has a full time job she's unlikely to be in college and revising.
She's likely to have a full time job before her own place unless she goes to uni and has shared accommodation but that change trends to be incremental too. And she's likely to do all that before having a child, hopefully with a partner.

If she wakes up tomorrow, discovers she's pregnant, her parents kick her out and she had to suddenly do it all then yeah, it'll be a shock but that isn't most people's lives.

My gast is flabbered by the number of people saying OP’s DD’s day is ‘very busy’.

I make no wonder that our productivity levels are so laughably low in the U.K.

Erm, that's not what productivity means, in the economic sense. But you knew that, didn't you.

8 am Wake up at 8am
8-8.45 Washed, dressed, breakfast

9-10 Go on an hour walk

10.10 Travel to music lesson

10.30-11.30 am Go to a music lesson

11.40Travel home

12-12'45 Get lunch, tidy up

1-2 Go to a driving lesson

2.15-3.30 Revise for an hour

Get dressed for work, grab a snack, lack a drink etc

4-4'20 Travel to work

4.30- 9.30 Go to work for 5 hours

9'40-10 Travel home and get some food, relax.

Bed at 11pm

What else do people think she can fit in?? 9 hours sleep assuming she sleeps immediately is fine at that age before someone suggests she gets up at 6 to feed the orphans our change bed pans

Is that one day a week or every day? If it was every day I'd say yes that's busy, and I'd find that busy as an adult as well. I work full time and that's enough for me for one day. I don't do any chores during the week because I like to rest in the evenings, I'll only socialise once or twice a week again because I like to chill out. From the minute I wake up to when I get home again from work is almost 12 hours and that's enough for me for one day. But if this is only one day a week that's different

Parenthood is about preparing the young for independent living.

She needs to be cooking, cleaning and doing housework and her own laundry or helping with it as a happy family is a good team.

If she refuses, refuse to do her laundry!

Withdraw services unless their is a fair amount of give and take.

I think you should be grateful that you’ve managed to raise an independent individual. To me , (I have two DD similar age) that is quite a busy day. Well done to her for fitting it all in. Don’t worry about adulthood, that will come to her quick enough with all its problems and rewards. A messy room is small potatoes in the grand scheme

Yes that's busy. Not sure why it wouldn't be seen that way to most people. Exercise, loads of educational activities and a job! I would be proud of my 17yo if that was their schedule!

It's busy enough for a 17 yr old doing A levels.

My teenagers are exhausted. Both doing exams/revision, work, sleep, socialising. It's tough being a teenager because there are a lot of demands mentally, your body is growing/changing which is physically demanding, and concentration is required for quite long periods of learning. And then there's just the tough bit of actually being a teenager. At this time of year I prefer not to make any extra demands on them. I keep the doors on their rooms closed and they take it in turn to empty the dishwasher.

Give the poor girl a break

I think that's way too much for a teenager doing exams. She's not an adult, her body and brain are constantly changing, mood swings are exhausting, and all this adult world stuff is new. Does no-one remember being young?! It's simply not the same as someone in their 30s getting all that done. And honestly, it would be too much for me at 36.

I also think its busy. The 5 hour job is only 3 hours off a full working day and teens do get tired. Studying is a lot to take in and also they have the pressure on, driving is also tiring. Its a lot of things coming in different directions so a lot to take in.

I'd say that's pretty busy. Especially as it a lot of varied things. Doesn't sound like much time to relax/read etc.

...and I'm absolutely loving all the 'competitive busy' comments :-). What is wrong with everyone? There's nothing virtuous about being busy. Maybe teaching kids to relax and let go is also a good thing! And I say that as someone who's had to work hard for a small salary. Encourage downtime, daydream, smell the roses, and all that.

I think that's quite a busy day myself.