To think this isn't being busy?

[EnergyM]

Wake up at 8am
Go on an hour walk
Go to a music lesson
Go to a driving lesson
Revise for an hour
Go to work for 5 hours
Bed at 11pm

'busy' is subjective (as we can see) but Op your daughter had a variety of tasks, each taking up a chunk of the day. I'm sure if she came on and listed her day with every single minute detail of actions, a la hungryhippo90 ("feed the dog" ) she might reach the 'busy' of some on this thread.

Do you not like your daughter @EnergyM? Or is there another reason you feel the need to get at her and publicly (all be it anonymously) post about her laziness? Why do you feel the need to make life unhappy for her?

Choose you battles. Tell her you'd like her to make her bed and put washing into the basket. If she doesn't,she doesn't. Her bed in unmade and her washing not done.

Sounds busy to me.

@HaudYerWheeshtBawbag
Did you not read all the posts about stealth boasting and how cunty it was??

Speckledust that sounds far too much for 12 year old, very sad .

And yes busy for a 17 year old.

Some of these lives sound very stressful for young people . Can they not just BE anymore?

Mine ( and we have 5, 3 of them teens ) are not nagged or told to tidy their rooms.

They do it when they want and two are immaculate, one not. I dont care because 1) it's not my room and 2) they need to learn for themselves.

Haudyer that's a bit much for a 12 year old

Competitive busyness!! Only on Mumsnet

Busy here too

I'm super busy right now scrolling through mumsnet

Sounds busy to me especially for a teenager. Of course she technically has time to make her bed but we all have days where we don't want to do that last little house work task. Where mentally you're done.

You sound quite unsupportive. I'm pleased my parents cut me some slack through stressful exam times. Teenagers do need more sleep, they do have lots of hormones flying around and they are still developing physically and mentally. I'd cut her some slack, mental health is important too rather than 'ooh you've only been busy for 15 hours surely you have time to make your bed'

She's telling you she's struggling and tired. At least she's communicating.

And all these posters 'ooh that's nothing, I barely sleep I'm so busy'. It's not about you.
I hate competitive busy posts.

hungryhippo you do realise you are not a 17 year old girl? So your 'I'd kill for a day like that' competitive busy post is completely irrelevant and nobody needs to see your breakdown of activities.

Busy for a 17 year old.

I'd say yes that is busy.

Not too busy, but as a secondary school teacher I'd be worried about the fact that work, driving and listening to music have meant that she only leaves herself one hour for revision.

I think that’s busy...

Yes i think that sounds quite busy.

Bloody hell who insists on a 17 year old making their bed? They're going to move out soon enough let them micromanage themselves if they want to. They should clear after themselves in the common space but other than that let them grow up and decide how they keep their own space.

I used to get this from my youngest teenager. A similar routine was offered up as to why she was so tired and sooo stressed. I did once absolutely lose it and told her she wasn’t allowed to be tired and stressed until she had done a full morning hospital shift, shopped on way home and cooked a meal for 6.
Working life has sorted her out.

I think it’s quite busy. She’ll have to practice for her music lesson too. There’s a lot of concentration involved in the music lesson, driving lesson and the revision so she’ll be mentally tired plus she actually works !! I thought you were going to say she gets up and just watches TV

Did she even ask to be born op? . made me laugh too, thanks.

Learning things is tiring (driving, revising) so I'd be giving her a free pass until after the exams.

I get what you mean OP, and I don't know what attitude you've had to put up with, but we all complain when we're horribly busy - yet want our daughters to be the same??

I think that is quite busy yes...... but having been a teenager myself are we quite sure this is in day, not a week ;)

I think that is quite busy. It's quite a structured day and depending on the actual timings, she may feel she doesn't have much downtime.

I would say the revision is the most important and you should be supporting that
The walk could be shorter , the driving lesson and the job should go on hold until after the exams
Beds don't need to be made so ignore that

That's more than what I did today!

That's not too busy for a teenager. There is nothing exactly heavy physical unless the work is lugging logs about. Occupied for about 9 hours a day, doesn't know she is living!