To think this isn't being busy?

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Wake up at 8am
Go on an hour walk
Go to a music lesson
Go to a driving lesson
Revise for an hour
Go to work for 5 hours
Bed at 11pm

Why are you concerned with whether it’s objectively ‘busy’ or not? It will be busy for some, not for others. I’m assuming she does most of the activities by choice?
Like a PP said, if her washing isn’t in the basket it doesn’t get washed and if her bed isn’t made well... her bed isn’t made. She’ll soon decide whether she’s too busy or not when she’s got no clothes to wear.

Pfft to all the people who think that is a busy day

What do your days entail? Get up at 11am, watch day time tv, eat donuts, go on the internet, back to bed?

It’s a good productive day for a weekend.

You might want to suggest that she looks at things like putting washing in the laundry basket as basic tasks (rather than additional chores).

After all she’d never be too busy to have a shower or brush her hair as these are basic starting the day things.

I'd be shattered. Maybe I'm lazy!

What do your days entail? Get up at 11am, watch day time tv, eat donuts, go on the internet, back to bed?

Yeah, because there’s no middle ground at all .
A typical weekend day for me involves getting up, taking the DC to their ballet class (while I have a leisurely coffee), take the DC scooting round the park for a couple of hours, come home and play in the garden, make dinner, put the DC to bed then sit in the garden with DH and chatting over a glass of wine. Deliberate relaxed and leisurely. Doesn’t make me less worthy as a person!

Learning to drive is exhausting. When I was having lessons I'd deliberately not plan to do much else that day.

Are you trying to imply that she is being lazy? You might be, not sure. I would call that a fairly full day, though if she is doing exams at the moment, as my teenager is, then perhaps it should be re-jigged so that another hour of revision can be fitted in.

I presume that she makes time to eat and drink, as well as travel to work and music lessons.

So actually yes, I would call it busy.

She's on the go for 15 hours. I'd say that's busy. Obviously not as busy as Tom Daley or Yo-Yo Ma upthread, but busy enough for lapses in housekeeping to occur. There's not a lot of downtime so I guess when she stops she just wants to stop completely.

I wouldn't say it's lazy, but it's certainly not busy.

My days start at 5am and finish around 9pm, (even when i was at school and in exam periods) so my view may be skewed!

Good God, that is busy, very busy, cut her some slack.

I consider it part of my 'job' as a mother to make my DD's life as stress free as possible, and that includes picking up dirty clothes off the floor. She tries SO hard at everything else.

Is this every day. If I was being made to do this every day at 17 I wpuld tell my parents to go fuck themselves and put their own bloody washing on

It's busier than some teens, but not an overly demanding day.

She'll learn what busy is when she's in the real world, bless her

one hour is really not a lot of revision! She needs to do more than that

Speckledust that sounds awful. Are you one of those horrible pushy parents?

Busy for 17.

Wow speckledust how fuking rude! Just because we think that is a busy day for a 17 year old does not mean we are greedy slobs as your post implies. Clearly you aren't too busy to be a dick...

To any young people out there reading this, please know you don’t have to burn yourself into the ground early on in life and wear yourself out until you’re a depressed, anxious mess with various health issues making you feel lousy before you even hit middle age. (Have you read half the posts from busy people on here?) You don’t get many years on planet earth and they’re not all to be spent slaving away in an office and doing laundry and proving just what a good little busy human being you are. Have some fun.

It sounded like a productive day. There’s people out there faking stuff for benefits and sat drinking beer or doing drugs all day. You’ll be able to spot them easily, they look and smell like a garbage truck.

Btw I love that somebody referred to lazy people going on the internet and eating junk food. I bet they scarfed their lunch whilst they typed that....on the internet 😂

I’ll see myself out.

TheWhale yup, sadly I wouldn't have dared but boy did I want to.

You don’t get many years on planet earth and they’re not all to be spent slaving away in an office and doing laundry and proving just what a good little busy human being you are. Have some fun

Exactly. I hate the attitude that people are only worthy if they’re running themselves ragged.

Nope, not pushy or rude, just surprised that some people consider 5 hours work plus 2 hours of learning/activity very busy and wondered what most people’s daily activity involved.

For the record, I have really lazy days but I think a 17 year-old should be contributing a basic level of help in the house where they live.

SpeckleDust compared to my average day that really is a busy one...but then at 38 weeks pregnant i get told to sit on my arse as much as possible 🙃 judgy or what!

Why such a big thing about bed making & washing? I'm 30 near enough, i rarely make my bed & my 5 year olds bed unmade is the least of my problems. Is it such a big deal?? As for clothes not in the laundry basket, simple...if they aren't where they should be, they don't get washed. No hardship, no stress, no biggie!

Given that that is around 9 hours a day and she presumably also has to spend time getting to and from driving and music lessons and work I would say that yes, it is pretty busy.

You force her out for an hours walk? You sounds like a bit of a pain in the arse tbh

I think juggling part time work, sixth form, driving lessons and social life is a lot.

I know plenty do it, but it’s still a lot.

I'm impressed that you can get your 17 year old to go for an hours walk every day.. .please share your secret as to how you managed that?