To think this isn't being busy?

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Wake up at 8am
Go on an hour walk
Go to a music lesson
Go to a driving lesson
Revise for an hour
Go to work for 5 hours
Bed at 11pm

One like this:
www.researchopinions.co.uk/projects/media-city-salford/research-children-aged-9-10/

(Not this particular one)

Every day is a school day

hungryhippo90 but you're an adult. You chose to get married,have a house, have children, have a dog, work.

Op's child is a child in college facing huge exams.

Not sure what your point is hippo. It appears that you work fewer hours than OP's daughter.

HungryHippo but your day is basically
Get up
Eat and make sure dd eats/do her hair
Go to work for 6 hours
Come home and make tea
Do a bit of tidying and washing
Studying if you have the time.

I don't see how your day is massively busier?

Yeah, I don't think "feed dog" is really worthy of being on the list! It's not exactly time consuming

hungryhippo90 feeding a dog takes 20 seconds, if that. Stop taking shit.

That's a lot of mental work and very draining so I think yabu. However she needs to learn that's par for the course as an adult and housework still needs doing!

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I think it’s quite busy actually

People's varying ideas of what constitutes busy fascinates me. I have a cousin who is always incredibly busy, doesn't have a minute, rushed off her feet etc. She was a SAHM with the youngest child mid-teens when she compared her level of busyness as being exactly the same as her SIL, who was working full time as a GP with 3 children under 5 at the time.

Everyone thinks they're busier than everyone else- as long as you're trying your hardest, it's probably true. Sounds like she's doing her best and is trying to let you know that. Teenagers need more sleep than adults, and a lot of the things in her schedule are very draining. Revising and exam stress can really take it out of you, as can learning to drive. When I was doing my exams my parents bent over backwards to make every other aspect of my life easier - it hasn't resulted in me being lazy, only grateful for everything they did. Please don't let her spread herself too thin, this is a really really important time in her life

I think that is a full day. Busy might be stretching it a little but maybe just be thankful that she is achieving that much in a day. Plenty of teenagers won't achieve half that is a day.

It’s 8 hours is of work so a bit more than a 9-5 day plus travel time / mental switching do longer really. I’m not saying they have a hard life but they are busy. They should help a bit when they can or on other less busy days though

Yep it is busy.

Not overly so but I would still think it is busy, more mentally as others have already said.

My oldest teen struggled when he started working and becoming more busier. It was quite an adjustment to go from school to working and studying at a higher level. He was extra tired for a long while. I assumed it was quite normal for someone getting used to the world of work and extra responsibilities. It was a big change and he struggled with tiredness.

Some teens might find it easy but mine didn't and really struggled between the ages of 16 and 18.

There is definitely a competitive busyness thing that lots of people do - I guess we all have it hammered into us that it's virtuous. Probably going a bit too far when you're a grown woman trying to score points against a teenager you've never met though.

Oh wow, id kill for this day.

There is always one who has to outline their day to show how busy they are.

You have children and work. Of course you are busier. Not comparable.

I think it's very busy day. It's also very stressful as she works towards different exams.

Hungry hippo - 2 loads of washng a day? And why do you pick up dinner every day??

I am with those that think a child facing their exams should have everything else made as stress free as possible. Mind you bed making has always been very low down my list of priorities.

If time is being used being productive and not sitting idle, then you are busy.

Really busy!

Yes that sounds busy. Actually to me it sounds busy for anyone, but especially for a teenager who may find a lot of these things new and stressful (driving lesson, revision, work) and isn't used to juggling and having no spare time the way parents are.

My 12 year olds routine

5.30 get dress for football training
6.15 to 7.30 football training
7.30 showered and dressed for school until 3.15pm

4.30pm picks his brother up from after school club, where he goes home and empties the dish washer and refills the dish washer. has dinner, gets his kit etc..

5pm his dad takes him to what every sporting event he has, sometimes x 2 events

8.30pm homework and down time, lights out by 9.30pm.

And it all starts again...

OP, when I was 17 I'd moved out of home (at my own insistence) and signed up for the barest minimum of A levels at my local FE college so that I could claim income support. I possibly made it to 50% of my classes and spent most of the rest of the time lounging around with my mates smoking French cigarettes, drinking coffee/wine and having incredibly wanky conversations. I definitely didn't make my bed . I grew up eventually, had a great relationship with my Mum throughout and now have several degrees and the full compliment of husband, child and huge mortgage. Times have obviously changed and I wouldn't necessarily recommend my pathway, but bloody Hell your teenager sounds like a saint!!

Sorry Haud but that isn't a childhood I'd want for mine, I don't care how very talented he is.

He has half an hourhour to get his brother, get home, get some food and be ready to go out again, plus sort the dish washer??

And an hour for homework and downtime at 12 is mainly time for homework.

When does he get to be a kid, other than at school??