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To think her Mum should walk her down the aisle - not Prince Charles!!

181 replies

whyismykid · 18/05/2018 10:11

Jeez - trying not to get involved in royal wedding chaos - but this is such a no brainer! Surely her Mum should give her away? Or are they all racist misogynistic traditionalists?

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derxa · 18/05/2018 11:25

but can see a good egg at work. Yes Charles isn't my favourite but he's stepped up here.

lifechangesforever · 18/05/2018 11:27

Maybe her mother doesn't want to walk her down the aisle in front of millions of people.

TeisanLap · 18/05/2018 11:32

However, a part of me wonders if the palace couldn't cope with the idea of a black woman walking her down the aisle and strongly discouraged it*

I doubt it very much.

Deshasafraisy · 18/05/2018 11:33

It’s her wedding and she can do wtf she wants!

LaurieMarlow · 18/05/2018 11:36

I doubt it very much

I acknowledged it was speculation. But it definitely crossed my mind as a possibility.

The80sweregreat · 18/05/2018 11:40

He has stepped up, will show some support and might even put him in a good light with the public, who are mostly divided over him i feel after his chequered past! Its a great PR move for them all. The Royals always come out on top!

DarthArts · 18/05/2018 11:48

I've avoided posting on these threads so far but I'll bite now.

Tbh I'm quite shocked at all the vitriol about MM.

There's so much speculation about everything that's happened and the only thing to be certain of is that we probably don't know the half of it.

What we do know, is that aside from her mother, her family have behaved appallingly since news of the relationship broke.

I'm damn sure if there had been an AIBU on "should I invite my estranged family to the wedding when they've been selling stories about me" the result would have been a resounding no.

As for her father, it's no secret their relationship was not especially close and hadn't been so for some time. We don't know why though.

I personally don't think TM had any intention of going to the wedding and frankly could well be a damn site more media (and financially) savvy than people realise.

As for MM - well she can't do right for doing wrong can she?

She may have wanted her mother to walk her down the isle but DR was nervous about it? Who knows.

As it is DR will be in the car taking her to Windsor - so hardly sidelined, but playing an important and very visible role.

I liked the statement from KP - notice not "giving away" but "accompanying down the aisle".

I think it's a good move frankly and restores a bit of dignity back to the occasion.

Yes she could have done it alone, but with so many watching I'd appreciate a bit of support, especially from someone so experienced and it focuses attention back to the royal family and not the missing errant father.

It's a good PR move imho. The RF showing solidarity for MM and doing what they do i.e. put on a good show.

ilovesooty · 18/05/2018 11:49

I'm still amazed that so many people can get worked up about it.

I bet the bride and groom will he glad when the whole event is finished. What a fucking fuss.

jay55 · 18/05/2018 11:49

Elton John should have stepped in, he’s a good bridge between showbiz and the royals.

MorganKitten · 18/05/2018 11:51

Maybe her mum doesn't want to? I'm sure its all been spoken about. Maybe her mum wants to see her walk down the asilie and be proud of her that way?
Also why are people so worried about it - Its not your wedding

anon135 · 18/05/2018 11:51

Ugh people really love to get their knickers in a twist over absolutely everything...or can I not say that as referring to knickers is 'sexist'. You have no idea what discussions have been had, who asked who and who felt what about anything. Stop feeling chronically offended on other people's behalf.

TeisanLap · 18/05/2018 11:51

DarthArt - great post.

lubeybooby · 18/05/2018 11:54

Mum would have been nice, but it must be terrifying

I think Charles doing it is a lovely gesture of welcoming her

The80sweregreat · 18/05/2018 11:54

Darth, i do agree, however, the tide is already turning a bit even on here ( and even from me!)
its a good idea, good for him etc etc. They have done a really 11th hour job of turning this week into a bit of a positive before tomorrow.

Goes to show what good PR can manage when faced with the vitriol that the press can churn out on anybody at any time!

Shockers · 18/05/2018 12:01

Hey Meghan, you might want to familiarise yourself with the story about the man, the boy and the donkey if you’re planning on staying in Britain ...

Skarossinkplunger · 18/05/2018 12:11

Actually there is a tradition. After her husband died Queen Victoria walked two
of her children down the aisle.

divadee · 18/05/2018 12:12

Meghans mum wouldn't be the first mum to give away a royal bride though. Queen Victoria gave away her daughter's at their wedding after Albert had died. So I don't think it's protocol or anything. As I said earlier I would not want that role I would be pooping myself all the way down the aisle.

WyclefJohn · 18/05/2018 12:14

There's so much speculation about everything that's happened and the only thing to be certain of is that we probably don't know the half of it.

Agreed

What we do know, is that aside from her mother, her family have behaved appallingly since news of the relationship broke.

However, this is also speculation. What I had heard about TM, for example, is that he was already being hounded, and decided a course of action that might have been inadvisable, but perhaps thought would alleviate the pressure (however, this is speculation).

LaurieMarlow · 18/05/2018 12:30

Actually there is a tradition. After her husband died Queen Victoria walked two
of her children down the aisle.

The palace may view a reigning monarch rather differently to an American commoner, even without getting into the race issues.

I'm not saying that the palace did shut down Doria doing the honours, just that it's one of the many, many possibilities swirling around - which we'll probably never get to the bottom of.

DarthArts · 18/05/2018 12:31

Well we do know her family have behaved badly rather than speculating because we've seen the numerous letters/interviews/paid for photos all over the media.

We can speculate on their motivation, but it's a fact that her fathers side of the family have gone on record expressing negative opinions or selling pictures for which they have been paid.

As for PC he's not just showing support for MM he's demonstrating his support for his son.

By this act he's basically saying to PH I stand by your choice of future wife and your decision. Imho the right thing to do.

UnicornRainbowColours · 18/05/2018 12:35

She asked him but I think it’s a lovely gesture. Perhaps her mum didn’t want to do it.

DarthArts · 18/05/2018 12:36

And tbh it's sounding like she will enter the church alone.

The statement says the aisle of the Quire - which is halfway down the church.

So maybe an even better compromise here if she is driven to the church with her other, enters the church alone and is joined halfway by PC.

However I'm sure someone will find fault with that!

DarthArts · 18/05/2018 12:36

Mother not other....

Xenia · 18/05/2018 12:36

She could just walk down there herself of course which would be best option of all!

Secondly her half brother is in the UK so may be ask him if it really does have to be a male relative.

Bluntness100 · 18/05/2018 12:37

I think many folks would be extremely nervous about walking down the aisle in front of the worlds cameras and all those people. Her mum seems a very private person who does not court the public eye. I'm sure she'd have done it if it came to it, but as Charles is happy to and it's a lovely gesture from him, it seems a win win solution.

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