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To think her Mum should walk her down the aisle - not Prince Charles!!

181 replies

whyismykid · 18/05/2018 10:11

Jeez - trying not to get involved in royal wedding chaos - but this is such a no brainer! Surely her Mum should give her away? Or are they all racist misogynistic traditionalists?

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LaurieMarlow · 18/05/2018 10:48

I would have loved for her mum to do it.

But lots of dynamics at play and difficult to know what's going on. Perhaps her mum didn't want to and in that case fair enough.

However, a part of me wonders if the palace couldn't cope with the idea of a black woman walking her down the aisle and strongly discouraged it. I know that's pure speculation though, we'll never know the full story.

The80sweregreat · 18/05/2018 10:49

I saw a picture of Prince Charles a wedding 'giving someone away' - not sure who or why, but he has done it before.

Kelsoooo · 18/05/2018 10:49

I had no family at my wedding.

Families are curious things, and until you live through the various estrangements, arguments, mental exhaustion...and come to accept your family isn't "the accepted normal" you can't really grasp it.

If I was to remarry, I wouldnt have anyone walk me down the aisle.

At my wedding, my best friend walked me down.

PerfectlyDone · 18/05/2018 10:50

If her mother walked her down the aisle, that would be a nice gesture.
Actually a fucking fantastic gesture indicating that the royal family is actually aware that they are living in the 21st century.

PC doing it is the obvious choice IMO (as she does not seem to have pushed for doing it on her own/with a bridesmaid/best friend/anybody else).

I am looking forward to the wedding for the clothes and hats (Eugenie and Beatrice, I am looking at you, girls!), but otherwise? Meh.

The80sweregreat · 18/05/2018 10:51

Laurie, could be, or Mum said 'no way am i doing that', would be different if millions of people were not watching.

the Palace needed a bit of a positive spin on things this week. - this is ideal.

MumofBoysx2 · 18/05/2018 10:52

I agree, it's so odd. Her mum should walk her down the aisle.

PrettyLovely · 18/05/2018 10:58

"Families are curious things, and until you live through the various estrangements, arguments, mental exhaustion...and come to accept your family isn't "the accepted normal" you can't really grasp it."

Totally agree with this!

derxa · 18/05/2018 10:59

Or are they all racist misogynistic traditionalists? Yawn

echt · 18/05/2018 10:59

Don't know why Meghan's mum is not doing this but:

Prince Charles gave his ex-wife full honours on her death, going to Paris to see her body, accompanying her coffin, ensuring it was met with all flags flying.

In the absence of more info, I think he's doing this again; the right thing in a very difficult situation.

For what it's worth I am a fervent republican but can see a good egg at work.

myrtleWilson · 18/05/2018 11:00

Even if it is entirely possible her mom doesn't want to do it boys ?

Nanny0gg · 18/05/2018 11:03

I think it's lovely. He has no daughters so only chance. He'll know what to do and what to expect. Very reassuring for Meghan I would think.
If I was her mum I'd be terrified at the thought of the whole thing. Wouldn't want that pressure as well.

honeylulu · 18/05/2018 11:04

I was really hoping she would decide to walk by herself.
I find the idea if being given away really yuck - women reduced to mere chattels passed around by men.

Though I understand she will be nervous and probably prefers to have someone accompany her on the walk. It sort of makes sense it is someone who knows the form and won't be fazed by it. As PP are saying maybe her mum was uncomfortable about doing it. She already has a defined role, accompanying her daughter to the chapel (usually also the dad's role) and she might have been happy to stick to the original plan.

I sincerely hope Charles won't "give her away" in the ceremony. It wouldn't make sense in the traditional sense, and in any case an adult woman (and divorcee at that) chooses to be married of her own free will. No "giving" is necessary. At my wedding my dad accompanied me up the aisle but I insisted the "giving away" part was left out of the ceremony.

PerfectlyDone · 18/05/2018 11:04

I feel the need to qualify my previous post:
if her mother wanted to walk her down the aisle and was prevented from doing so due to some weird royal protocol shit, then that is terrible.

If she did not want to do it (for whatever reason; the attention for one must be horrific) and Meghan did not have an alternative in mind, then PC is not a terrible choice.

Creambun2 · 18/05/2018 11:06

Meghan is an airhead. I give it two years before the split and book deal.

Redglitter · 18/05/2018 11:08

Or are they all racist misogynistic traditionalists

You know Meghan personally then and know that it wasn't her choice to have Charles do it? You know for sure her mother wanted to but was side lined?? Hmm

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 18/05/2018 11:09

How can Charles be giving her away when she is entering into his family
Granted it doesn't take much but I'm utterly
baffled. Confused

KateMiddletonsOtherMum · 18/05/2018 11:16

Michael offered, but the Palace said no. Gutted.

LaurieMarlow · 18/05/2018 11:17

Exactly what perfectly done said. And the likelihood is we'll never actually know which of those possibilities is closer to the truth.

HerMajestysSecret · 18/05/2018 11:17

I find her to be very manipulating. This is not a job for her future FIL. Of course the Palace will accept because it's a helpful PR boost.

Has this woman really reached the age of 36 workout having a single male person in her life who could do this job for her? No-one at all?

Either she doesn't, which says a lot, or she does but doesn't seem them suitable. I think there has been a total airbrushing of her past. No relatives from either side of her family, only celebs and stylists and Canadian socialites.

She wants the history books to show her and the future king walking down the aisle (see how much my new family loves me!) not some hairdresser or actor or black cousin who wouldn't quite fit Meghan's new profile.

Little orphan Annie being swept up by her prince and his family. What a fairy-tale!

LaurieMarlow · 18/05/2018 11:18

Michael offered, but the Palace said no. Gutted.

Michael had his moment - what a drama queen. Grin

HerMajestysSecret · 18/05/2018 11:19

Actually I'd like to amend my post. Of course it didn't need to be a male relative or friend - either sex would have done Meghan, just someone who matters to you.

But PC will look very good indeed on her arm. One for the album.

ikeepaforkinmypurse · 18/05/2018 11:19

HerMajestysSecret
your post doesn't say anything about the real Meghan, but an awful lot about you. You need to get a life!

MrsDilber · 18/05/2018 11:21

Maybe her DM doesn't want to. I think it's quite nice.

TeisanLap · 18/05/2018 11:24

In the absence of more info, I think he's doing this again; the right thing in a very difficult situation

I agree. He’s stepping up to mark.

CornishMaid1 · 18/05/2018 11:24

She could get her tv husband to give her away to her new husband!

Actually, I like that Prince Charles is doing it. He is a good person and he will be a good support for her - he is used to being in the middle of a media circus and will help guide her through.