AIBU husband won't let me attend his gigs

[Bijoux55]

My husband is a musician & DJ. We used to always go his gigs together and I helped sell merchandise etc. Now he has a new band and refuses to let me go with him to gigs or DJ slots. He says it's his thing, there's no room in the car - anything. Even if it's in our town. We seldom go out together anyway and I feel unreasonably lonely (I have no family & few friends) and left out after enjoying going to the gigs for many years. If I approach him about it he gets angry. Then I get tearful and he gets crosser. I feel like I'm trying to foist myself somewhere I'm obviously not welcome anymore. Quite depressed. There are 2 other people in the band, a man & a woman. We have no children so no babysitting problems. Any ideas? Thanking people in advance.

Either he's got his eye on someone else or wants to keep the opportunity a possibility or you cramp his style.

Whatever it is I'd be planning on a life solo. If he shuts down when you try to talk about it then what else can you do?

Do you have children or joint assets? You might be in need of a divorce lawyer.

I used to live with a muso and went to all the gigs sometimes helped with setting up etc. I didn't get jealous except on one occasion when a girl sat on his lap right infront of me! Luckily he peeled her off of him he found it amusing but I didn't! Think his ego enjoyed it though.

My ex did this. He was shagging the merch bird.

After years of slagging off his two male band mates for doing exactly the same with sundry hangers on.

100% this is an OW I think. Sorry mate. It sucks...

I used to go out with a guy who was the lead singer in a band. I never attended his gigs even though he had no problem with me doing so. But I knew his "on stage" persona was totally different to the guy I knew in private, and he "worked the audience" which often involved flirting/playing up to the females in the crowd.

Despite this our relationship was rock solid and I chose to end it for totally different reasons. Could this be why your husband doesn't want you at his gigs?

Has he had any gigs over the weekend? Did you manage to go to one?