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[BenjaminaBlue]

Gym is a while from my house and I go in the morning before work. No time to head home and shower so have to shower there. They've refurbished and taken away the full length solid doors I loved so much and replaced with these which are quite transparent. You can see a lot when people are showering and I feel extremely uncomfortable using them. I am trying to lose weight and don't like my silhouette, and don't like the fact that someone can see me in the shower. AIBU to want the old doors back or is this just me and my self esteem getting in the way? Please no nasty comments, just wondered if it's a reasonable concern.

Is the change area women only or unisex? The former would not worry me much (although I could see that it would upset others) but the latter would send me running.

Our gym shower doesn't have any doors or cubicles. It's just one big room. One of the reasons why I don't as often as I'd like to.

@YetAnotherSpartacus it's women only. The issue for me is that I'm extremely self conscious, rather than feeling threatened or vulnerable etc.

Ours are the same, but the door has an integral towel hook so I don’t even think about it.

I’d fix a hook onto my wash bag to hook over the door and support my towel.

Why do people keep talking about what other people care about?
'no one will care'
'people wont be looking at you' etc

Why is it not enough for the person using the shower to feel uncomfortable at being naked and exposed?
When did it become weird to not want to be naked in front of strangers?

WTF are those doors about? What the hell is wrong with solid ones?

I think it's just your self esteem and they're fine doors. That doesn't mean you're unreasonable, of course.

i think vast majority[if not everybody] in a changing room do not really even notice others changing/naked or care to look at them really. In my experience, i go in, do my stuff, grab a shower and go. I notice nobody around me and think others have more to do than be looking at me in a shower or pulling up my socks.

@BenjaminaBlue - OK. I don't think it would worry me much, but I totally get that it would worry other women and I agree that a solid door would be better. A towel seems your best option until the silly doors get smashed.

It's to prevent people shagging or using needles (steds) in the showers. True story. It's why all gyms have sharps bins too.

It wouldn’t bother me but I can see that it would bother some people so YANBU. the gym I used to go to just had a wall of shower heads so I quickly got used to absolutely no privacy at all.

I really wouldn’t like that. My 22yr old has SN and I have to help her in the shower. I’d hate people watching us. And you know that they would.

Meh. People don't generally scrutinise other people's bodies in showers/changing rooms, I don't think. I use the open showers at my gym as the cubicles are tiny, and if anyone DOES want to look at my imperfect silhouette or me washing my bits, they can go for their lives; I couldn't care less. Maybe try to cultivate more of a 'so what' attitude, OP?

Don't go on holiday to Iceland, it's all communal shower rooms at the pool, no cubicles at all. And you have to use them as it's mandatory to shower before entering the pool. It makes it really easy to spot the British tourists as they're all huddling under towels saying "do I have to?"

I do appreciate why people don't like them. I think they have to be another product designed by men as I think most women wouldn't design doors like these. Or they'd make the door bit so opaque that you can't see through it but it still lets the light through.

Or a different colour glass door.

I've thought this with lots of products / designs.

I wouldn't like that, so yeah I'd be slinging a towel over the door.

''But really - no-one is going to do more than glance.''

exactly i think the whole thing about our obsession with the human body as something that has to be kept so private is beyond ridiculous. If my gym was in a small town and everybody knew me then yes i might understand but the gym i go to is full of strangers and I personally could not give a dam of who sees me naked-not that i think anybody would look. People in changing rooms generally all have the same body parts-they really have not much interest in sitting studying each other's bodies. My best mate keeps herself totally covered in the gym when we change and not 1 person ever looks at her I tell her, it's absurd.

I'd just use it, door or not. But a towel over is a good idea.

As a PP said it’s to discourage bad behaviour.

This includes shagging and shooting up mentioned up thread but also shitting in the showers and changing san pro and leaving it on the floor.

I work in facilities management, in professional environments and you wouldn’t believe the things I’ve seen left behind in showers and toilets.

So I understand that you are uncomfortable, but blame your fellow gym users for abusing the privacy.

Repetition but my first thought was to put a towel over it.

If it’s to discourage bad behaviour, why can’t the have the top and bottom see through and the bit that covers the body non see through?

''I think they have to be another product designed by men as I think most women wouldn't design doors like these.''

sigh-women here call themselves feminists and men sexiest then make remarks like this-no they are designed to stop romping and anti social behaviour in public showers if you must know. It's safeguarding for the public and the business. Same way cubicles in bars and nightclub toilets have stalls so security can easily monitor illegal drug use etc. in the stalls. It is not designed by men to see people showering! Besides vast majority[if not all] of changing rooms are single sex so men would get no benefit from the see through glass. What a stupid comment.

I'm 100% with you, op. Those shower doors are fucking awful. FGS, is it so unreasonable to want privacy while showering??

Go buy the biggest dark towel you can and hang it over the door.

This is a bit much. Put a complaint in about it. You are prob paying enough for membership. You also have the right to decent privacy when showering.

You could get one of those large but lightweight cloth Turkish towels for this specific purpose.

Our gym doesn't have doors, all the cubicles are open! I would complain if you're not happy though.