To hate the body positive movement

[Raven88]

I used to believe in it until I was diagnosed as pre diabetic. Genetically I gain weight easily and I comfort ate.

Since Boxing Day I have been eating healthy and started exercising and I've lost weight. But I've also become healthy. I used to be in constant pain and tired all the time but that changed as soon as I took charge.

It scares me that they are leading people down a dangerous path by promoting an unhealthy lifestyle.

@Potplant2

Gosh, now why didn’t I think of that?

rebelrogue what a lovely reply post to put

There are lots of people on here being deliberately obtuse.

OP YANBU

One of my biggest pet peeves about this movement is the sudden fashion to strip off. I know it's meant to be empowering, but to bee its degrading. You don't see men doing it (I can think of one instance, for publicity, but not the norm like it is with women). I have seen so many photo shoots with people stripping off for body positivity. Why? Can't you be dressed appropriately for the occasion and still be body positive?

Body positivity I can be on board with. But I feel it's morphing into something else that is not good.

Regardless of what you do, being overweight puts excess strain on your joints and whole system. No matter how fit you are, you'll be better off at an ideal weight rather than overweight.

I don’t think you quite understand it OP.

Interesting article about Charli Howard here, a body positive ambassador who talks about avoiding the unhealthiness associated with unrealistic body aspirations.

@Sosogoodagain resilience and persistence are some pretty damn good things to have. Be proud of that. It's so easy to say fuck it or avoid putting yourself in situations where you might be knocked back down,but it takes real strength and courage to keep going. Fighting never leaves you looking pretty, the good bits are there, just covered by scars and grime.

Had anyone ever looked at a fat person and thought "Cor, they should be positive about looking like that!!!

Why not? I admire all sorts of people for all sorts of reasons. Some very fat people look amazing. Some skinny people look dreadful. Like many, I have struggled with my weight and largely lose the battle but I refuse to feel bad about who I am and how I look.

@8oOoOoOo8 it depends if being covered up for the occasion means appropriate clothing or covering up things that make others uncomfortable... fat,scars,blemishes,self harm scars etc.

A bikini is perfectly appropriate wear at the beach but people with all those examples I gave are whispered about,laughed at,bullied,commented at,shouted at to "cover up".

I think it’s a positive thing. Even when i’m a healthy BMI 23/24 i’m a size 16 on top due to enormous boobs. I will never look “thin” despite actually being a healthy weight. Exercise tones me up elsewhere but not on my boobs. Clothes often don’t fit or drape oddly or show far too much cleavage. Body positivity and age has helped me to come to terms with this but I will always look big and just have to deal with it, although I still don’t like having my photo taken.
I’m still trying to lose a couple of stones of baby weight for health reasons, but I know that at my target weight of 10 stone which is a healthy weight for my height I will still be a size 16. To get to a 14 I think I would need to be 9 stone or under which isn’t a sustainable weight for me. I’m currently a size 18/20 at 12 stone and merely “overweight”. So not everyone who looks big is morbidly obese and you just need to work with your body type rather than against it.

I don't love my body. I don't hate my body. It's a body. I need one to exist on the planet. The best I can do is treat it the best I can with feeding and exercise and hope it doesn't let me down. It could let me down no matter how well I treat it. I don't really care about other people's bodies, that's their business.

@SauvignonBlanche That's the positive side of it but I mean the people who are clearly morbidly obese but claim to be healthy and say they don't need to change. It's all over Social media.

@Churchillian but I don't mean people like you. I mean people who are morbidly obese and unhealthy.

So how is this thread helping morbidly obese people? It isn't. So you started it to point out how much fatties disgust you and how they should be ashamed of themselves. Like all the 'oh I'm so worried about obesity' threads on here.

eva gonzales

@RebelRogue

I mean, for example, marathon running shorts and t-shirt. This might tiny Lycra skintight shorts and crop t-shirt. It never means bra and pants/ knickers.

And I didn't use the term 'covered up'. I said dressed appropriately for the occasion. Workwear will be different to beach wear, for example. Bikinis/ topless on the beach, if you wish. Dress differently for the shops.

sosogoodagain there goes those ingrained thoughts about yourself.thinking your giving off vibes.you aren't that what you feel from everything in life because of the belief about yourself and all you do.then nothing good will come through.
but resilience is amazing.to get back up and not give up on belief it might get better even by just a flicker is brilliant.
who knows what might come your way.good bad.but the fight means its all good in a way because you haven't given up.
if you see the beauty in the tiniest things the bigger things will grow and grow.it sound silly but its not.it remind you to smile.it reminds you of your persistence for good thigns

@8oOoOoOo8 I didn't say you did. I also wasn't attacking you. Just explaining that sometimes appropriate is not enough. Some people will still complain and comment because some element they find uncomfortable/disgusting/shameful/ unattractive is still on show. And maybe some trends of "over showing " started to combat that. Ofc some people can always take it to the extreme,just like anything else.

For me, I see it as you can be healthier at any size, so you can always walk a bit more, eat more veg etc etc
Obese doesn't always = not able to wipe your bum or bend over. This is what obese looks like on me. And yes, I'm well aware I am fat before someone kindly points that out, I'm just saying I can walk/exercise/live normally. I can't run but that's because of a medical condition!

Raven, a word of caution to you..from someone who has been there and knows..you are on the up just now (and the scale is going down)..which is fantastic, and you will be working hard at it I know..but Don't imagine you can't or won't relapse and find yourself in a place where a bit of body positivity might be a bit of a life saver. You can, so much more
easily than it seems right now. Don't hate them..understand that they are making a positive difference for some people
in what is not a kind or friendly world when you are overweight. They might make that difference for you one day.

Holdingtheline - your post made me wish there was a like button.

@Ollivander84 I'm twice your size. Probably around 3 of you in the waist/belly area.

Life is too short for a thread like this

Btw I never look at emaciated women and think cor I want to look
like that either! It usually evokes pity if anything