To hate the body positive movement

[Raven88]

I used to believe in it until I was diagnosed as pre diabetic. Genetically I gain weight easily and I comfort ate.

Since Boxing Day I have been eating healthy and started exercising and I've lost weight. But I've also become healthy. I used to be in constant pain and tired all the time but that changed as soon as I took charge.

It scares me that they are leading people down a dangerous path by promoting an unhealthy lifestyle.

I'd give you a , but you'll probably tell me I'm promoting obesity.

God forbid fatties (I say this as one) not hate themselves, amirite?

@RoomOfRequirement I don't think anyone should hate themselves. But not looking after your health isn't really positive. There is a obesity crisis and no one seems want to fix it.

@TheHulksPurplePanties No I'd just check if I had room in allowed calories.

Generally the "body positive" movement excuses gluttony and laziness and promotes obesity as the norm. Generally forgotton when people are told they have a serious medical condition.

'Stop hating yourself' is a response to fat shaming, and its not a bad message, especially not for women. Self hate is no way to live.

No one is saying 'dont look after yourself'. The fact is, some medical conditions/meds leave you with a choice of starvation or creeping weight gain. Some people are dealing with that.

Being negative about yourself (I can never do it) and hating your body (I'm so disgusting I can't go out) and feeling hopeless (this is all so bad I may as well eat to numb myself) is a vicious cycle that many - not all - overweight women find themselves in.
A bit of positivity can help pull you out of this cycle.

Where are the body positive ads and promotions?

I'm thinking of the 'this girl can' adverts

@FreudianSlurp I don't blame anyone else but myself. I was overweight before the body positive movement and I only agreed with it for a short period of time. It just scares me that younger people will latch onto it and obesity will be seen as ok.

@RunMummyRun68 I see it a lot online. I don't watch tv so I don't know.

Don't forget that it panders to their unrealistic notion that everyone has to be beautiful. It helps people Bury their heads in the sand instead accepting their bodies for what they really are. It would be more helpful to tell people that it is ok not to adhere to concertina beauty standards instead of making up new more inclusive ones. It just encourages vanity. People should spend less time thinking about how their bodies look and mode about how we they function.

I think it started as a movement to say “even if you’re big, you can still do healthy things like exercise, eat healthy food and take care of yourself generally”, I.e. don’t wait to be thin to start being good to yourself.

But then it morphed into proponents arguing that you can be healthy at any size, usually by young people posting about their “perfect blood work” when any complications relating to obesity haven’t actually manifested yet.

@Smeaton proud of having a shorter life span?

There is a obesity crisis and no one seems want to fix it.

Good job you're on the case now then Raven

I got flamed for saying similar. I hate the movement too and I'm obese myself.

I get what you're saying OP - it's the obvious lies about their sizes (a plus size 20 is not a real size 20), the wearing of clothes that are too tight and not at all flattering in order to push the 'body confidence' message, and the message that it's 'alright' to be that huge.

It's really NOT alright. I get out of breath a lot, my thighs rub together and I get sores, any outfit I wear doesn't change the fact I'm still fat, bright lipstick, big jewellery, doesn't change the fact that I'm fat, despite what the bloggers have you think.

Nothing wrong with being a bit overweight. I'd like to get down to maybe a 16, but the underwear and alternative beach body photographs on instagram are not bodies that should be aspired to.

I think people are deliberately misunderstanding the OP.

No one should hate their body or themselves because of the shape they are. But there is a middle ground, and telling people with a BMI of 40 that they should accept and love their curves, and that there’s more to life than eating celery, isn’t going to do anyone any favours. Ultimately they will suffer for it.

Angryburd yes,actually. I’m a 14 and think of myself as fat - my bmi is nudging obese- yet Ashley Graham is apparently a size bigger and I’d LOVE to look like her

Body positivity didnt make me fat.
Beautiful athletes and gorgeous slim models didnt make mewant to get healthy.

The first made me feel that im not worthless and ugly and the second made me loathe myself because im not then nor can i ever be at 5ft 2. Neither made me do anything serious about my weight.

I think youre missing the point op.

Nothing good comes from self loathing.

We arent fools.. we know what to do and we do it when WE want to not.

Body positive is not the same thing as promoting/glorifying or even normalising obesity.

Body positive should mean that people who've undergone things like amputation or who have burns or scars or anything out of the "ordinary" are supported in not feeling self conscious or worse in every day life. It should mean normalising everything and everybody.

It should NOT mean calling people like tess photoshop Munster a "model" and claiming that you can be just as healthy if you are ten stone overweight. Beautiful face, sure. Healthy role model? Something for women to aspire to? Hell NO.

Ignore the not.

If you feel positive about your body then you are more likely to care for it. The body positive movement is a response to people acting like fat people are contemptuous and shaming them which is far more likely to lead to shame and unhealthy behaviours. If you saw it as a licence to eat whatever you want, then that was your interpretation. I’m sure you were not unaware before that being overweight had health risks.

I disagree. I don't get the impression from any body positive stuff says that it is healthy to be overweight. But promoting the idea of being confident at any size might encourage people to get out more, take up a new exercise etc, and not feel that they have no right doing such things because they are overweight.

If you feel good about yourself, youre more likely to take good care of yourself. The opposite also applies. Therefore berating people for being fat might work for some, but for many will just make them retreat.