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To not get on the plane ?

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BrightonCalling · 13/05/2018 06:05

I have an awful hangover and also had a massive argument with dp last night. Feel like shit physically and mentally. Supposed to be going to see my parents for a week and getting flight this afternoon but have to get a tram, bus then train to the airport first.

Have seen i can get another flight tomorrow for 20 quid...

Should i go today or tomorrow? I feel guilty if i postpone but im not sure i can even walk straight

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applesandpears56 · 13/05/2018 08:37

Get your dp to drive you and talk on the way!

HopefullyAnonymous · 13/05/2018 08:40

If someone cancelled a flight to come and see me because of a bloody hangover I’d be more than a little annoyed. Your parents will have prepared for your arrival today.

Candyflip · 13/05/2018 08:41

I love a drink, but if it stopped me living normal life. Damn right I would think twice bridesmaid.

WilburIsSomePig · 13/05/2018 08:42

Aw OP, sounds hideous. I would still go though. Big breakfast, tea, paracetamol and crack on. Make up with your DP first. You'll be glad you did it if you go today.

Bridesmaidinchief · 13/05/2018 08:44

@Candyflip that's nice for you that you've managed to get through life without ever making a single mistake. Hopefully, if you ever do people will be less judgmental of you than you've been of OP.

WalkingOnAFlashlightBeam · 13/05/2018 08:49

Definitely go. If your parents are anything like my parents, me, friends and relatives I visit, they'll have made plans to receive you today, possibly turned down other plans, shopped and planned a nice meal, organised to do something nice or taken time off work. Not showing up on the right day just because you're hungover is a shitty selfish thing to do as a guest.

If you genuinely can't physically make it (I have had hangovers so bad I could barely walk without more dry heaving that triggered migraines and all sorts) then fair enough, I'm not saying you should be self flagellating but echoing PP I would really be having a think about the chain of events and emotional reactions/coping mechanisms that led to you getting so drunk the night before travelling, if only to make sure it never happens again! I don't know how old you are but you can't really get away with it past your teens as adults should know better.

It wouldn't matter if you were only letting yourself down or affecting solo plans/didn't have any plans today, it's not so much the drinking that's a problem it's doing it at this time and then letting it change your plans that involve others.

Candyflip · 13/05/2018 08:51

I have made plenty of mistakes. But the op is questioning changing her plans due to a man and/or alcohol. If you’re gonna make a mistake, make it a good fucking one.

Bridesmaidinchief · 13/05/2018 08:56

@Candyflip ah right, so mistakes are fine when it's you making them. Got it...

rookiemere · 13/05/2018 08:57

Instead of using the £20 to get a new flight tomorrow can you use it to make today’s trip easier i.e. taxi rather than tram then bus ?

Personally I think you need to power on through unless you’re likely to be sick on public transport.

PetulantPolecat · 13/05/2018 08:59

What airline terms and conditions are people telling me about when the OP hasn’t specified an airline? I’m assuming since it’s £20 to fly another day, this is a low cost carrier.

Low cost carriers count each leg as a reservation so if you have a return ticket, you’ve made 2 reservations.

Here’s easyJet on Twitter confirming it

Candyflip · 13/05/2018 09:03

Or when it isn’t being downtrodden.

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BrightonCalling · 13/05/2018 09:08

They have been on holiday so will be arriving at the destination airport same as me, just fron a different place. So we would all be going home this evening together.

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BrightonCalling · 13/05/2018 09:11

I dont think im physically capable just been sick everywhere

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Yukbuck · 13/05/2018 09:15

I flew last year on 1 hours sleep after watching a band until the early hours. I was on a mini break and was only going out for 1. I'm a pretty sensible drinker but was enjoying so much that I ended up buying Lots of alcohol. I had no choice but to get the flight because it was my home journey and I had work. It wasn't pleasant but I managed it. Every time I was near a toilet I tried to make myself sick. I vowed never to fly hungover again. Ha. It's doable though.

rookiemere · 13/05/2018 09:15

Ok on that basis book tomorrow’s flight and go back to bed.

peachypetite · 13/05/2018 09:16

Taxi to airport?

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 13/05/2018 09:19

Go tomorrow OP.

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BrightonCalling · 13/05/2018 09:24

And of course there is a back story, technically nobody made me drink but we had to go to one of his family things and yet again we were the last people to leave. He told me it was just a few drinks in the early evening, so we arrived at 7.30 but then didnt leave til 3.30, which is one of tje reasons i was pissed off with him. Wtf am i supposed to do at a village hall for 8 hours with everyone around me getting plastered? No taxis and i dont drive. Its part of the reason we fell out. At some point in the evening i started acting up because yet again he had made me go to a family thing, and yet again when we get there im basically forced to fend for myself as he just disappears off with l9ads of cousins im not even introduced to. S9 i have to get on and work the room by myself etc. Then he knew i was leaving today and i was glad when i found out that apparently it wasnt a party, just a few drinks in the early evening. But nope, once again we're literally the last to leave.
So yeah i got teary abd pissed off (fuelled by alcohol) for being basically "left" when we go to these things. Then he got pissed off because he said i always act up like this when ive had more than 2 or 3 drinks. I think true, but also, my reasons are founded arent they?
His sister had to console me as i was crying - his mum even saw me crying! Which makes me feel like shit now, i feel fucking embarrassed and cringey like that was really OTT of me.
We kind of patched things up then, but the night continued on, and...well here i am now.

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GabsAlot · 13/05/2018 09:25

go tomorrow if u can but make sureit is just 20 pounds-surely that doesnt include taxes luggage etc

Candyflip · 13/05/2018 09:32

How did you get home at 3.30?
It sounds like you could do with a break from him. You do know no one can force you to go out like this don’t you? Are you sure this is the life you want?

diddl · 13/05/2018 09:38

"Wtf am i supposed to do at a village hall for 8 hours with everyone around me getting plastered? "

Well you don't also have to get so drunk that you feel ill the next morning, but your OH sounds awful.

How did you get there & back if not taxi?

I'd be rethinking the relationship-he made you go?

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BrightonCalling · 13/05/2018 09:44

Obviously he didnt force me but im expected to

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thegreylady · 13/05/2018 09:45

Go, you may feel much better soon now you’ve been sick. Drink some Sprite or similar and have a shower then try some toast and a cup of very weak tea. A bit of distance between you and dp now will be good.

CFTrollsSmell · 13/05/2018 09:45

Ugh sounds awful. Do you feel better now that you’ve been sick.

TheDishRanAwayWithTheSpoon · 13/05/2018 09:45

How long have you been together? You don't know any of his family to talk to? It all sounds very dramatic and hard work.

It was your choice to drink this much, you knew you had a flight today, it was you who drank so much you started 'acting up' and embarrassed yourself.

I think probably you can't make the flight today if you have thrown up everywhere, but if be really annoyed if I found someone couldn't catch their flight to come see me because they had got really drunk the night before. PPs are right, you need to have a think about your drinking, that's really excessive to drink that much when you know you have a flight to catch.

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