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Pyjamas In Hotels

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CowesTwo · 11/05/2018 22:15

There was a thread recently discussing people wearing pjs in public. We just got back to our hotel and the lift stopped at the floor with the bar, the doors opened and a woman got in wearing pyjamas and slippers and carrying a bottle of wine. She seemed a bit surprised to see us in the lift and we all got off at the same floor. I wouldn’t be brave enough to go to the bar in a hotel dressed like that, but I had to admire her chutzpah. Aibu to think folk should at least throw on some clothes before appearing in public?

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thetriangleisarealinstrument · 13/05/2018 19:54

Do people really judge other people for having wet hair outside??!?
God you only find these things out on mumsnet.. sometimes I wish id never opened the pandoras box of what other people think negatively about. Its shocker what people give a shit about!

Petitepamplemousse · 13/05/2018 20:15

People who judge others for wet hair must not lead very busy lives! I’d never rock up to work in wet hair but at the weekend, after the gym etc... who has time to dry their hair every day of their life!

LemonysSnicket · 13/05/2018 20:22

I do it often, she’s just nipping downstairs why not?

I got locked out of my room in a large resort ( not one building more like cabanas) last week and had to trek around a small lake in mine to get someone to help. No one cared, I’ll never see them again.

jacknutter · 13/05/2018 20:36

You stay in a hotel you expect something special, a bit different. Seeing someone in PJs getting a bottle of wine from the hotel bar? No.

Sparklingbrook · 13/05/2018 20:40

It really is amazing what people find to care about. Must be exhausting.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 13/05/2018 21:20

Must be exhausting to be so high minded and cerebral that you never muse upon trivia
It’s not exhausting in the least to have an opinion on stuff that whilst not significant you come across
I have opinions on many things,some weighty topics and some utter froth

Sparklingbrook · 13/05/2018 21:23

I muse on loads of trivia, just can't get het up about this AIBU that's all.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 13/05/2018 21:31

I’m not het up. I’m simply aware I find some inconsequential things irksome
And I’d not dream of sharing my foibles with anyone
Like fact I find exaggerated slurping really annoying

TheOrigRightsofwomen · 13/05/2018 21:38

Meh...new job, first time meeting new colleagues and big boss. Hotel. Locked myself out of my room in my dressing gown and wet hair. Had to go down to lobby where I met them just coming back from somewhere. Boss went to get a spare key while I chatted to new colleague near the lift as if it was the most normal thing in the world.
It happens.

Amy22 · 13/05/2018 22:34

Oh my word, this is so funny! Until yesterday I would've been firmly in the "absolutely not (although they're not hurting anyone)" camp... however, last night after a hectic day, 2 friends and I were in a hotel, in our pjs and wrongly assumed the hotel (a Hilton so pretty nice) would provide a bottle of wine via room service. We found out this was not the case and in a moment of madness decided to pop down and collect it from the bar In said pjs. We are generally fairly civilised members of society but yes we were feeling particularly lazy and yes we most certainly received a few looks but we didn't disturb anyone or create any issues for anyone... unlike the fully clothed drunks who were ranting in the corridors... I know who I would rather 😊

GinghamStyle · 14/05/2018 00:09

Surely the only time to walk around a hotel in pyjamas is to go to reception to complain about noise at 2am?

RoadToRivendell · 14/05/2018 07:07

People who assume that people are less whatever because they use pyjamas for breakfast are the same who will talk about people that go out without doing their hair and make up and conforming in general. I sometimes go out with wet hair and no make up and have people staring at me.

That's quite a leap.

longestlurkerever · 14/05/2018 07:34

yes we were feeling particularly lazy and yes we most certainly received a few looks but we didn't disturb anyone or create any issues for anyone I think this is it really isn't it. Is it causing anyone any harm? No - then crack on. The idea that just because it's something you don't like it shouldn't happen is the very definition of intolerance.

Sundance65 · 14/05/2018 08:42

Hilarious responses.

My pyjamas today are indistinguishable from leggings and a tee shirt- so I can go to the bar without being judged as having low standards but if i wore the other pair from the set where the tee shirt had a tiny picture of a sleeping bunny I would be a disgrace!!!!

That tiny logo would make a difference to how people saw me - utter madness.

Have to say I always assume other people have much more important things to think about than what I am wearing.

RoadToRivendell · 14/05/2018 08:48

The idea that just because it's something you don't like it shouldn't happen is the very definition of intolerance.

I have zero interest in freeing the world of PJ-wearing grocery shoppers, bar-goers, etc. I'm bemused at the prospect of not passing some kind of judgement on them, though - these judgement-free mumsnetters must have a hell of a time trying to interpret the world around them.

Johnnyfinland · 14/05/2018 08:49

Have done it many times in hotels. On a work trip once a bunch of us even went for a drink in our pyjamas after a hectic day because our clothes were dirty (it was an outdoor event).

I really couldn't give a hoot what people think, it's not like I'm exposing myself! I've also gone to work with wet hair, it never even occurred to me that was a faux pas until I read it on here

Idliketoteachtheworldtosing1 · 14/05/2018 09:08

We were staying in quite an upmarket hotel in London and went down for breakfast, the waiter had just brought over our coffee when a family of 6 turned up all In nightwear and proceeded to try and put two tables together which made it hard for us to get out of our seats.
The poor waiter told them that the tables cannot be left like that and further back in the restaurant wear nice big round tables that will comfortably fit them all but they have a policy of no nightwear to be worn in the restaurant, the parents were very rude and aggressive, swearing and swiping the cutlery from the table onto the floor.
We didn't know where to look and the poor waiter looked terrified, he was only a young lad.
The manager came over and tried to calm things down, meanwhile 3 of their children were running around in between the tables.
I was expecting the manager to give in because the mother was being so loud and aggressive but he didn't and backed up the waiter and asked them to go back to their room and come back appropriately dressed.
I do not understand people that want to walk around in public places in their nightwear it really doesn't take long to change into day clothes.
Once they realised that they were not going to get their own way they left shouting obscenities to the manager.
Totally over the top reaction!

freezerfoodyum · 14/05/2018 09:20

Most of my clothes are pretty much like pyjamas anyway. I work from home now so I don't have to buy uncomfortable annoying work clothes!

Today I am wearing this jersey jumpsuit: tinyurl.com/y9nn3nuk

As close as possible to pjs without actually being them.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 14/05/2018 09:25

It would register with me if I saw a woman in her pjs getting out of the lift but it wouldn't bother me. I wouldn't do it though.
People going for breakfast in pjs at a hotel is another story.

Stephisaur · 14/05/2018 09:56

I did this last year. It had been a really long day, we'd had room service delivered but needed more to drink afterwards.

Rather than pay an extortionate service charge, I nipped down to the bar in my PJs and dressing gown. It was 11pm at night. A few people were in the bar, but I was honestly so tired that I didn't care. I was in there for 2 minutes, max.

I wouldn't go to breakfast/dinner in my PJs, but I do go out with wet hair ;) it takes me an hour to dry it, fuck that.

MumofBoysx2 · 14/05/2018 10:01

Why didn't she get room service? I don't think I'd have the cheek to do that but I quite like her for it!

longestlurkerever · 14/05/2018 10:21

I do judge people who act aggressively, drop litter, play loud music in their gardens and all manner of antisocial things. But I don't judge people because they make different choices to me. Isn't that the distinction I was making? To me there's a clear line you don't cross when disapproving of something. Otherwise it's a slippery slope towards homophobic bigotry and religious intolerance. Live and let live until it impinges on someone else. And I'm on my way to work with wet hair. Honestly had no idea I was such a rebel.

RoseWhiteTips · 14/05/2018 10:37

Honestly, I very much doubt people who go to a hotel dining room in their nightwear have ever stayed at an “upmarket hotel” in London or anywhere else.

Actually, wandering around in your rumpled - or pristine - nightwear in any public area, within any hotel, is just awful. Yes, people will judge you and your ignorance.
Judge

RoseWhiteTips · 14/05/2018 10:39

Wet hair in a dining room suggests the owner if the hair is lazy. Again, it is inappropriate.

RoseWhiteTips · 14/05/2018 10:39

...of the hair