Pyjamas In Hotels

[CowesTwo]

There was a thread recently discussing people wearing pjs in public. We just got back to our hotel and the lift stopped at the floor with the bar, the doors opened and a woman got in wearing pyjamas and slippers and carrying a bottle of wine. She seemed a bit surprised to see us in the lift and we all got off at the same floor. I wouldn’t be brave enough to go to the bar in a hotel dressed like that, but I had to admire her chutzpah. Aibu to think folk should at least throw on some clothes before appearing in public?

I frequently put the rubbish/recycling out in the front garden in pjs 9/10 without dressing gown in full view of the street and neighbours (most recently last night my neighbour four or so houses down saw me and we had a little chat.

During the winter I've been known to have a shower and put clean house cleaning clothes on (ie old jogging bottoms/tshirt) and my long coat on to hide it all and go to the supermarket or papershop etc - I look a state cos they're covered in bleach splashes etc but I'm not bothered. I'm only going back to lounge around or clean - I don't want to make washing by getting changed out of pj's - into good clothes - into cleaning clothes - into pj's when the coat covers the worst.

"Short top? Her midriff was showing?"

😱😱😱 not a midriff??!!!!

I don't want to be in the same place as people who would wear sports wear to have drink in the evening".

Are you implying that it's snobbery to avoid sports bars? I'm not sure what you're trying to do here.

Personally, I'm in the habit of dressing for dinner, unless it's Pizza Express of course.

Yes but we are not even talking about sitting at the bar in her PJs. She popped out if her bedroom to grab a bottle of wine. Same as if you'd left it in the car parked on the street and nipped out to get it imo. Not worth batting an eye lid. I don't really get this " judging"either. I only judge people who are acting like a twat. And then my judgment is "they're a twat". If someone's judgment is "she's wearing pyjamas" I couldn't care less. If they are extrapolating from this all sorts of other assumptions about my background and education I don't much care. They'd probably be wrong anyway. The only person I've ever seen wearing pyjamas shopping is my own sil. She's a primary teacher, not a delinquent.

Oh SIL's Pjs were clean btw, she took them off the top of the laundry pile and changed out of her jeans into them to go out. I don't know if she ever wears them to bed but they were definitely PJs. They had hearts or clouds or something on. I don't know why she did this, I didn't ask. But dd (6) sometimes goes out in her PJs too thinking about it. For a treat she's allowed to go on a nighttime stroll to look for bats, owls and collect Pokémon but if it's late I insist she's ready for bed first. People are probably judging me for that too, going by this thread but whatever

Hero? Yeah she was a “hero”.

Perhaps she was an alcoholic hero?

Some people have “cleaning clothes”? Good grief.
Some of us always wear decent clothes.

longestlurker I was responding to a post as it was written.

You seem to be taking this thread more personally than perhaps you should.

Rosewhitetips My decent clothes stay that way because I don't powerwash the garden / bleach the bathroom and kitchen /clear the loft etc etc in them. Please carry on being obtuse for the sake of it though, whilst you're doing it to me you're not doing it to other people.

That's ironic rose because I was responding to another poster who had directly quoted me. Probably should have made that clearer but, as we e established, I can be a lazy mare sometimes, though it's dangerous to generalise as other times I manage to accomplish quite a bit.

road, sorry

And mine.

@lololove

Don't feed it, you only make it stronger.

Heroic is an altruistic act above and beyond ones expectation
Slobbing to the bar in pjs is lazy cow,it’s not heroic

It seems Mumsnet opinion has evolved on this one. I had a thread in 2014 asking if it was acceptable to wear pjs in one's own (overlooked) garden or putting out the bins/fetching things from car and got a unanimous "don't give it a second thought".

I’m stayed in a hotel after a conference in a couple of weeks.

Totally plan on getting in PJs as soon as I’m in my room thanks to this thread

People who assume that people are less whatever because they use pyjamas for breakfast are the same who will talk about people that go out without doing their hair and make up and conforming in general. I sometimes go out with wet hair and no make up and have people staring at me.
And it is always women.
What they are thinking is how dare she not even try to look presentable? Bah As said in previous post this is just people trying to force you to behave like everyone else. The funeral cenário is completely different because you go out of the way to show respect. A breakfast at hotel doesn't require that.

Heroic is an altruistic act above and beyond ones expectation
Slobbing to the bar in pjs is lazy cow,it’s not heroic

Then it's a good thing that people won't have taken the "she's my hero" comments literally.

I wouldn't have any problem with this. Whether I would actually do it myself is another matter.....

I agree singingoutoftune - The other thing that strikes me is that it's not "laziness" per se that people find so offensive, but the fact of "flaunting" that laziness. Here people suggested she should have called room service - which actually would have required less effort. Similarly on the school run threads, it's apparently acceptable to wear pyjamas as long as you do the school run by car and don't get out. It's only shameful if you walk to school nonchalantly parading your laziness for the world to see.

Oh yes, I agree with the PP about going out with wet hair. I often do this and always get funny looks. I've had comments such as 'Haven't you got a hair dryer?' Well,yes I do actually. But I gave up using it years ago when 1) I had a frozen shoulder/RSI in my right shoulder which made using a hair dryer very difficult and 2) I realised that my hair actually looked better when left to dry naturally.

Get a grip each to their own!!!😝😝🤬🤬

I think it’s fine, if you don’t mind looking cheap.