Pyjamas In Hotels

[CowesTwo]

There was a thread recently discussing people wearing pjs in public. We just got back to our hotel and the lift stopped at the floor with the bar, the doors opened and a woman got in wearing pyjamas and slippers and carrying a bottle of wine. She seemed a bit surprised to see us in the lift and we all got off at the same floor. I wouldn’t be brave enough to go to the bar in a hotel dressed like that, but I had to admire her chutzpah. Aibu to think folk should at least throw on some clothes before appearing in public?

CAN SOMEONE TELL ME THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MY TWO PHOTOS?

My teenager could look cute in both. But I would look like a bag of spanners in the second outfit because it is not as structured as the first. And I say that as a hardened pajama wearer.

I'd go down to the bar to pick up a bottle of wine in my pj's , but my "hotel" pyjamas are very smart*, not at all revealing and not slept in. I sleep naked, but keep them close by in case of fire.

However, I'm far too tight to pay hotel prices for wine so bring my own from a supermarket or offie.

• they're these, but in a light blue www.darcyclothing.com/shop/nightwear/noel-coward-pyjamas-nw421.html

Nice Lakie

I hope her slippers weren’t real fur slider style, then she’d be an animal abuser too. I’m beginning to think her partner MADE her get the wine, she’s probably with an alcoholic...hold on, he could be married and she’s an OW...or she could have left the children in the room unattended and they will get stolen...smelling salts please, my pearls have broken from squeezing.

Smile, the lacy top in the first pic is far more revealing than the pj top in the second.

Now do stop shouting, some people are still in their pj's, and will have drunk wine in the last few hours.

Nah I'm not buying into it.

It's attention seeking.

Otherwise the pj wearers would wear PJs to funerals and school meetings.
They do conform sometimes- so they know about social conformities.
They choose not to because they want to be seen as too cool to care.

I mentioned the ‘weaving’ in reply to a poster who said perhaps the bar was close to the entrance so she wouldn’t have to actually go in but could just stand by the door. The bar was at the far end of a room with fairly tight packed tables and chairs. Hence the weaving. At least that’s how I imagined it as how someone would make their way through. Maybe she walked on her hands, maybe she played ‘the floor is lava’, maybe she somersaulted. Who knows.

I'm judging.
I think pyjamas are horrible and unnecessary, I haven't worn them since I was about 6.
But I wouldn't go out in my underwear/ nightdress, in the same way I wouldn't go out without brushing my teeth and hair.
And as for the photos, neither is a good look. The first is awful, the second might just work for someone under 25, but really, very few of us can carry off hotpants. A tshirt dress is a much simpler option.

Speakout

Is it possible that rather than being attention seeking/alcoholic/mad other people just have different views on how to clothe themselves?

They looked like this.

I just think it's sheer laziness.

undercover I think you should all ask for a copy of the employer's dress code. It might make your boss behave a bit more consistently,

Is it possible that rather than being attention seeking/alcoholic/mad other people just have different views on how to clothe themselves?

They can dress anyway they like- but they know they are making a statement by wearing their pjs.

Which is exactly why they do it of course.

Standards in this country are slipping

Snort.

Otherwise the pj wearers would wear PJs to funerals and school meetings.
They do conform sometimes- so they know about social conformities

If you can’t see the difference between not wearing PJs to a funeral and popping down to the bar in a hotel then there’s not much hope!

They choose not to because they want to be seen as too cool to care

Or indeed they don’t care. If I’d got to a hotel room. Put my PJs on, I sure as hell couldnt be bothered to get dressed again to pop down to the bar

If the fire alarm went off in the middle of the night, as has happened to us three times in the 28 years we’ve been married, I would forgive people for appearing in night attire in public. Not just to get a drink from the bar though!

They can dress anyway they like- but they know they are making a statement by wearing their pjs.

Which is exactly why they do it of course

Or you aren’t the oracle of clothes and different people are different?

I stayed at a 5 star hotel in Singapore and for 3 mornings in a row three women (25-35) turned up to breakfast in what I initally thought was a kimono outer layer and jeans, but no when they stood up all three were wearing crumpled pyjamas shorts/hot pants and shirts with hotel slippers.

I’ve also stayed in hotel in Madrid where they’ve actually said no hotel slipper or slippers at breakfast. I then began to notice that this is now a ‘thing’ not sure why.

In my opinion the only people who can get away with pyjamas at breakfast in hotels are babies. I think the lines between what is public and private are blurred hence the desire to wear something that was previously very private in public. I wouldn’t do it now, but at 19 I would put a thick long coat over my pyjamas and buy the sunday papers and then go back to bed to read then BUT it was a very sleepy university town no way would I have done that where I was from in London.

For me being in a hotel (when on leisure rather than business) is about luxurious relaxation and wanting to relish every expensive second of the surroundings. I would definitely put on pyjamas as soon as practicable in the room, and certainly consider a trip to the bar to grab a bottle of wine in them rather than spending time changing.

My amazing (female) music teacher at school used to wear mens pj trousers and enormous New Rock goth boots every day.

She always looked bloody amazing.

I'm glad "standards" are slipping.
A set of societal expectations that make zero fucking sense to me.
I'm very pleased that I don't have to shave my pits, or paint my nails, or wear a dress just to be socially acceptable to others.

If you are the kind of person who judges others for something that literally has no impact on you, at all then I think you are a narrow minded fool.
Someone choosing to wear pjs/onsies or a bloody sack has literally no impact on you, so why so you care?

I was stared at in my hotel this morning at breakfast.
Not wearing pjs mind, just look a bit lairy with the No1 shaved sides etc

I'm very pleased that I don't have to shave my pits, or paint my nails, or wear a dress just to be socially acceptable to others.

That's totally different from being a lazy slob who can't be arsed to take 1 minute of their day to put day wear on.

Moritz - I don’t care what people wear and would never tell them they can’t wear certain things. Flabby Tits may very well think they are her best feature and I have no issue with her flashing them about. What I care about is the idea that some people’s comfort and clothes taste is seen as superior to others. Boss wants to look Littlewoods 1989 - fine. Rock on, love. I want to wear a short dress cos that’s my taste? Oh no - into the office of doom we go.

But why the fuck is it lazy??
I don't wear pjs to bed, so when I get up, putting on pjs is literally the same as getting dressed.
They are just comfy clothes.
That's it.

Just cos as a society we have designated perfectly sensible, well covering clothes as only for certain things.

Pjs are clothes.

Regardless of personal tastes.....people in pjs ARE SIMPLY WEARING COMFY CLOTHES.

My friend wears trackie bottoms and a t shirt to bed.
She could get up and trot off to the shops without any of you pearl clutchers ever knowing that she was sooo "lazy" she hadn't bothered changing.
Whereas if I got up, got washed and dressed in clean pjs....you'd be thinking "lazy slobby bitch", right?

Making assumptions based on how someone looks in a minutes snapshot is just lazy thinking.