Annoyed by neighbour's kids

[LittleMermaidRose]

Maybe I'm just being mean or something but..
Every time me or dp are out in the garden, our upstairs neighbours seem to come out within minutes.

We have a 3ft fence separating or gardens which we put up last year, but there is one panel that is removable to allow us access through their garden if we ever need to bring our garden waste bin round for example, which we only used a couple of times when we first moved in.

The kids (around age 5 & 3) are constantly trying to climb the fence, remove the panel, and ask every time to come in to our garden. We don't have any kids & we don't want to babysit them (I have a feeling that's why their mother brings them out at the same time we go out) as she has once before told them to go into our garden as she was busy! I never said anything at the time at I was caught off guard.

It's getting a bit much for me. I want to be able to spend time in my own garden without being harassed by the kids all the time. I've told them a few times that we're busy, so they can't come over. But still they continue to ask.

I'm not good at confrontation so I don't know what else to say. They're lovely neighbours otherwise so I don't want to cause problems. I just want my own space.

Saying ‘no, you can’t come in’ isn’t mean...saying ‘piss off, leave us alone you little cretins’ is mean.
Stop being weak and stand up for yourself.

Bolt down the fence (FYI, a 3ft fence does seem to indicate that you are not that bothered by privacy) so that they can’t remove it and then this we at least inform them that they can’t let themselves in....until they arebig enough just to step over the fence!

This situation is not on. Furthermore, if one of the kiddies had an accident on your side of the fence then you can bet your life the parents would be chasing you for "Compensayshun!"

Don’t go all “ English “ and make excuses. Just say “ No. Go away “ loudly enough for their parents to hear.

This ^^

Every time..

Each time they start asking or climbing the fence, go back indoors for five to ten mins. Then when they're gone, come out. Then mow the lawn. Hopefully the mother will get it that you don't want to supervise their children and she will have to.

Its not fair on OP at all, think no matter what she does, unless putting up a fence shes not going to get peace which is my next move...
Get her reported if she is in a council property and also if you can try get an argos card, you can buy a fence, pay it up interest free if you stick to the paynent plan of your own choice of amount. Think Id do this. What a shit thing to have to do though! Fuckers! Keep us updated x

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“Oh no this isn’t a children’s garden it’s a grown up garden. We know we need to enjoy it before we start a family of our own and have it destroyed by children haha”

Like a pp has already said earphones and sunglasses.

If you can’t afford to put up a complete fence all at once then why not replace it panel by panel every payday. You’d be surprised at how quickly you would complete it, more than likely it would all be done by next summer, I know it won’t be much help for this year but by next year when they may be big enough to hop over the three foot one , you’ll be glad you did!

Berberis, horrible thorny shrubs!