To think friend treated me like shit today?

[OneStrangeRocj]

Was going over to hers for bbq today. It’s been planned ages. I saw her Thursday and again confirmed.

She text me this morning to say she’s going on a date in the morning but will call me on her way back to arrange a time to come over.

Obviously it’s now late afternoon. She’s not called.

I essentially got dropped for a man she’s known for 2 days.

YANBU. Not nice.

Not cool, but also: who plans a bbq ages ahead of time?

Well no we planned to spend bh Sunday together, then decided to have a bbq this week.

Are you at all worried about her, since she hasn’t come back from an (almost) blind date?

Have you called your friend this afternoon? Or sent her a message? I would have, if only to check everything was ok!

I'd also be checking she's ok.

In the likely event she is okay, I'd be really pissed off. But hold off til you find out.

I would be making sure she's okay before you get angry. If she is okay and just wasn't bothered about messing you around, then yes that would be unkind.

Why could she not have arranged a time when she called?

She must have had a time in mind when she first thought of doing it?

Do you know where she was meeting the date?

I'm afraid that my first thought would be that I'd been sidelined rather than something had happened to her.

TBH I'd be checking she was ok

I'd be worried about her

She text me this morning to say she’s going on a date in the morning but will call me on her way back to arrange a time to come over

Strange she didn't confirm a time with you.

Sounds like she wanted to keep the date "open-ended" to see how it went and you would get fitted in whatever time was left over.

Looks like you've been dropped in favour of the date.

Could be wrong though.

Check she’s fine (she will be) then tell her she’s a cow.

I agree with others that I'd check she's OK first, then let rip!

Either she has

1. Come to harm

1. Has got so caught up in shagging that she forgot all about the bbq.

Is it really worth falling out over a bit of sausage?

Oh dear it sounds as though the bbq has been cancelled in favour of someone else's sausage.

Unless there is some explanation then the fact that she didn't contact you at all is plain rude. Even a terrible excuse would be better than leaving you hanging.

" you would get fitted in whatever time was left over."

Yup-there was no reason not to make an arrangement with Op.

@EdmundCleverClogs bloody brilliant

I feel really sorry for your mate. I have girlfriends like this. Take any scrap of attention from a man, always getting taken advantage of and doesn't even recognise it. I'd put your time and energy into other mates and leave them to it. It comes from a place of low self of esteem and misery.

It’s just typical behaviour from her. To the point I went nc with her for 7 months. She got in touch with me and then for the last month she’s been a good friend ... then I get tossed aside.

She’s fine. She’s posted photos of the date. They are in a public place so I assume they aren’t shagging. (Always hated that word)

Have you phoned her?

I feel really sorry for your mate. I have girlfriends like this. Take any scrap of attention from a man, always getting taken advantage of and doesn't even recognise it. I'd put your time and energy into other mates and leave them to it. It comes from a place of low self of esteem and misery.

You think? She’s a very pretty girl and I’m not saying that as a “all my friends are beautiful” thing.

I mean he seems to have pulled out all the stops for their first and second date.

Have you phoned her?

Yes. It went to voicemail

"always getting taken advantage of and doesn't even recognise it."

Or she's just selfish!

Oh dear it sounds as though the bbq has been cancelled in favour of someone else's sausage