I think my friend should pay, she thinks we should split it?

[Welshgal1]

Driving a friend 4 hours away for an operation (cosmetic) and will use 2 full tanks of fuel in my car, cost of a hotel, food while I'm there and I'm using a days annual leave.
She wants to split all costs down the middle, whereas I think I'm using my holiday entitlement and 2 days of my time (which I am more than happy to give up) but don't think I should be paying for fuel, or for the hotel? I've said I'll pay for all my own food.
Her logic is we're both going so why should only she pay, she's already paying lots for surgery.
My logic is I wouldn't be going if it wasn't to do her a favour so don't see it fair to split costs.
Whats the right thing to do here? Don't want to be mean but trying to be fair...

When was the op supposed to be happening?

If I asked a friend to accompany me when I actually required help and assistance I would pay for it all - food hotel transportation etc
You are not going for any other reason than to help her are you?

im sorry youre being put through this drama OP, but your resposnses have been perfect. It will blow over. Obviously a lawwyer or solicitor will find this ridiculous

So will she be taking out another loan to pay for lawyers?

You were perfectly happy to help her out, you just didnt want to pay hundreds for your trouble. How bizarre she is

Reading this I'm disbelief. Cf indeed. Your response has been great, and honestly I don't believe any lawyer would touch this 'case' with a bargepole.

Just RTFT!
All I can say is you ex friend has serious issues!
Op I am actually proud of you, start of thread you were unsure and now you are strong and not being a push over!
Well done!
I can't wait for the court case! 🙄
A lawyer would not touch her, and if they did it seriously wouldn't get very far!

She sounds unhinged, and barmy, why after all the vitriol she has given to you, should you want to waste your time and money on her. Tell her to go right ahead, she hasen't a leg to stand on, mabey if she treated friends better, she would have somebody to go with her.

Gosh this situation has changed since I last read it! Well done for standing up for yourself Welshgal 😊

For what it's worth-

As others have said this would never stand up in court. She's made no effort whatsoever to find alternative cover (another 'friend'/family or to pay a career as others suggested). She's chosen to be in this position.

I personally very much doubt that she's even contacted a solicitor at all. She couldn't afford the surgery and has taken out a big loan, so where are the legal fees being funded from- the magic money free??? My sister is a solicitor and I know the amount they charge just to send letters or hold a consultation... your acquaintance is beyond stupid if she thinks shelling out even more money is going to get what she wants in this scenario.

I wouldn't lose any sleep over what is probably an act of desperation to get you to meet her demands. Enjoy your weekend away and best of luck with ttc! X

*carer even!

I am supposed to be taking her on Tuesday, woke up to find OH rifling through the drawers panicking that he can't find our passports. I guess my surprise trip is further than I thought which is amazingly kind of him... but I just can't stop making jokes that he's smuggling a fugitive out of the UK

Rather than drama and texting threats about ‘lawyers’ (hilarious), she should be begging someone to take her to the op. Or arranging to pay someone.

There must be something wrong with her surely? How do you get to be an adult while being such a princess.

but I just can't stop making jokes that he's smuggling a fugitive out of the UK

You need a floppy hat and some incognito sunnies!

I bet she still goes for her op!

Wtaf. I mean she’s insane. Really.

I’ll hold off on the legal advice as I don’t think I’m any more qualified than titzillas lawyers. And I don’t think you need any!

I’m just here to wish you Bon voyage and have an awesome relaxing fun time with dp. I love your Mutual friend staying in on Facebook. I think she’ll get more desperate as the days get nearer...gosh it’s such a shame none of her millions of friends can help! Have a lovely trip

Have a lovely trip OP.

Oh and please set up a new thread before you go (this one will be full before you get back and we’ll be desperate for an update when you do)!

How can she possibly think there is a legally binding contract between you? She's a complete tool.

How do people get this batshit?

I blame all the L’Oreal ads ‘because we’re worth it’!

Good Lord. A genuine, gold-plated, Fruitloop. Seriously though, I reckon she has some sort of mental health problem, assuming she isn't just a pure narcissistic personality.

Either way, not your circus, not your monkey. Put lots of space between you and her and go grey rock. Enjoy your break and don't engage any further with her.

It could be argued that when she threatened promised to have no further contact with you after you were a mug did her this favour, that that was the "benefit" you were to derive from the "contract"

"it can be anything of value including the promise not to do something, or to refrain from exercising some right."

Can you reveal the clinic and one of us can camp out and see if she turns up?
She will be recognised by the huge chip on her shoulder.

I've been lurking on this thread but i really have to jump in.

The fucking CHEEK of this woman!

I have no idea how you can just let her say this crap about you on FB, I mean the way you're doing it is spot on but I'd need to absolutely tear her a new one. You're a better person than me OP.

Enjoy your trip, don't give her a second thought, the loon!

Also I hope you come back with a holiday baby 🤞good luck.

Lastly, if she drags you on judge rinder, PURLEEEEASE tell us all! I'd love to see him strip her a new one.

I'm surprised that a chaperone and uber to Wales is any more expensive than the return car journey / twice days in hotel / associated expenses that she actually offered to pay.

This should go into classics .