Tracking DP on phone

[damekindness]

I was talking to some work colleagues today and it came up in conversation that they got their OH to turn on their 'share location' on their mobiles so they could see where they were. Apparently it's useful to know so they can get the dinner on the table ready for them

Aside from the whole being a domestic dinner slave issue, I think asking your OH to share their location so they can be tracked is a massive invasion of privacy. However the counter argument was that if they didn't have anything to hide they shouldn't mind....

Etino exactly. I won't be telling him off for fibbing about whereabouts because we've all done it. But if he didn't come home then at least I wouldn't be searching the wrong area.

No I'm not phoning or texting throughout the day either.

I just don't see the need either to be informed of my husband's every move or to make him aware of mine. We have no need to speak during the working day as we're busy, working. And we live in the same house.

Any very rare text or call is along the lines of please pick up some wine or whatever in the way home. And until trackers have the ability to relay messages telepathically, they couldn't replace the need for those.

I just truly don't understand why anyone actually NEEDS to know someone else's whereabouts to satellite precision.

And as for chiding your partner for getting to the office late. Holy Lord! Unless I'm employed by my husband then he would have no place whatsoever making any such comments, and I'd be beyond angry.

If I need to know what time DH is going to be home I just send him a text or ring him.

OMG no trust issues here but I use that app. DS asks every two minutes when daddy is going to be back or meeting us and I can tell him exactly! It was DH’s idea.

Plus he travels all over this planet with his job. I’d be ringing him at the wrong time etc. if I didn’t know at least which country he was in. Nothing to do with trust, just practical, and I am surprised that anyone would even think to use it for lack of trust reasons because it is so easy to circumvent it (turn it off or get a second phone and leave the traceable one in the office lol!)

Surely you know what country he's in and whether it's convenient to ring him though Frasier?

My husband and I are quite lax with details but even we'd have conversations around what country we're working in.

However the counter argument was that if they didn't have anything to hide they shouldn't mind....

That is never a good counter argument.

GreatDuckCookery No I don’t. He can visit 12 countries in a month, from one to the other, often with trips being chopped and changed around... What’s he supposed to do? Print out an itinerary? Text me every time he gets on a plane?!

I don’t need to know everywhere he goes, I’m busy, I haven’t got time to scroll back through texts to find out if he said where he would be on Wednesday... the app is a godsend now we have DS and we need to contact him often.

I’d be ringing him at the wrong time etc. if I didn’t know at least which country he was in.

Don't you speak to your husband? Surely he'd tell you what country he is in?

AlonsosLeftPinky I think you are underestimating the amount of travelling we both go! It would be impossible and boring to keep u.

DH did over 50 plane trips last year. All I need to know is what time it is where he is.

No I'm not phoning or texting throughout the day either.

Same. You don't need to phone and text through the working day. Some on here sound stifling and a teeny bit controlling.

But surely you know where he is at any given time Frasier?

I see my husbands but only ever look at it when he drives down south for his hobbies. He sometimes wants to know if there is any road issues. We're in Scotland. Sometimes he has to drive to Cardiff or London.
He has no interest where I go day to day and we don't share my location.
We have 100 % trust though.

Calm down @AlonsosLeftPinky

Rather than text and say ‘are you having a nice evening?’ if I can see he’s still at the office late, I’ll keep an eye on the time and be sympathetic when we do talk.

GreatDuckCookery

But surely you know where he is at any given time Frasier

Yes, because I can track him!

Can you imagine the amount of phone calls he would have to make to let me know he isn’t in Dubai tomorrow like he said he’s going back to the States and then Switzerland but then that’s changed and her needs to be in France but maybe he’ll go to Belgium first...

Why would anyone want to know that level of information week in and week out?!

Why do people keep talking about constant updates? I don't need to update my DH during the day, and vice versa. He's off today, I'm working. I'm currently on a break having a nice lunch in a cafe. I might mention it later and tell him how nice my lunch was. I might not. But I don't feel the need to update him now and he doesn't need to know where I am.

I might send a text on the way home.

My DH and I use this cos we like it. Don't really give a shit how anyone else judges this. Get a life.

If it’s not for you then fine, but why judge others for it? If it works for them why should that bother you? Because it has zero impact on you!

I think it's beyond weird to track your partner by GPS rather than ask them how their evening is.

@craigglen you speak the most sense of anyone on this thread!

craigglen Exactly. And for us it’s just worldwide.

I used to travel a lot with him before DS and when DS was younger but nursery/school got in the way. The app is great, I have the info when I need it without either of us having to send loads of texts and adding to an already busy life.

Smacks of insecurity. The dinner reason is a pathetic excuse.

It's useful for traffic and people who drive long distances so I can check in.