AIBU to be annoyed they’ve done this

[MrsHoodwink]

NC so I’m not recognised

Found out today my cousin is going to name their DC (due this year) the same name as my DC2

Thing is this it’s an unusual name, think Phoenix/Asher/Teddy so not a James/Connor/Josh

I understand it’s just a name and everyone has the right to call their DC whatever they want but I’m more than a bit miffed as we’re in the same family

I know I’ll just have to live with it but AIBU to think he should have avoided using it

Yabu

Yanbu. I think it's silly to that.

Depends why he's picked it really. Maybe it has special significance for his partner.
Try to take it as a compliment

Yabu

You don't own a name. My family have duplicate names among my cousins and our own children. Its no big deal.

How close are you though? If you only B see each other once a year then it really doesn't matter iyswim

Not unreasonable to be annoyed, but you would be unreasonable to tell them you are.

Take comfort in the fact that your child is older so their name is the one being copied. If you’re feeling particularly devilish, in a few years, you can telling people their child was named after yours!

YANBU. I know the world of mumsnet thinks that no one owns a name blah blah blah but to obviously use an unusual name already in the family is a bit rubbish of them. My DD2 was born 3 months before my cousins DD2. Turned out I'd named ours the name she was going to use, despite only seeing each other once in a blue moon, she rightly chose something else, its the right thing to do!

I would be a little bit annoyed, however, she might have picked the name a long time ago. If not, you can take it as a compliment - you found a really good name :)

Ffs grow up

My half sister called her son the exact same first and middle name as mine.

For a cousin I couldn't be bothered if I tried.

You don't own your kid's name.

Just to add the name is so unusual there’s only one in the County

I was prepared to be told AIBU as a name is only a name, but it does seem so odd to me to have identical unusual names in the same family

Do you share a surname and live in same town, possibly going to same school, and close in age? If so YANBU.

If different surname / live along way away / big age difference then YABU.

The children will be second cousins, which isn't that close.

They can be Big Phoenix and Little Phoenix to distinguish to their great grandparents.

One child in the county* There’ll be an adult i assume

YANBU. I know the world of mumsnet thinks that no one owns a name blah blah blah but to obviously use an unusual name already in the family is a bit rubbish of them

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This

YABU (a bit). I think a cousin is distant enough from you that it shouldn't matter. I do understand why you're a bit miffed but in the grand scheme of things will it really make a difference?

YABU. Is it going to affect your life in anyway? Probably not.

Unoriginal of her, perhaps, but imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.

At least your child had the name first!

Yabu

It's odd, but YWBU to make a big deal of it.

I would say it can be seen as bad manners but as your child is older it's obvious who picked the name first.
So try not to let it have too much head space.

Is the surname the same?

This wouldn’t bother me. I don’t know if yabu tbh as I simply don’t get why it’s supposed to be annoying. Think I’m a bit weird...

Yabu I don’t get on with my cousin she named her child after our grandparent who I was very very close to and I plan to name my child after that grandparent too. Because I don’t like my cousin but I loved my grandparent.

Aww I so want to know the name now that you said there's only 1 child in the county with it. How do you know there's only 1?

Yeah I would be a bit pissed about that but at leased you got in there first. Everyone will think it's strange they have used the same name