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Overheard my cousin say “We asked <my name> she daren't say no :(

394 replies

cocktailsausages · 02/05/2018 13:06

As above. My cousin asked me to help her move, no petrol money offered, not even a bed for the night as she wants to spend first night in new home with her partner alone. I said yes and here I am, worked all morning, soaking wet, was waiting for her in the car outside to follow her to new place, she didn’t come out so I went back in her hall and heard on say on the phone to someone that she’d asked me to move her because I daren’t say no to her.

I always help out when I can, I’ve taken a day off and driven a long way. Now I feel used.

OP posts:
ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 02/05/2018 15:06

Don't keep the kettle flex but put it somewhere completely random in the pile of crap of hers so she'll have to unpack everything to find it e.g. bottom of a bag.

That way you can deny knowing anything about the flex but you still cause them a load of grief.

Cawfee · 02/05/2018 15:09

Don’t ever do anything for her ever again. Cheeky bitch

ScarlettSahara · 02/05/2018 15:10

Can’t believe the cheek & nastiness of your cousin. When we needed a bed and wardrobe shifting because we were awaiting new furniture we treated friend & DH who helped us with their van to a meal out!

Well done for now standing your ground & although it may feel awkward I second following pp’s advice of saying matter of factly to partner that you need to leave straight away so can he settle petrol money with you (£30, £40 or whatever you deem appropriate).

Rosielily · 02/05/2018 15:13

I'm struggling to understand why she would even think such a thing, let alone say it?

Emmageddon · 02/05/2018 15:21

What a cow. Tell her you heard what she said and see how she tries to explain it away as a joke.

SofieMonde · 02/05/2018 15:23

tell her u will c her next tuesday :)

PyongyangKipperbang · 02/05/2018 15:25

Probably asked you because everyone else she could have asked has already been treated like a mug would say no to her. Silly bitch. I love the hiding the kettle flex idea :o

MumW · 02/05/2018 15:26

Shove the kettle and anything else vital under the passenger seat and forget to retrieve it when you are unpacking at the new place. Don't notice until at tomorrow at the earliest.

elderflowerandrose · 02/05/2018 15:28

I would like a cousin like this who wouldn't? What a stupid stupid woman. You on the other hand op are a treasure and deserve a chilled glass of wine beer and the afternoon off Wine Halo

vampirethriller · 02/05/2018 15:29

Keep hold of any remote controls too.

Juells · 02/05/2018 15:38

I wouldn't unpack anything, I'd tell the partner I'd done my back in and he'd have to do it. And please do it fast as I need to go to pharmacy for painkillers.

hellsbellsmelons · 02/05/2018 15:38

So sorry OP.
You try to help out and people take the piss!
I hope you got unloaded and are now on your way home.
I wouldn't mention it to her.
I'd leave it and then when she asks for anything again just say NO!

Juells · 02/05/2018 15:39

I'll be all agog now, checking back to see how the day pans out. 😂

CamillaTurner · 02/05/2018 15:40

Flowers for you, OP. How horrible for you to have overheard that. You are a whole lot nicer than your cousin is.

Mintychoc1 · 02/05/2018 15:47

I'd get there, unpack it all on to the pavement, knock on the door and tell cousin's boyfriend it was all there, and drive away.

PlanesOverMe · 02/05/2018 15:53

That's not nice. Do tell her you overheard. She needs to know that she's crossed a boundary.

billybagpuss · 02/05/2018 15:55

Well done OP, hope she asks whats wrong!

Lou222 · 02/05/2018 15:58

I would also accidentally chuck the kettle in a bin on the way there.

llangennith · 02/05/2018 16:03

That’s so mean of your cousin.
Don’t let her behaviour stop you from helping other people but I’m sure you’ll be more wary in future.

SheSellSeaShells · 02/05/2018 16:05

you seem far too nice - dump the stuff outside the new place, (minus the kettle) and if he asks for a hand taking it inside say: "I'm daring to say NO" (which he'll then ask your cousin wtf you're going on about)...

missbonita · 02/05/2018 16:09

I once helped a desperate DB move house, assuming his wife was doing something important, but no, she strolled in at 9pm having spent the day in a spa with her friend.

I learned a lot that day and still remind myself "some people will go to a spa whilst you pack up their knickers"

RomeoBunny · 02/05/2018 16:17

Shamelessly flex marking

ittakes2 · 02/05/2018 16:18

Wow - you should tell her your overheard her phone call. What a twat. You sound like you would make a lovely friend - can I suggest you save your time for people who care about you and help you with things in return for your generosity.

FullMetalRabbit · 02/05/2018 16:26

let this be your epiphany OP and don't say yes to her again

every time you weaken, remind yourself what she said about you

the old adage is so true in this case:

Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me

monkeychickenpig · 02/05/2018 16:29

She's vile you poor thing.

Text her saying you heard her being rude
You're happy for her partner to drive to yours unpack your car in to his and you'll give him the keys to do it this eve

Then never help her again
This is pants. How arrogant of her