Is this groom a CF?

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I usually love a good CF thread and ones mixed in with weddings are always great. But now that it's happening to us I'm not sure what to do!

We went to a wedding at the weekend for one of DH's colleagues. They had an amazon gift list so DH ordered something from there. It came in quite a big box and the shape of the actual gift meant that we had to wrap the box with the gift inside.

When we arrived we noticed that nobody else had presents, thought nothing of it but people kept commenting and saying "We just got them vouchers/money." We asked DH's colleague, the groom, where to put it and he was quite surprised and said "We weren't expecting gifts. Thank you, can you put it by the post box for cards?"

So we did, forgot all about it and enjoyed the day and night. Towards the end of the night we stood near the post box and I pointed out that ours was still the only present. DH laughed it off and said "Looks like we're the only ones who saw the gift list!" Left a short while after and thought nothing more about the gift.

DH got a message last night from groom saying "Thanks for coming on Saturday and for the gift. We had a bit of a last minute change and decided to ask for money towards the honeymoon instead of what we'd put on the gift list. Can we arrange to send it back and just get the money for it instead? I can pass it back next week when I'm back in work. Really appreciate the thought but definitely think we need a holiday after the stress of wedding planning."

The gift cost £70. DH didn't reply but showed it to me. I was just shocked at how cheeky it was. I'm leaving it up to him to sort because I have only met the couple a handful of times. I do just feel a bit stupid turning up with this huge box when everyone else seemed to be told to give money/vouchers. Dh said this was the first he'd heard of giving money and he has no problem giving money but feels asking if we can return it and give him money instead is a bit out of order.

Should we just return it and leave it at that or does anyone have any choice words or phrases we can reply with?!

This is right up there with the people who messaged the guest and told them the amount of money they'd given wasn't enough.

Tom because giving them £20 feels more pointed.

Tom the same reason you'd tip a shit waiter £0.01 - to make a point!

Amazing and Sneaky, yes, I see what you mean.

I still think any money is too good for the greedy twat, though.

Make him return it. Why should you put yourself out?

As an aside, I can't abide people that ask for money for their honeymoon and if I have to do it, I do it through gritted teeth. Pay for your own honeymoon!

Tom he’s certainly an Olympic contender in the CF stakes.

"Sorry, can't return but feel free to put it on eBay. We won't be offended!"

What does CF mean?

@SomersetMummy1 it means Cheeky Fucker

Lol! So not up with the acronyms on here

In that case, yes I do think he’s a cheeky fucker x

@SomersetMummy1 it took me a while when I first joined too, and then I’ve learned the new ones as they come. I think there’s an acronym explaining page in site stuff if you want to read up

To be fair Somer CF is one of our newer acronyms. There seems to have been a spate of them recently.

There is absolutely no way I would accept the present back and return it.

I would say something along the lines of “enjoy your much needed holiday, but please accept the gift and think of it as one less thing you need to buy for your new home when you return broke from your holiday”

I'd just reply saying "yes we can return it". And then not give them any money.

Cheeky fuckers.

So is the gift sonething they had actually asked for or something your dh chose? As you say your dh chose it?

So you have to go to the post office and return a bulky parcel.

Fuck that.

Agree with take it back and then just wait for the CF to ask. And then never have right change. Then finally give it to him in 50p pieces.

I would take the gift back and return it and then I’d keep the £70 and go for a facial. That’s honestly what I would do.

Wow. definitely a CF.

I wasn’t quite sure what CF meant...clearly different in my mind!!! That request is beyond cheeky. I would do as the others suggestions on here, return it and give them £50. That is beyond rude and they are clearly just greedy. I don’t know anyone would be this damn right rude!!!

Sorry, but I think that is actually very rude. I would be far too embarrassed to ask such a thing! I’d either reply saying you find the request rather surprising but will do as he asks - but only give him £20. Or decline, saying unfortunately you aren’t able to take the gift back.

The cheek of it - prefacing his request with ‘we weren’t expecting any gifts’ - is really making me cross!

have to say i would be tempted to take it back and then forget about the cash ho humm we are all so busy things do get forgotten don't they..

Give them £50 (or less) and say nothing - keep the gift yourself or keep the change. If they ask for the extra say you gave the gift to someone else and £50 (or less) is the most you can afford.

So rude I would say no and they can sell it for what they can get if they want. CFs

So rude. I'd say yes and then 'forget' to give them any money back.

you may not get a full refund and will have to wait for the refund to go into your account, don't give them anything till you get your money back and then decide how you feel.