Hooters

[Thirtyrock39]

Would you be pissed off if your partner went to one of these sleazy places? Am I overreacting to be pissed off about dh going to one when he knew I'd be cross about it ? I'm not hopping mad but I'm certainly very unimpressed!

We went to Hooters for my birthday lunch a few years ago, the whole family including DD, DS and my nieces and nephews. We drove nearly 2 hours to get there and the food was bloody brilliant

We went there again last year on the way home from a holiday for lunch too.

If you think the food in Hooters is good, you need to get out more.

And if you think bringing your children somewhere like that doesn’t show them that objectifying women is ok, you need to wake up.

It is not being a puritan to not like women being objectified especially for the sole purpose of making money.

Some women are blessed with beauty rather than brains but somehow, a bunch of OTHER women have decreed that using brains to get by is ok but beauty, no.

Being beautiful does not stop you having or using a brain. What is wrong is that a woman is valued more for her looks than her brain. She is paid more because of how she looks not how good she is at her job.

I couldn't care less if mine went.

What I mean with I've calmed down about it is: at a personal level I am less affected by the insecurities it used to cause me, for example many years ago I split up with a long term boyfriend because he wouldn't stop buying lads' mags etc despite me making it clear they really upset me. I used to have a really hard time with it.
Now I'm more confident and give them a lot less headspace. I don't approve of it and my sons will be shown it's not OK to objectify girls, but I no longer kick off about it because I'm older, over it and got my hands too full with other things. I still detest tabloids that use nudity to sell, I think it's primitive and gross.
I hope, as my daughter grows up, she too can understand that behaving like an object is wrong for many reasons, and I am able to keep her confident and safe.

Jeez. This thread reeks of posters who 1) probably have never been to hooters 2) make a lot of assumptions and 3) are holier than thou.

The wings are good, yes they hire ugly women as well as beautiful women, staff ARE NOT required to "deal with sexual harassment", men DO work there too, not all the women are stick thin with breast implants, and it's not a strip club!

No, I wouldn't be upset with my DH for going unless he went without me or didn't bring me leftovers!!!

Not a sensible answer:

Driving past Hooters in Notts with car full.
10yo "Whats that?"
14yo "Its where people go to look at ladies' tits!"
2nd 10yo "Like a breast clinic!"

“Pearl clutching”
“Puritanical”
“Prude”

All ways of stopping women taking a critical stance about sexist bullshit.

Yes, it's amusing how "worked up" and "hysterical" all the Hooters fans are. It's always the same on threads like this. Ad hominems flying in an attempt to stop any discussion of men's entitlement to have tits with their wings and beer. And to have them really close to the hotel.

And Billy's 14 year old nailed it.

Frankly I wouldn't be annoyed if DH went but I would seriously judge his taste.

It’s really not that interesting to be bothered about. Not like he’s going to a strip club?! Women in shorts and a vest. A kind of tongue in cheek, fun vibe. It’s fine. Being annoyed with your oh from going is absolutely ridiculous

It’s really not that interesting to be bothered about.

What does that mean?

The things you are bothered about must be interesting? To who? I've never heard this before.

Beerbelly, you came onto mumsnet and called women birds? Do fuck off with your antiquated sexism.

Lol I bet all of your hubbies go.

How much?

Phew. So pleased I haven't got a hubby. Don't like the sound of them at all!

A very-distant ex of mine often tags himself into Hooters, both with and without his wife and 3 sons. It makes me a bit and I realise I had a lucky escape from that one! (I happened to see that he'd tagged himself as being there last night as I was reading this thread.)

Before I had a daughter I didn't have the same feelings as I do now about such places and how there is just so much casual objectification of women in society (a real bugbear of mine is bloody music videos). I hate the prevailing attitude that women are there for the pleasure of men which, to me, places like Hooters are cashing in on as a conscious choice. I wouldn't want DD to work there - or anywhere like it - and I also wouldn't want DS to go there. Regardless of how good the wings are, or its convenient location with regards the hotel.

Last time I was in hooters, on holiday, Fort Lauderdale around 2001, our server was a guy.

The wings were great.

only half way through the thread.

This thread reminded me, a while ago ds 16 was off school. Undercover boss was on tv, and it was some company like hooters in America.

DS said WTAF!? as the boss talked about it being a breastraunt, and how he expected is staff to dress and behave. he was discussed that people could refer to and speak about and view women in the way they did.

He was outraged, were I was just, yeah unfortunately these places are out there, and many people couldn't give fuck about the underlying messages they sends out.

If one of my male colleagues turned it down I’d seriously question his sanity

That ok, as they have probably already questioned yours. hence why they refuse

Funny how it's holier than thou to not want women to be objectified. If those wings were as good as people say, they'd be able to sell them without using women's bodies.

It's no different from pit girls, walk on girls and the like. It's using women's bodies to sell shit.

And the winner is:

1. I thought it was an owl sanctuary

closely followed by

2. my husband goes because it’s near his hotel

thank you to those 2 posters for brightening up my day.

I'd like to stay in a hotel near to an owl sanctuary. I once stayed in one where one of the pools was being used to rehabilitate injured manatees. It was fabulous.