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AIBU?

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Was my colleague rude?

106 replies

hiblueblue · 30/04/2018 15:43

Someone mentioned a well known quite old song in the office today and I said I’d never heard of it.

Colleague retorts - really?! I mean you’re not even that young.

I’m in my 20s btw.

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systemlakeland · 30/04/2018 15:44

She has no social graces.

I'd just ignore her. No-one can be expected to have heard of everything.

Waitingonasmiley42 · 30/04/2018 15:46

Don't think this is particularly offensive.

Birdsgottafly · 30/04/2018 15:48

Unless it is on the back of other comments, then i'd just take it as an off-the-cuff remark.

Iloveacurry · 30/04/2018 15:48

No she wasn’t rude. I’m assume you were having a fun conversation about a song, so I wouldn’t take offence in what she said.

Lemontart25 · 30/04/2018 15:50

Not rude but she could have worded it better maybe. Although saying that it does depend on your relationship with said colleague.... is she always snippy? Tbh I have said things similar before if I am genuinely shocked that people haven't read/seen/heard a classic. I have also had it said to me! So I think you may be being alittle sensitive if I'm honest.

CaffeineAndCrochet · 30/04/2018 15:50

What was the song?

UserThenLotsOfNumbers · 30/04/2018 15:52

Is your colleague 12?

Singlebutmarried · 30/04/2018 15:53

What was the song? I worked with a girl in her 20s who thought everything pre 1980 was in black and white, also tapes:vhs/vinyl blew her mind.

But totally depends on the song.

AmazingPostVoices · 30/04/2018 15:57

Well it’s not the politest way to word it but quite honestly I wouldn’t have given it a second thought let alone start a thread about it.

greendale17 · 30/04/2018 15:58

No that isn’t rude

TwitterQueen1 · 30/04/2018 16:03

YABU to get upset over such an off-the-cuff remark (not worth getting your knickers in a twist about). Was it a bit rude? yes a bit, but what was the song? .

MatildaTheCat · 30/04/2018 16:03

Sometimes it’s just really hard to believe someone doesn’t know a song. A friend of mine, in her fifties, said she’d never heard of Careless Whisper. Now if you were around and sentient in the early eighties it’s quite hard to be able to imagine not knowing that song.

I even sang her a good chunk and she still professed ignorance.

If it was as famous a song as that maybe she was, like me, just stunned that you could have got thus far without hearing it?

She was a tiny bit rude.

Tiredtomybones · 30/04/2018 16:04

Not rude.

Hissy · 30/04/2018 16:04

What was the song?

BevBrook · 30/04/2018 16:04

What do you think is rude about it? I am finding it hard to work out what about that comment could be seen as rude. She is just surprised you don't know a song when she would have thought you would be around when that song was popular?

imweirdandcool · 30/04/2018 16:05

she is an idiot yes that is rude and anyone in their 20s even early 30s is considered young

fairylightsdown · 30/04/2018 16:05

Not rude. Good luck to you if your skin is that thin though

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hiblueblue · 30/04/2018 16:06

wouldn’t have given it a second thought let alone start a thread about it.

SIGH. News flash people are different. What would upset and offend you might shockingly not have the same reaction for another human being. People are allowed to start threads on whatever they want to on a public forum.

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imweirdandcool · 30/04/2018 16:06

it's rude because we all know women are sensitive about age especially in your 20s you always think you're old that's why it's not a nice thing to say it's like saying to an older woman say 40 aren't you to old to have kids or something

BevBrook · 30/04/2018 16:08

Ah I see you say it is an "old song" so you she obviously didn't think you were around when the song was popular, but I assume she meant that in the 20-odd years you have been on Earth, she personally would have expected that you would have come across this song. She wasn't saying that you were old , she was just saying you aren't a teenager!

Thequeenisdeadboys · 30/04/2018 16:08

So..What was the song ?

Joanna57 · 30/04/2018 16:09

No definitely not rude at all.

Sat here wondering if there is ANYTHING that the 20-30 year olds don't get offended by these days.

They all obviously need wrapping up in cotton wool to protect them from normal life.

SIGH.

PatisserieDeBayeux · 30/04/2018 16:09

Maybe she meant that you're not that young that you wouldn't have heard it. Not really rude.

BevBrook · 30/04/2018 16:09

we all know women are sensitive about age

Bit sweeping! I'm not sensitive about age, and I am 43! I certainly wouldn't have worried about being thought older or younger than I was in my 20s, unless that judgement prevented me from buying alcohol.

Joanna57 · 30/04/2018 16:12

i'mweird

Nope.

Not all women are sensitive about their age at all. What a daft thing to say.

I know more men that are sensitive about their age than I do women.

Women in their 20's sensitive about their age? Seriously?

Ha ha ha ha ha.

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