I didn't like a 'tell-tale' when I was younger and I still don't

[LittleMonkeysWideAwake]

Those kids that tell on the teacher all the time, or tell you off in a high and mighty way. I didn't like them as a kid, and I don't like them as adults now!

This morning another parent at sons school told me off for my inappropriate parking. I was of course in the wrong! And said so, and apologised. But I'm fuming inside!!! I can't stand busy- bodies who go out of their way to tell me off!

Grrrrrr

Just a rant!

Are you one of those parents? (and we're you one of those kids?) and why do you do it?

Yes piglet. What did your pointing out do? They’d already done it? By error or otherwise, it’s done

The idea is to make them not do it again by them feeling ashamed and/or embarrassed to have been caught being an antisocial dick.

Oh goodness yes. Public shame! That’s such a good idea. Bet it makes you feel great too. Do you feel better the more upset and remorseful they are towards you? That makes you feel really important, I bet.

I am a coward so rarely call people out even when I think they really deserve it. CFs count on most people being like me. Fortunately there are people who will not stand for CFery under any circumstances. You encountered someone like this today.

Come on, OP, you knew what you were doing when you parked selfishly. Take your medicine.

Oh goodness yes. Public shame! That’s such a good idea. Bet it makes you feel great too. Do you feel better the more upset and remorseful they are towards you? That makes you feel really important, I bet.

You're coming across as an entitled fuckwit. You're not special, the rules apply to you too. If you can't bear people calling you out, then behave yourself.

In fairness to the OP, after initially defending her position robustly, she took the feedback of the majority on board with good grace. Which isn't always easy to do on AIBU.

sprinkles Double yellow lines, zigzags, dropped curbs - all there to make parking SAFER by not parking where children are going to be running, where people can't see round corners if you park there, and where your car won't be run into by someone who reasonably expects their drive to be free to get out of.

Don’t be daft Laurie. I’m simply agreeing with the OP that there are many interfering entitled busy bodies around who “call out” others to make themselves feel important. It’s no reflection on how I live my life or the rules I break. You seem to be indicating I go around getting called out all the time, simply for having this point of view. When in fact, this rarely affects my life, apart from when it does it’s annoying.

Crikey sprinkles you're doing yourself no favours at all. Slink off quietly and NC quick before you get a name for yourself.

Goodness well if you say so greatduck. So sorry for not doing as you say. I’ll go off to the loo and cry now and feel shit about myself all day if you like?

I’m simply agreeing with the OP that there are many interfering entitled busy bodies around who “call out” others to make themselves feel important

No. There are entitled idiots who think that the rules don't apply to them that get arsey when they're taken to task.

As I've said, the OP ultimately conceded the point that she WBU. However, she never once came across as aggressive and childish in her argument as you.

You're obviously ok about people making poor and sometimes dangerous decisions then Sprinkles and nobody ever pulling them up on it?

Shameful.

Really TawnyPort? My children have been going in hot tubs since they were 6 or 7.

I've never been told they're not allowed

It depends Duck. Abusing someone on the tube? I’m all over that. Witnessing someone hit someone else? I’m one of the few who does step in.

Telling someone off for parking incorrectly when it affects me not a jot? No way. It would make be feel like a total wanker and I’m embarrassed at the thought.

But good to know it’s shameful- do I need to detail how remorseful I am to make you feel good or will you just take my word for it?

I hate careless parkers too. So thoughtless on a busy road.

Parking incorrectly at a school is potentially putting children at risk Sprinkles, so if you're fine with that then go ahead and say nothing.

I'd hazard a guess that you park selfishly near school here because for the life of me I cannot think of any other reason why you're defending such twattery.

DH is very sensitive about the kids telling tales on one another (not that it happens often) because he feels his brother was always telling on him, but I always feel he overreacts a bit.

Yes there are people who take pleasure in telling others what they already know or are perfectly well aware of.

BUT most people can't read that invisible tattoo you're obviously wearing on your forehead that says 'please don't tell me I parked badly/parked in an area that is reserved/have odd shoes on today because I already know and I don't care'. Most people tell you because they assume you weren't aware of the rules or didn't know you were doing something wrong. And if you weren't aware you'd done something wrong wouldn't you prefer a 'setting straight' to a fine?

Easiest way to stop people telling you off is not to do something you know is wrong. You know - the rule most of us teach our kids...

Echobelly this is not telling tales. The person spoke directly to the OP who parked somewhere she shouldn't have. It's not like he went running to the Headteacher is it?

I hear you OP. I'm a chronic rule breaker, which baffles me as I hate getting told off. 99% of the time we get away with it though so it's still worth it . I never tell anyone else off for there misdemeanours- but purely because I know I've usually done worse. I go through little phases of trying to return my trolley / park correctly etc. but always slink back to my selfish ways. However, if you've ever done something naughty and need someone to tell you it's all OK / life goes on .... I'm your woman.

No greatduck, I don’t park at schools at all. You’re getting somewhat carried away with your guesses about a total stranger

So you're just an argumentative little so and so then Sprinkes with nothing better to do than argue the toss about something you'd never do? Rightio.

Are you reading the thread? Your posts don’t make sense. You said you guess I park badly at school. I don’t park at school at all. My children aren’t at school this thread isn’t about people who park badly at school. It’s about busy bodies.