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I didn't like a 'tell-tale' when I was younger and I still don't

281 replies

LittleMonkeysWideAwake · 30/04/2018 09:08

Those kids that tell on the teacher all the time, or tell you off in a high and mighty way. I didn't like them as a kid, and I don't like them as adults now!

This morning another parent at sons school told me off for my inappropriate parking. I was of course in the wrong! And said so, and apologised. But I'm fuming inside!!! I can't stand busy- bodies who go out of their way to tell me off!

Grrrrrr

Just a rant!

Are you one of those parents? (and we're you one of those kids?) and why do you do it?

OP posts:
BarbarianMum · 30/04/2018 13:10

He was challenging the OPs "right" to park inconsiderately, not having her car towed. He's allowed to do that.

LaurieMarlow · 30/04/2018 13:12

Don’t tell me off I’m an adult now fuck off

So you should be able to do what the fuck you like? Hmm Em, no.

If you're in the wrong, I'll point that out to you. Because society depends on adults respecting sensible rules.

SoupDragon · 30/04/2018 13:13

How do you know soup dragon? It very much depends on the form doesn’t it?

Because anyone with an ounce of common sense can see that telling someone they have parked illegally is not bullying. Only an idiot would think it is bullying.

SoupDragon · 30/04/2018 13:14

“Calling out” a total stranger WHEN YOU HAVE NO AUTHORITY WHATSOEVER TO DO SO- why? Because it makes the caller- outer feel good. Because they think they’re able to enforce rules they have no authority to. Arrogance.

Doing whatever the fuck you like and expecting no one to call you out on it: total twattish arrogance.

TawnyPort · 30/04/2018 13:16

What authority do we need exactly? If you are parking for example in a way that is dangerous to everyone else, then as one of the people you are a danger to I have every authority to do tell you you're a tit for doing it.

PennyDreadfull · 30/04/2018 13:18

So how were you parked OP?

Sprinklesinmyelbow · 30/04/2018 13:19

Furano

“I got told off for a driving violation a few weeks ago. I was fuming all day. It wasn’t his place to police such things. Twat

Either you care that you drive like a twat, or you don't.

If you think you were in the right just say "yeah yeah yeah, fuck off" to whoever is trying to 'tell you off' and don't give it a second thought.

If you know you are in the wrong and don't like being 'naughty' then stop breaking rules”

What does this even mean? It’s a perfect example of arrogant twattery.

Why would I give it a second thought? He’s not the police. His telling off means precisely zero, except it made him feel good.

As for being “naughty” - wahhh. How cringy.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 30/04/2018 13:19

“Calling out” a total stranger WHEN YOU HAVE NO AUTHORITY WHATSOEVER TO DO SO- why? Because it makes the caller- outer feel good. Because they think they’re able to enforce rules they have no authority to. Arrogance.

Nothing to do with feeling good. If I see something that's putting my child or anyone else's child in danger I will point that behaviour out to the wrong doer.

Sprinklesinmyelbow · 30/04/2018 13:21

It’s non of his business barbarian. He’s only allowed to in the sense that we’re “allowed” to say pretty much whatever we want to each other.

Sprinklesinmyelbow · 30/04/2018 13:22

Why greatduck? Why are you pointing it out? So they do what you tell them. Why do you want them to do what you tell them? Ego.

TawnyPort · 30/04/2018 13:23

It’s non of his business barbarian

You driving like a twat is everyones business. Who do you think is at risk from it? Grow up and be thankful all you got was a telling off and not an accident or a police charge.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 30/04/2018 13:24

Because if they're parking dangerously I don't want my dc being out at risk. Not rocket science is it? Hmm

FrancisCrawford · 30/04/2018 13:26

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drspouse · 30/04/2018 13:26

I would rather live in a society where there were rules, and they were enforceable because both the general public and those in authority are willing to call people out on them, than in one where "who cares about the rules because I'm too important and nobody should tell me about them".

BlueThesaurusRex · 30/04/2018 13:26

OP- you parked somewhere that you shouldn’t have, obviously because it gave you some sort of ‘advantage’ when dropping off your LO but you think you should have a pass because you were having a bad day?

Did you consider that the woman who told you off was having a bad day and being able to park where you did would’ve made her day a bit easier? The only reason she didn’t was because she knew it was wrong.

That’s maybe why you got told off!

Deerdear · 30/04/2018 13:28

Perhaps I triggered something for him by my parking, and he too felt better for having had a go!

You triggered a perfectly reasonable annoyance at your twattish parking.

LucilleBluth · 30/04/2018 13:34

I agree with you to an extent op. Some people are just busy body bastards. We have a family membership to a health club....DD is 8 and is allowed in the hot tub, Ive had at least three people tell me she's not old enough, I'm her fecking mother, piss off.

And I do not agree with teaching kids to tell tales for misdemeanours, my friends daughter is awful for this and as a consequence has no friends.

Furano · 30/04/2018 13:37

@Sprinklesinmyelbow except you said you were "fuming all day". so clearly you did think about it. All day actually.

Astrabees · 30/04/2018 13:37

And I don't like self entitled arrogant individuals who think they have a right to park wherever they want. I wouldn't just have told you I'd have photographed your car and reported you to the school too.

Mummyoflittledragon · 30/04/2018 13:39

In my village able bodied parents park in the disabled bays every fucking day to drop off and pick up. It really pisses me off. I’ve finally decided to apply for a badge and hopefully will have one soon. Even though I’m not able bodied, I still don’t park in them. Idk how I’m going to play it when I get my badge.

TawnyPort · 30/04/2018 13:44

We have a family membership to a health club....DD is 8 and is allowed in the hot tub, Ive had at least three people tell me she's not old enough, I'm her fecking mother, piss off

Being her fecking mother doesn't mean you are doing what is best. Lots of fecking mothers don't.

And I've never heard of anywhere that lets under 16s in a hot tub.

PigletJohn · 30/04/2018 13:46

I once pointed out to someone that they'd driven through a red light.

Interfering busybody?

KeneftYakimoski · 30/04/2018 13:47

I can see people at school struggling. If someone does something wrong - surely it's because they r having a bad day, stressed, running late, etc etc

No, most people who park badly do so because they are selfish and believe themselves to be more important. You know those assholes who park their Range Rovers in the parent and child spaces when they're on their own? They it because they're assholes, not because they are "having a bad day". They are more important that the rest of us, as evidenced by their ability to buy a Range Rover.

AndromedaPerseus · 30/04/2018 13:47

We have come to sad state of affairs in this country where a sizeable number of people feel normal social rules and laws don’t apply to them. They then come on a public forum to bitch about being called out on their bad behaviour because they are so entitled/delusion. They then get snippy because it’s pointed out to them again they are in the wrong. I suspect OP was bought up in a time when no one dared tell her off apart from her parents.

Sprinklesinmyelbow · 30/04/2018 13:50

Yes piglet. What did your pointing out do? They’d already done it? By error or otherwise, it’s done.

Tawney- wind your neck in. You have no idea what it was even about so your posts are slightly dramatic.

GreatDuck- the OP hasn’t said that she was parked ina. Way that was a danger to anyone (in fact she’s specified it was not) so what’s all this “danger to my children” drama?