To tell her I like her? (I’m straight)

[Malibuandpineapple32]

So I’m in my 30s and always had relationships with men,never found a woman attractive.
A year or so I was introduced to a woman through a mutual friend.
I started to enjoy being around her,loved when my friend said she was joining us on a night out.
I think we flirted.
Anyway I think I like her,what do I do?
Say anything?
She knows I’m straight but I kind of like her.

I wouldn’t tell her because you don’t seem sure if you like her. Maybe just spend more time together? Doesn’t matter what sex somebody is, seems weird to tell somebody you like them if you aren’t sure

No, just be pleasant company. People are well aware of whether they are liked or not. You sound confused about liking and flirting

Is she also straight? Because that's the issue I'd be focusing on if it was me, as I wouldn't want to risk losing a friend or making things awkward. If she's not straight, then go for it IF you feel that you want it to go further. Good luck 💐

It’s strange I keep looking at her pics on Facebook and I get on with her.
She’s fun,and I do find her attractive.
I am straight tho and never ever found a woman attractive.
Do you think maybe it’s just me liking her as a friend?

No she’s gay.

How are you straight if you're thinking of telling a woman you like her? Embrace the flow of sexuality and have fun :)

Enjoy flirting - friendship is a form of attraction

obviously you aren't straight first thing first admit this to your self. straight people have no interest in same sex

The thing that’s confusing for me is I don’t think I could sleep with her...I don’t even know what I mean in my head.
Maybe I just like her as a friend or not.
Really not sure.

Don't tell her you like her if you're not sure. This kind of thing is really common, but it can be really hurtful if you give her mixed messages. If you liked a man but didn't want to have sex with him how would you behave? Do the same.

I think this is more of a crush on your part than a real sense of attraction. Years ago I had crush on an acquaintance; it was fun and flattering when she flirted back but that was it. Just relax and try not to read more into your feelings than you need to.

It sounds like infatuation. Do you think of her in a sexual way?

Maybe you're just curious. Personally, I wouldn't say anything, but she will have noticed for sure. What will be, will be.

A bit harsh @AjasLipstick ...we're not in the 50's....if she's curious and wants to explore,that's her choice. I wouldn't say anything yet op,carry on enjoying each other's company, it will flow naturally if something is to happen . As in ye might find each other in a situation where ye could have a cheeky kiss,and that should give you a fair indication of how you feel. It's only a kiss,highly doubt it would jeopardise your friendship,and if ye both enjoy it....bonus

Is anyone total straight or gay though?.

Maybe you admire her. If she’s attractive and interesting and fun and you love being in her company and learning more about her, then that’s admiration. Sexual attraction is about wanting to touch and taste and smell and have that done to you in return.

Bexter Oh yes....she's "curious" so can toy with the emotions of lesbians. I don't think so.

She said herself "I couldn't sleep with her" so she's just pissing about and having a little thrill.

As long as neither of you are in a relationship with anyone else, then just go with the flow. Don't label yourself as straight. Alternatively, if things develop romantically and sexually between the two of you, don't label yourself as gay. Just enjoy what life brings you.

Is that really the definition of a "lipstick lesbian"? I've been using the term wrongly for years then

Tinkly not really it's not...it's usually used to define a femme type lesbian but I know a number of lesbians who use it as a slightly derogatory term for the type of women who have a bit of a showy off snog on the dance floor...for attention...not because they're lesbians.

@AjasLipstick

Lesbians call women like you lipstick lesbians.

You're not gay so don't fuck around with someone just because you're curious and bored.

Oh get a grip!

Anyway, do you actually have a clue what a 'lipstick lesbian' is?!

A lipstick lesbian is not a woman who is attracted to another woman but doesn't want to have sex with her. It's simply a lesbian who likes glamour and girly stuff.

At least get your terminology correct if you're going to berate the OP!

The OP is doing nothing wrong; she is just curious, and although primarily straight, is slightly attracted to another female. Happens to lots of people, so quit trying to make her feel shit for not being 'enough of a lesbian!'

Don't know if you are a lesbian or not (and I don't care, ) but you don't get to make up the rules and tell people who they should behave.

if she's curious and wants to explore,that's her choice.

Providing she tells the other woman that all she's doing is fucking around then sure, do whatever you want but women who lead actual lesbians on for entertainment without being open about what they want are arseholes.

I thought lipstick lesbian was a lesbian that didn’t look stereotypically gay?

Whatever. I wouldn’t say anything. I agree you’re just curious about it and you’ll ruin your friendship if you have no intention of doing anything about your supposed attraction.