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Wibu to ask my neighbour to not use washing machine after 8pm?

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hooochycoo · 29/04/2018 11:27

Our neighbours’s Washing machine is right above our son’s soon to be new Bedroom. He goes to bed about 8. The washing machine makes the whole room vibrate. Would it be unreasonable to ask the neighbours to try and not use it after 8pm?

OP posts:

RandomAccess · 29/04/2018 11:28

Yes, maybe try asking them if they could try to dampen the vibration?

HunterHearstHelmsley · 29/04/2018 11:30

Yes. Could you swap his bedroom?

AnnieOH1 · 29/04/2018 11:31

I can understand your side but equally what if your neighbour doesn't finish work (or whatever else in life) until that time? Do they often use their machine late?

HappyMinion · 29/04/2018 11:31

Yes, YWBU. You can try as RandomAccess said, but they have the right to use their flat as they wish and you would be completely unreasonable to complain about noise before 10pm.

Psychobabble123 · 29/04/2018 11:34

just swap rooms with your son!
Not a chance could you ask them not to use the washing machine!!

CombineBananaFister · 29/04/2018 11:34

I think YABU am afraid, we live in an apartment and you sort of expect it as annoying as it is. Plus 8pm is not so late, be more of a problem if it was 10pm or later. Second politely asking if they put something under the washer to help with the vibration. I know how you feel though, our neighbours sounds like a bloody aeroplane when it's on spin cycle but that's not her fault, more the dodgy new builds wall/floor thinness

Pringlecat · 29/04/2018 11:35

Yes, it would be unreasonable. Depending on where/when they work, you might as well be saying to them 'never do any washing during the week unless you take annual leave.'

The bigger question is why is there a washing machine above a bedroom? Seems like an odd layout - either they've moved their kitchen around or you've created a bedroom where there shouldn't be one.

Can you swap bedrooms with your son?

liminality · 29/04/2018 11:38

You can ask. Can't do any harm

bringbacksideburns · 29/04/2018 11:39

Yes! Bloody hell.

ThePinkOcelot · 29/04/2018 11:39

Definitely unreasonable. 8pm is not late and it’s not their fault your son goes to bed at 8.

TenancyTroublesAgain · 29/04/2018 11:42

I'll go against the majority and say YANBU after being the one who lived below a room-vibrating washing machine that went on for 3 hour loads. I now have a pure hatred of washing machine vibration.

Maybe buy them an anti vibration mat to use or suggest a timer plug. But they do have the right to say no.

Tessliketrees · 29/04/2018 11:42

Of course it's not unreasonable to ask. It would be unreasonable to expect them to.

If I was your neighbour and you asked me with your explanation I would certainly try to.

It may just not be possible though depending on their schedule. I would ask them very sensitively so not to cause issues if they can't do it for whatever reason.

dancinfeet · 29/04/2018 11:43

I agree with Pringlecat - why is there a bedroom under a kitchen / utility room? Flats / apartments can be tricky.

I work afternoons and evenings and get home between 9pm - 9.30pm. The last think I normally do before I go to bed is chuck a wash load on, and I hang it out the next morning and bring it in at lunchtime before I go to work, because this is what works best for me and my family. It may not be convenient for your neighbour to do their washing at times that you dictate.

StrugglingMumma · 29/04/2018 11:43

Of course your being unreasonable! Switch rooms if it bothers you this much.

Besides, white noise is good for babies

jammiebammie · 29/04/2018 11:44

Unreasonable I’m afraid, I can understand it would be annoying but there’s really not much you can do. Presumably the washing machine was there long before you decided to make the room below your sons bedroom?
You could ask them to put something underneath to dampen the sound but they don’t have to do that either.
I regularly put my washing machine/tumble dryer on late at night, it’s the time that works best for me.

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hooochycoo · 29/04/2018 11:44

No alternative room sadly.

Would it be unreasonable to even ask them to try?

I think if I knew that my washing machine woke up a little bit after 8 I wouldn’t mind being aware and trying?

Anything practical that springs to mind?

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RandomAccess · 29/04/2018 11:47

I think if I knew that my washing machine woke up a little bit after 8 I wouldn’t mind being aware and trying?

Not everything revolves around your child, I personally think YABU for even hoping they'd 'try'.

Tessliketrees · 29/04/2018 11:50

Would it be unreasonable to even ask them to try?

No.

Just ask nicely. Despite the reactions on this thread I believe that the vast majority of people are nice and will be nice if offered the chance.

If they can't they can't. Just make sure you handle it well.

How would you react if your neighbour asked you something similar?

Iceweasel · 29/04/2018 11:50

Can you sleep in that bedroom or is it only a single room? Or is it a one bedroom flat? I would swap if possible.

TomRavenscroft · 29/04/2018 11:50

The bigger question is why is there a washing machine above a bedroom? Seems like an odd layout - either they've moved their kitchen around or you've created a bedroom where there shouldn't be one.

Not necessarily. Some flat buildings, especially those made from older houses, have different layouts on different floors.

I think it's a bit entitled if you expect them to fit round your son's bedtime, TBH. 8pm is not at all an anti-social time to do a wash. BUT, I'd probably try asking politely if they could try using some kind of anti-vibration measure.

Deerdear · 29/04/2018 11:51

I think if I knew that my washing machine woke up a little bit after 8 I wouldn’t mind being aware and trying?

This is a little entitled TBH.
It wouldn’t BU to ask but you would BU to resent them if they say no. It’s not a matter of being “aware” as you put it, it’s part of living in a shared environment and unfortunately for you, they have the right to do the washing at 8pm.

Tessliketrees · 29/04/2018 11:51

Not everything revolves around your child

She isn't saying it does.

Why is everybody being such a complete arsehole in this thread?

I don't understand why anybody asks for advice here.

user1483387154 · 29/04/2018 11:51

Yabu. After 10pm possibly but 8 is too ealy

ShaniaTwainAndTheRubyKitKat · 29/04/2018 11:51

My kitchen is above the bedroom downstairs so I understand the layout situation OP!

It’s currently vacant downstairs so I don’t think about it so much at the moment but when there was someone in there I probsbly put a wash on latest 7/8pm on weekdays, possibly later if it was the Saturday and I had forgotten to wash something needed for Monday or something.

I would ask; if you were my neighbour I would probably try and accommodate but I’m a SAHM so I can do washing in the day if the mood takes me

Definitely ask in person, if you’re polite and friendly I doubt they will be offended by you!

harriethoyle · 29/04/2018 11:53

YABU. I frequently don't get home before 8pm. If I couldn't do a wash then I would be stinky by the end of the week!!

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