Wibu to ask my neighbour to not use washing machine after 8pm?

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Our neighbours’s Washing machine is right above our son’s soon to be new Bedroom. He goes to bed about 8. The washing machine makes the whole room vibrate. Would it be unreasonable to ask the neighbours to try and not use it after 8pm?

I think I would try my own solution(s) before approaching the neighbours. I would swap bedrooms with him if it was me I think. Is this noise happening a lot?

It's difficult living in flats sometimes but neighbour noise is to be expected on occasion.

Approaching the neighbour is a last resort I think.

Local Auth noise people set 6pm as he close down time

Yabu

If you asked me to do this i would laugh

Perfectly fine to ask them. They shouldn't feel offended if you ask nicely in person. But don't expect them to to say yes, if it's inconvenient for them. It would be better to ask them to dampen down the vibration (and noise) as much as possible.

Would it be unreasonable to even ask them to try?

I'd think that was very fucking cheeky if someone asked me that.

You chose to have a baby in a flat, would you think they were unreasonable if they asked you to keep your baby silent after 8pm?

Remember, it's swings and roundabouts in flats.

What do you mean there's no alternative room? Are you saying you don't have a room then? If that's the case, where do you sleep?

YANBU, I don't see any harm in asking. It may well be that there is no other time they can do their washing, in which case you will have to put up with it, but it may be that they have no idea how it is affecting you, and can easily do their washing other times. I'd hate to think I was disturbing someone else like that, and wouldn't mind being asked to change.

I don't know, if you were my neighbor I would try my best not too. And wouldn't mind you asking.
But like PPs have said I put my washing in last thing at night to hang out in the morning

The trouble with asking your neighbor to be “aware” not to use the washing machine after 8pm is that even if they say they will try, and by and large do, what happens if they really need to? Say, for example, one of their DC’s uniforms needs washing for school the next morning and it’s 8.30pm? Does your dc’s needs trump theirs? And what if they did then use the machine? Would you complain?

It’s a slippery slope and personally if I was your neighbour I wouldn’t want to go there. There are rules about noise in place by law for a good reason.

get him some foam earplugs from boots work a treat issue solved

ywbu to ask them not to use it in eves

I think most people would be a bit annoyed by a washing machine making the flat vibrate at 8pm tbh, but this is mumsnet and people can do what the fuck they like as long as it’s before 10pm of course 🙄

When living in a flat I do think people need to be aware of neighbours and if you’ve got a washing machine that vibrates so much they can feel it in the flat underneath, then yes I think 8pm is unacceptable.

OP just have a polite conversation with them about it and you could offer to let them come and hear how much noise it makes so they are aware as they may not be

No I don’t think YABU to ask the person probably has no idea it’s causing an issue. Maybe you could strike up a conversation first to see what type of person they are and then judge from that.

How old is the child? Is it a new baby coming or an older child?

You can ask but I'd feel really awkward if you asked me. I'd feel so bad if I needed to use it after 8 that I would try my best not to even if it screwed me over a bit and then I'd get resentful. I would be worried you'd be constantly ready to come round and moan at me if it did use it. Unless it's insanely loud I would just deal with it. This is part and parcel of living close to others IMO.

I used to live in an upstairs flat and wouldn't put my washer on st unsociable hours and the people downstairs were young partiers not even a family.

But, I think 8pm is a bit much! I left for work at 5.30am and didn't get back until 7.30. I'd not do anything after 9 but expecting silence from 8 is taking the piss a little.

Does the noise prevent the child from going to sleep or wake him up?

We had a similar situation but the noise never actually disturbed DD luckily. Perhaps approach and see if they can dampen the sound if possible. If it prevents DC from going to sleep but doesn't wake him up, maybe see if they can wait until later to put the machine on.

Aye, freaky layout indeed.

Can’t swap unfortunately, tis just a tiny room.

Ofcourse it’d just be a polite «please could you just try if possible» and «would you mind if we bought an anti vibration mat»

Although I don’t hold out much hope now as the lady upstairs isn’t massively friendly. No specific issues, but one thing that sticks in my mind is that when she moved in , just before Halloween, she came down and knocked the door to say not to bring the children round the door on Halloween to disturb her . Out of nowhere. She was polite, but it just felt like quite a big boundary laying down. The only other time we’ve heard from her was when my husband was putting up a painting in the living room one evening, about 8 ironically and she came down to campaign about the hammering. So we apologised and have never done it again.

I think she might work shifts? Might be a nurse? She often is up and awake and 5 am because I hear her walking around.

I’ll offend her if i even ask won’t i?

Well you could ask. But I think it’s unreasonable of you. They might not be in from work until 7 say, if they commute. When are they supposed to do their washing?

Doesn't every washing machine in operation these days have a delay function so it can run during the day and be ready to be hung when they get in at 8? obviously there will be exceptions but there's no reason on earth to have regular nighttime use of a machine

When they ask you to stop your child making noise at certain times, I’m sure you’ll accommodate that too

Not at all unreasonable to mention it to the neighbour - they probably don't realise how much it affect your flat - you could try asking them to come down and listen whilst the spin is on. Might be worth presenting them with one of these

I don't think it would be unreasonable to ask. They might say no, but they equally might be happy to help. I think it's a bit inconsiderate to use a machine in a flat after 8pm - when I was in a flat I always tried to avoid it because of the vibration. However they might have reasons why they're only able to use it later in the evening so they might not be able to accomodate you.

Thanks everyone, appreciate everyone’s opinions. Very useful to gage this before annoying neighbours.

I also think that as she has already spoken to you about noise and your kids, and you have accomodated her, she won't have any problem with you asking a favour in return. Unless she's properly mental she won't be offended by you asking politely!

I can see it from both sides as I had two kids whilst living in a flat , but I was also a nurse and worked un social hours and so had to do my washing at odd times etc also not everyone works 9_5 and I had to try and sleep during the day when on nights.